Black men = No commitment?

[Prince Akeem]

 

[Anothergirl]

True... although I think the negative perception of black men takes precedence to the positive stereotypes a Nigerian may have. Plus the Nigerian scammer stereotype is killing me inside

yep my sister (who's recently divorced) has been dating a Kenyan dude for about 6 months and he's already tryna wife her and lock it down. our whole family is already in love with this dude and wants her to remarry she's like

every african dude i know is married and holding it down for his family. then again that could just be my circle...

 

[Un-AmericanDreamer]

So we just gonna ignore sierra mist's post that basically came through and crushed the discussion buildings? I'll add my two cents, I think men across the board are losing interest in traditional marriage because the potential costs outweighs any benefits. You also have women disproportionally initiating 70% divorces which tells me that most women ain't built for the long haul. No fault divorces have made marriage a frivol institution.

So why any man would subject placing himself into a situation to get taken to the cleaners is beyond me. It's all ready established that when they do, women marry up. Men marry for obligation, women marry for security. Black men are the canary in the coal mine, the rest will follow our lead. The marriage system is broken beyond repair.

 

[Just like bruddas]

Most of the good women i know dont fukk with the club or look for dudes like that, they go out sometimes and are too busy working. Pretty much home bodies. Seems Dudes biggest problem are getting hood rats mixed up with good women.

 

[PikaDaDon]

Why do Black men not believe in commitment? Why do you guys not want to get married and commit to one woman for the rest of your lives? I hear Black men everyday saying, 'I don't want to get married...I just want a girlfriend or some jumpoffs and I'm good.' Which brings me to my next point... why do you guys also firmly believe in having a wife and a mistress as it is evident in rap songs. Why? Because of this, I hear women of other ethnicities say that they're not into Black men because you guys don't believe in commitment.

To conclude, let me quickly rephrase my question - What is it about marriage that is such a turn off for you guys? Please let me understand this.

Most black men were raised in single mother households so they didn't have a proper father figure to teach them common sense and prepare them for adulthood. Notice how many black men tend to be immature (even when they grow into their 20's and 30's). Their immaturity is the reason why they shy away from responsibility (i.e.: commitment, raising a child, paying the bills, paying their half on a date...or paying at all, getting a job, etc.)

 

[acri1]

Unless you have/want kids, there's not much benefit for men.

Not only do you have to pay out of your ass for a ring, wedding, and honeymoon, but you're basically just giving a woman license to divorce you (women initiate 70% of divorces) and take half your shyt (or more) if and whenever she feels like it.

Women on the other hand fantasize and dream about getting married throughout their lives and tend to start getting depressed if they're not married by 30.

 

[Sierra Mist]

So we just gonna ignore sierra mist's post that basically came through and crushed the discussion buildings? I'll add my two cents, I think men across the board are losing interest in traditional marriage because the potential costs outweighs any benefits. You also have women disproportionally initiating 70% divorces which tells me that most women ain't built for the long haul. No fault divorces have made marriage a frivol institution.

So why any man would subject placing himself into a situation to get taken to the cleaners is beyond me. It's all ready established that when they do, women marry up. Men marry for obligation, women marry for security. Black men are the canary in the coal mine, the rest will follow our lead. The marriage system is broken beyond repair.

People don't read my posts. They just harass me. Too bad.

 

[Un-AmericanDreamer]

Unless you have/want kids, there's not much benefit for men.

Not only do you have to pay out of your ass for a ring, wedding, and honeymoon, but you're basically just giving a woman license to divorce you (women initiate 70% of divorces) and take half your shyt (or more) if and whenever she feels like it.

Women on the other hand fantasize and dream about getting married throughout their lives and tend to start getting depressed if they're not married by 30.

A lot of dudes back in the day got married because they were pressured into it , I imagine a lot of those guys lived quiet lives of desperation, don't let society pressure you. People need to stop glorifying marriage as the end all be all.

 

[Ashley Banks]

Most men would change their minds for the right woman. I've seen it happen.

 

[TheBigBopper]

Because if you don't want kids, marriage makes no sense.

 

[TheBigBopper]

Most black men were raised in single mother households so they didn't have a proper father figure to treat them common sense things and prepare them for adulthood. Notice how alot of black men tend to be immature (even when they grow into their 20's and 30's). Their immaturity is the reason why they shy away from responsibility (i.e.: commitment, raising a child, paying the bills, paying their half on a date...or paying at all, getting a job, etc.)

What if you don't want kids at all?

 

[Kilgore Trout]

Most black men were raised in single mother households so they didn't have a proper father figure to treat them common sense things and prepare them for adulthood. Notice how alot of black men tend to be immature (even when they grow into their 20's and 30's). Their immaturity is the reason why they shy away from responsibility (i.e.: commitment, raising a child, paying the bills, paying their half on a date...or paying at all, getting a job, etc.)

lol @ Anotherc00n dapping this.

As for the bolded this doesn't only apply to black men you dumb CAC.

 

[MostReal]

@Hiphopfan456 oh ok..



you're african tho. the stereotypes don't apply to y'all whatsoever imo.

man shut the fukk up, get yo cac loving ass outta here with this shyt.

I'm American, work around women constantly, been with my woman 10 years, married 5 and I ain't never cheated.

Tired of yall disrespecting black men like this. Quit dating the wrong men & expecting to change dude.

yep I did step into this thread

 

[Ohene]

yep my sister (who's recently divorced) has been dating a Kenyan dude for about 6 months and he's already tryna wife her and lock it down. our whole family is already in love with this dude and wants her to remarry she's like

every african dude i know is married and holding it down for his family. then again that could just be my circle...

ghanaian and ill tell you the shyt goes deeper. its too late and im too lazy to explain how alot of it really is but its all smoke and mirrors. ill say that much

 

[Ezigbo Nwanyi]

Any black man I dated that came from a single parent household were the ones with commitment problems. Any one I dated with both parents dont be on that tom foolery