Yeah, that's exactly how I feel. I'm also afraid of how I may come across to others in addition of being hurt. Closing myself off is where I feel like I'm in my comfort zone.
Black people and Mental health.
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@SmoothOperator88 @brownsugah welcome to the thread. Are either of you seeing a professional? (A black one I hope, trust me it makes a difference)
Thank you.
I’m seeing a white female therapist but she’s nice and a Christian like myself. I was looking for a black therapist but the one closest to me did not accept Aetna, my health care provider.
SmoothOperator88
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I am and she's black.
Ah ok. I feel you. If she works for you then that's what matters. Your trust issues Stem from Bullying correct? Not gonna ask you to share because That's personal. What do you feel builds trust with you? What characteristics draw you to people.Thank you.
Fantastic same here, Black women have a real good grasp of empathy.
Bullying has a lot to do with it, and also the fact that I feel like people have let me down in the past too. The word “friend” isn’t a word I don’t use loosely anymore.
A real friend is someone who loves and respects me for me. Someone who has my back and genuinely has my best interest at heart. Someone I can come to about anything. I also feel like actions speak louder than words in that doing means a lot more than just saying/writing it. I would say those things build trust with me.
Why do you feel they let you down? I mean what is it about their character that does. Also you sound a lot like my GF. She has been through this kind of thing. I wanted to ask, do you get along with other women well?
I feel like I’ve been more caring towards them then they have been to me, and I feel like I tend to put more into other people than they they do to me. I’ve gotten to the point of where I have kinda become a little more reserved in that aspect. I think that I tend to try a bit too hard to be liked and accepted by others as a result of the things I’ve dealt with in life.
I get along with women but I can’t say that I have any close friends outside of family. I’m also very shy which is something I’m trying to get out of.
What makes you want to be likrd so much?
I guess because I felt like I was judged a bit growing up and I felt so different from most people which also took a toll on my confidence. I’m actually better now than I was before.. but the self doubt is still there..caring too much about what others think.
I see . Would you be okay with mentioning what others felt made you different (clearly if they bullied you it was because something about you either scared them or made them realize how unimportant they were.)
Nah they weren’t scared of me. There wasn’t anything to be scared of. I know that I have lived a privileged life. I think that could have possibly been the reason.
Fear isn't rational so don't count that out. Did you lord your privilage over others?