Black Single Mothers Are More Than Scapegoats

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Black Single Mothers Are More Than Scapegoats
04/06/2016 04:10 pm ET | Updated 18 hours ago
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If I had a dollar for every time a single mother got blamed for the problems in the African American community, I’d be rich.

If I had two dollars for every time someone said a single mother’s problems would be solved with the addition of a man to the household, I would be even richer.

With some inner-city black communities like Chicago in shambles, conversations often turn to blaming the stereotypical view of the black single mother—the black mother having numerous kids living on welfare. And it is true that 66% of African American families are single parent families, according the United States Census Bureau Data. However, unwed birth rates have declined for black and Hispanic women, according to the Center For Disease Control.

The choice for single mothers to better themselves through higher education has also increased.

According to a journal article in The Future of Children website,





The share of unmarried parents experiencing at least some form of post- secondary education has also increased significantly over the past few decades, though the change has been more notable among unmarried mothers than fathers.





The Institute for Women’s Policy Research, operated out of George Washington University published a fact sheet in November 2014 that also shows single mothers’ strive to better themselves through education. According to the fact sheet,





Over a quarter (26 percent) of all undergraduate students, or 4.8 million students, are raising dependent children.1 Women are disproportionately likely to be balancing college and parenthood, many without the support of a spouse or partner. Women make up 71 percent of all student parents, and roughly 2 million students, or 43 percent of the total student parent population, are single mothers. Single student fathers make up 11 percent of the student parent population.





So, don’t believe the hype.

For years, single mothers have raised valuable and productive members of society: Tyler Perry, Halle Berry, Samuel L Jackson, and even President Obama. I have seen single black mothers in my life, sacrifice, gain trade certifications, get college degrees, and rise above the stigmatized view of single mothers in society. I have not observed it to be true that the norm in inner-cities is the “irresponsible black single mother.”

There is a lot to consider when being in a two parent household. Every man (or woman) is not capable of being healthy for a child. This can be seen in the recent case where 9 year old Tyshawn Lee was caught in the crossfire of his parents’ decisions.

Lack of education, domestic abuse, self-hatred, gang affiliation, drugs, and so much more is plaguing our communities. Telling single mothers to stop having babies by “no good men” is counterproductive and does not speak to the bigger issues of the community. It is a sort of guilt instilling and finger pointing that does nothing more than to tear a group of people down.

How long can we keep blaming single mothers’ poor judgement for problems in inner-city black communities?

No matter the environment, a child needs to be nurtured, encouraged, guided and shown how to become a productive member of society. And single mothers have done this for decades. This does not devalue the place of a positive male role model, but the negative perception often perpetuated in society does disservice to the countless single mothers making do, sacrificing, achieving, and producing promising future leaders.


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No matter the environment, a child needs to be nurtured, encouraged, guided and shown how to become a productive member of society.

...ideally by both parents.
I'm the product of a single parent home but I had uncles and other male figures that were heavily involved in my life. And that counted for a lot

Still, as I learn more about the dynamics of relationships and children and all that...I gotta admit that I dealt with and saw some shyt that was true in a lot of these "single mother threads"
 

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Someone's trying to get on that Tyler Perry wave.
 

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blaming and shaming never got anyone's life together, it's not constructive action, it's destructive because it attempts to breakdown the event by piece and figure out who's responsible for the past when the question is really the future :francis:


This sounds like some shyt a THOT says on FB. Doing some Ho-flecting out here

Blaming and shaming is necessary so people who could potentially be in that situation in the future WONT BE! If shame isn't attached to something then people are more likely to do it.
 

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This sounds like some shyt a THOT says on FB. Doing some Ho-flecting out here

Blaming and shaming is necessary so people who could potentially be in that situation in the future WONT BE! If shame isn't attached to something then people are more likely to do it.
say what you want but i doubt you've helped anyone with your tactic. most people in real industries bent on service would agree with me. only on this forum would people think shame and hate is the way to correct people
 

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say what you want but i doubt you've helped anyone with your tactic. most people in real industries bent on service would agree with me. only on this forum would people think shame and hate is the way to correct people

That's an assumption you are wrong on. I have gotten numerous single mom's jobs based off my reference and rewriting their resumes. But if you don't think shame shouldn't be attached to their actions you crazy. Because the COLI is one of the few places that DOES shame women for this shyt. All these other people and places give em a pass.
 

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blaming and shaming never got anyone's life together, it's not constructive action, it's destructive because it attempts to breakdown the event by piece and figure out who's responsible for the past when the question is really the future :francis:

Idk breh. In IT if there's a problem with the systems or the network goes down, we have an incident meeting to discuss what went wrong, where, and who was responsible, specifically to prevent future occurrences of it.

I can tell you that NOT addressing a problem, like we have for decades, isn't helping shyt. That's for damn sure.
 

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That's an assumption you are wrong on. I have gotten numerous single mom's jobs based off my reference and rewriting their resumes. But if you don't think shame shouldn't be attached to their actions you crazy. Because the COLI is one of the few places that DOES shame women for this shyt. All these other people and places give em a pass.
no one gives a shyt about that, i'm talking about shaming them for their lives and mistakes, not getting them a job. you think because you rewrote a cover letter you have the ability, authority and right to shame people? and if this is the extent of your help you've provided to single mothers, you're nothing special nor an authority on helping women
 

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Giving our stance in this country we need to seriously cut this single mother shyt out. each time a breh or female chooses wrong. It hurts the whole community and right now like everybody been saying we need to focus on creating and maintaining the black family, because i believe that will be the key to combating systemic white supremacy
 

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Idk breh. In IT if there's a problem with the systems or the network goes down, we have an incident meeting to discuss what went wrong, where, and who was responsible, specifically to prevent future occurrences of it.

I can tell you that NOT addressing a problem, like we have for decades, isn't helping shyt. That's for damn sure.
shaming isn't the solution, it's just rehashing the problem
 
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