Black Single Mothers Are More Than Scapegoats

[Bugatti Biceps]

shaming isn't the solution, it's just rehashing the problem

It's not shaming. Saying "stop doing this dumb shyt" isn't shaming. Calling it shaming seems like a way of getting out of any personal responsibility.

 

[Doobie Doo]

no one gives a shyt about that, i'm talking about shaming them for their lives and mistakes, not getting them a job. you think because you rewrote a cover letter you have the ability, authority and right to shame people? and if this is the extent of your help you've provided to single mothers, you're nothing special nor an authority on helping women

Wack ass deflection. Notice how you didn't even respond to the 2nd half of my comments. And yes I will shame you whether I help you or not so me NOT getting you a job means I will STILL talk shyt about you.

And BTW saying I ain't shyt for helping my people get jobs is some real c00n shyt breh. Obviously the people I help ain't sell outs like you.

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

I never understood why people prop up outliers of successful people who came from single mom households

Define successful.... and it may not be as big of an outlier as you think

 

[iBrowse]

I would like to cross-reference the posters who think single mothers are the problem who are also the product of single mother households .

 

[iBrowse]

^

 

[The ADD]

I would like to cross-reference the posters who think single mothers are the problem who are also the product of single mother households .

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

It's not shaming. Saying "stop doing this dumb shyt" isn't shaming. Calling it shaming seems like a way of getting out of any personal responsibility.

yes that's not shaming by saying to stop persisting in a behavior. what IS shaming is highlighting someone's inefficiencies over and over again without proper solutions other than "stop doing dumb shyt" or saying anything else that's already understood. people do that because they get off on the fact they're telling someone something to do, in order to feel they have authority or assume authority in a situation. it's not matter of just telling someone to stop doing something. that's so vague and not helpful it's pathetic people really think simply telling someone what's wrong and to stop will get any results. 9 times out of 10 they realized they were in a bad situation before you came and gave "advice". most of the shyt (negative vibes) comes from just general treatment and respect of women.

 

[Bugatti Biceps]

what IS shaming is highlighting someone's inefficiencies over and over again without proper solutions other than "stop doing dumb shyt"

Plenty of solutions are thrown out. I provided plenty in the last couple of days, but at the end of the day, people who don't want to take personal responsibility for their actions will label ANY sort of criticism as shaming.

 

[BruhManFromTheFifthFlo]

blaming and shaming never got anyone's life together, it's not constructive action, it's destructive because it attempts to breakdown the event by piece and figure out who's responsible for the past when the question is really the future

Gotta learn from the past to prevent the future

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

Plenty of solutions are thrown out. I provided plenty in the last couple of days, but at the end of the day, people who don't want to take personal responsibility for their actions will label ANY sort of criticism as shaming.

well, i'm talking to the minority then. and yeah they might label it as shaming because it is. and reality is, if the shaming isn't working or gets them to accept responsibility then would you consider shame an effective tool?

 

[@OffHalsted]

Better choices

 

[Maximus]

Call it shaming or whatever, but they need to be held accountable for making poor choices.

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

Wack ass deflection. Notice how you didn't even respond to the 2nd half of my comments. And yes I will shame you whether I help you or not so me NOT getting you a job means I will STILL talk shyt about you.

And BTW saying I ain't shyt for helping my people get jobs is some real c00n shyt breh. Obviously the people I help ain't sell outs like you.

the fukk it is. we've all done the same for everyone, stop patting yourself on the back. you must have missed the point where i said doing that doesn't mean you have the right to shame people, which was my point. as for the rest of your comment about them not learning unless they're shamed, that's narrow minded thinking. YOU don't need to make them feel ashamed so anything YOU have to say about what THEY'VE done is just you expressing yourself about THEIR situation. especially if that's the ONLY tool you've got in your kit for solving single mothers' issues

 

[AtomicUse]

I knew broke men get shamed when I was growing up.
I grew up and made sure I wasn't a broke man, now my life is great.
Shaming works.

 

[GoldCoastSaint]

This single mother blame angle is weird.

I understand choosing better but women have kids. That's what we do being that no one else can do it. Nothing weird about a womb pushing out a baby. Whats weird is a parent, male or female, not nurturing and raising that baby.

Marriage aside, because some people dont think its important and there was a time it wasnt even legal for some groups (Blacks included ) to marry. Throughout history, married or not, people had kids and they respected their bloodline enough to nurture those kids. Even kings set their b*stards up for succes one way or another.

Unwed parenting aint new. Absentee parenting is. Its dangerous, its cowardly, and its one of the biggest obstacles in our community today.