3) ...don't all people have enough commitments thrust upon them from Jump Street? They already have enough people/things that they are "indebted" to. Why break your back to find new promises to keep?
lol at the 2parter of Martin where Gina forced Martin to marry her being on MTV2 tonight. But I love how black men are solely at fault for not wanting to marry due to being raised in single parent households. As if the black women raised in those same conditions know 1) how to be wives, and 2) when to shut the fukk up.
Same here. I'm 30 and never cheated on my past GFs and I actually believe in commitment. If I feel the relationship ain't working, I'll drop a chic before I cheat on her. I just wild out when I 'm single.
Any black man I dated that came from a single parent household were the ones with commitment problems. Any one I dated with both parents dont be on that tom foolery
Real talk, a Black Man is the most committed mawfucca of all time. A brotha is conditioned to be:
- committed to his family members, even if they ain't chit.
- committed to his 'hood, even if it's a cesspool.
- committed to his friends, even if they're draggin' him down.
- committed to his grind, even if they results ain't what he'd prefer.
- committed to his country, even if it isn't to him.
- committed to black women. Don't get is twitsted because of what you see on this site. A nicca will fucc Becky, Rosa, Inga or...(chit, what's an asian name?)...Mulan, but 7/10 he will be looking for a sista to make home with first...and some won't even look them other girls' direction for more than 3 seconds.
A Black Man gets commitments handed to him from his youth up - I can't judge any of 'em for not wanting to take on any more...
There are actually a lot of decent points about how society is kind of pushing commitment to the backburner & the lack of appeal in marriage for a man of color.
Actually kind of dope to see Sierra Mist in a thread making positive points without getting derailed by attacks. Feels like I've been seeing the "Who are you again? ...who are you?" thing for a week straight.
It really is just that simple. However, on the subject of single parenting...for as many people making it all about the negatives and jumping to the conclusion that it makes men lack commitment, you're neglecting a few of the positives. More men are just as independent now and have learned to care for themselves without witnessing another man depend on a woman.
People always seem to have one negative idea about single-parent homes. Not every single parent household contains a mtoher that can't support her ratchet kids preaching about how men aren't shyt. Some single mothers were hard-working women that taught her sons to pick up the slack in the house, and thus there are more men that are independent and focused on improving themselves because they've seen how hard it was for their mothers to provide. No different than a kid whose father was in the military, I'd suppose. It's not every single-parent home but these exist.
More men learn to cook for themselves b/c mother was out working and we had to eat . More men learn to clean up after themselves because mother was tired. While women are out looking for ballers to provide for them, there are genuinely good single dudes living the bachelor life and doing things that don't require a wife...b/c they've had to help manage the role & they can do it for themselves.
The question isn't simply why don't men of color want to commit. It's what are women bringing to the table that a man absolutely needs to commit to?
There aren't many women that want to complement a man's kingdom in a relationship as much as they want to force their own agenda and "run" him or change him. The thought of losing everything we've worked for on our own has us like :yikesvince:
It just seems like the culture is on two different wave-lengths because both sides want to be in charge and no one wants to let up.
No one wants to submit and collaborate as a unit anymore.
I'm sure if the penalties weren't so stiff, more guys would be welcome to settling down & trying it out...but being single seems to work out just fine. You can still get steady sex, children, & companionship in a relationship without the ring so why sweat it, you know?
...and yes, I used the Kanye smiley on purpose at the end.
A lot of men just don't feel like putting up with some of the attitudes women have. Just watch that show Bridezilla. For women it's entertaing, but when I watch it I see on just about every episode the bride is emasculating the male either physically, verbally, or mentally. Now if these women are doing this type of behavior in public, its more than likely they exhibit the same behavior before the engagement. Some men may think this behavior will change once their married, but those who don't stay are seen as commitment phobes.
Why do Black men not believe in commitment? Why do you guys not want to get married and commit to one woman for the rest of your lives? I hear Black men everyday saying, 'I don't want to get married...I just want a girlfriend or some jumpoffs and I'm good.' Which brings me to my next point... why do you guys also firmly believe in having a wife and a mistress as it is evident in rap songs. Why? Because of this, I hear women of other ethnicities say that they're not into Black men because you guys don't believe in commitment.
To conclude, let me quickly rephrase my question - What is it about marriage that is such a turn off for you guys? Please let me understand this.
It's really simple. Marriage is a part of patriarchy. The American black community is a pseudo-matriarchy. The purpose of marriage is passing down legacies and generational wealth. Most blacks don't have those things. Basically there is no benefit for black men to get married like there are for other communities. What legacies are being passed down? What generational wealth is passing down? What networks are there to join? The women are being raised to be strong and independent women who don't need a man. The men are being raised to believe that they should have responsibility and accountability devoid of leadership. The "role" reversal plays a huge part in why marriage rates are so low.
Ultimately it's just the culture. Being a promiscuous man is viewed as a positive. Most men aren't trying to go to the moon and a lot of women don't even require men to go to the corner. Men do what they do because there is a patriarchal reward attached to it. In a community that is not intact there is no patriarchal reward, especially when that community is a pseudo-matriarchy. Men won't have the motivation to get married.
Why do Black men not believe in commitment? Why do you guys not want to get married and commit to one woman for the rest of your lives? I hear Black men everyday saying, 'I don't want to get married...I just want a girlfriend or some jumpoffs and I'm good.' Which brings me to my next point... why do you guys also firmly believe in having a wife and a mistress as it is evident in rap songs. Why? Because of this, I hear women of other ethnicities say that they're not into Black men because you guys don't believe in commitment.
To conclude, let me quickly rephrase my question - What is it about marriage that is such a turn off for you guys? Please let me understand this.
because life is short, and i'm not spending the rest of my good years with one woman. that is why. don't like it? fukk off and find someone that's willing to settle down with you. i'm out here winning, fukking as many bytches as i can.
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