Black people need more patriarchy not less

[Thethirdpew]

sounds like ciara dealt with the consequences of making bad decisions...
decided to make a change in her behavior...
and found a guy who matched with her and they have a nice cohesive black family to raise kids in....

I really dont see what the issue is...

Do you think this relationship is keeping Russel from being successful/happy?
What is Russel doing wrong and how is it affecting him?
What are the issues you see that will cause their relationship to fail?

Thats your problem my guy. You don't seem to get that most men aren't willing to raise someone else's kids. This is common across all societies on this planet. There's a reason why its like that. Ciara got lucky.

 

[Thethirdpew]

explain what this "accountability" would look like?

Accountability would be making a mistake in the men you choose early on and NOT expecting to get saved later in life. You have a lot of single moms nowadays shaming men into becoming step dads when they wouldnt have even given the same men the time of day when they were younger.
They gonna take that L and raise those kids alone but they need to teach their kids to not make the same mistake they did.

 

[born of fire]

Female "bay area" . I got a question. Why are all the gyms closed up here? Yes I realize that we in a pandemic but when I was in san siego they at least had outdoor gyms setup. I'm sitting here in cupertino trying to find the spots where people got outdoors gyms setup. Mind helping put a breh . I honestly can't do this no working put shyt no more .

i wish i could help lol i’m not near cupertino

 

[Savvir]

Thats your problem my guy. You don't seem to get that most men aren't willing to raise someone else's kids. This is common across all societies on this planet. There's a reason why its like that. Ciara got lucky.

But... What's wrong with Ciara getting lucky?

Michael Jordan got lucky he was with the family he was with. Met the coaches he did. Was drafted when he was. Met tinker Hatfield when he did. Etc etc.

why can't Ciara be an inspiration to chicks who have made bad decisions that they could clean their act up and make a family for themselves. ?

What's so "disgusting" to you nikkas about a woman's "luck"

 

[Ya?]

I and most black folk are well aware of this but this is due to not having a present/involved father which is in turn due to women chooding shytty men to get pregnant by. Meanwhile women like Angela Simmons are regular occurrences, coming from stable 2 parent homes and goimg full tard. That's why I say women are more impressionable. That doesn't mean men aren't susceptible it just means women are moreso

they are not more impressionable, there are plenty of boys in two parent household who are screw ups and the daughters are the saving grace of families, point is being impressionable is dependent on the individual not the gender.

and funny you should use simmons household, given that he has 4 kids, 2 boys and 2 girls. 1 boy and 1 girl turned out to be a complete failure.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Fathers are overrated. I grew up in a single parent home on the same 60 acres as 4 of my first cousins with 2 parent homes yet all them MFs in jail for Attempted Murder for shooting at people

There are exceptions to every rule

Everyone I know who didn't have a father in their life is worse off

 

[Nar-el]

Mentor the young people. Best thing that can be done. All it cost is a little bit of time. Older folks tend to be too stubborn and can’t admit they screwed up.

Being an example isn’t enough. You have to specifically explain to these kids why being a baby mama /baby daddy is a bad idea and who to date vs stay away from. You’ll be surprised how many of them will at basic things because the parents don’t tell them shyt, leaving them to the wolves

I’m progressive in my politics but this shyt gots to go.

 

[TELL ME YA CHEESIN FAM?]

These are all easily accessible online. You raised by a single mother breh .
Here you go, since you lazy asf https://www.fixfamilycourts.com/single-mother-home-statistics#:~:text=70% of runaways, 70%,come from single mother homes.

2 parents here,4 grandparents and a gang of family
Sorry to disappoint you cac

 

[Thethirdpew]

2 parents here,4 grandparents and a gang of family
Sorry to disappoint you cac

Ah yes. The good old insult after getting proven wrong. Im as black as they get my guy. Straight outta Africa.

 

[BlackJesus]

2 parents here,4 grandparents and a gang of fam

Should know better then. Don’t bring that foolishness up in my thread little nikka

 

[Pseudonym]

I would try to butter up my mom (emotional/soft one in the marriage) to get me things my dad (the strict one) didnt want me to have and that never worked out well. I've had many many outfits thrown away,not returned just thrown away bc it showed too much skin in his opinion.

My parents were not in an abusive relationship at all. I want to make that clear. They were what I wanted when I grew up. They are best friends. Dad was head of household, Ma was 2nd in command.But when my dad said no that was it, no questions asked. He would just say it calmly too, like nah I dont like that.

I like traditional households. That way when shyt hits the wall it's on you. I was just doing what you told me!

Submissiveness is seen as a weakness but it really is not. In a healthy relationship it makes things easier. Just my 2 cents.

If my husband died today or tmw, I wouldnt even know how to pay the bills.i made sure he put the information in his will. I have a portion of my check deposited into an account and that's that. I dont know exactly how much bills are just a guesstimate. He deals with the finances, I deal with home.

Not many people will like it but I trust him to take care of us like I trusted my father. Instead of having all the responsibilities, just delegate them and make it easier and less stressful. I dont expect him to cook, or do laundry unless I'm sick because he goes out and bust his ass at work and that's just what we've decided on

 

[TELL ME YA CHEESIN FAM?]

Should know better then. Don’t bring that foolishness up in my thread little nikka

Shut the fukk up shyt posting ass p*ssy

 

[BlackJesus]

Shut the fukk up shyt posting ass p*ssy

Lil emo nikkas can see their own way out

This is a mans discussion

 

[BlackJesus]

I would try to butter up my mom (emotional/soft one in the marriage) to get me things my dad (the strict one) didnt want me to have and that never worked out well. I've had many many outfits thrown away,not returned just thrown away bc it showed too much skin in his opinion.

My parents were not in an abusive relationship at all. I want to make that clear. They were what I wanted when I grew up. They are best friends. Dad was head of household, Ma was 2nd in command.But when my dad said no that was it, no questions asked. He would just say it calmly too, like nah I dont like that.

I like traditional households. That way when shyt hits the wall it's on you. I was just doing what you told me!

Submissiveness is seen as a weakness but it really is not. In a healthy relationship it makes things easier. Just my 2 cents.

If my husband died today or tmw, I wouldnt even know how to pay the bills.i made sure he put the information in his will. I have a portion of my check deposited into an account and that's that. I dont know exactly how much bills are just a guesstimate. He deals with the finances, I deal with home.

Not many people will like it but I trust him to take care of us like I trusted my father. Instead of having all the responsibilities, just delegate them and make it easier and less stressful. I dont expect him to cook, or do laundry unless I'm sick because he goes out and bust his ass at work and that's just what we've decided on

As it should be

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Seek ye the balance.

This is the only thing that will work or we’ll just go back and forth using and abusing people from one extreme to the next.