Black Single Mothers Are More Than Scapegoats

[The ADD]

Black women are the leaders of Black America. This isn't a patriarchal structure anymore, my friend.

On a personal level you accept a black woman being the leader in whatever relationship you have?

 

[Maximus]

On a personal level you accept a black woman being the leader in whatever relationship you have?

No.

But it is undeniable that Black America is largely a matriarchal structure(pseudo-matriarchy), and thus Black women are largely the leaders of the Black household. It's a pretty emasculating thing to say, but it's the truth.

 

[The ADD]

No.

But it is undeniable that Black America is largely a matriarchal structure(pseudo-matriarchy), and thus Black women are largely the leaders of the Black household. It's a pretty emasculating thing to say, but it's the truth.

I can't argue that but if every single dude didn't accept that, the outcome would be different. It's odd to throw your hands up on an individual basis and say that's just the way it is. I doubt most men would admit to accepting that either.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Examples

"We dont need to talk about what black men do, the media already does that" as if the media doesn't do the same with black women

"We talk about what black men do here all the time" which is a bold faced lie

"We are just saying shyt black women need to hear" as if the 20 black women on here are going to relay the message to the millions of black women in the US

U nikkas aint foolin anybody but yourselves with this bullshyt.

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

Both. "Single" parenting in itself is not the problem, because there are many couples that co-parent or have functional relationships and live together, but just aren't married. The issue is men who actively engage in raw sex but somehow feel when a child is created, they aren't responsible to properly parent it. The issue is when a woman keeps a man from a child he helped create because he doesn't want to be in a relationship with her or uses her pregnancy and child for financial leverage.

I will also say that the MAJORITY of children raised in single parent households are successes. We are no more or less successful than our peers who had two parents. It's those who are raised in poverty i.e the "hood or ghetto" that suffer and can be considered "failures".

I agree with the top half of your statement. The bottom half is statistically not true. You make great points ( top half), just disagree with the bottom.

 

[Maximus]

I can't argue that but if every single dude didn't accept that, the outcome would be different. It's odd to throw your hands up on an individual basis and say that's just the way it is. I doubt most men would admit to accepting that either.

I agree. Please don't confuse my acknowledgement of the realities concerning the structure of Black America with me accepting it.

 

[Doobie Doo]

"We dont need to talk about what black men do, the media already does that" as if the media doesn't do the same with black women

"We talk about what black men do here all the time" which is a bold faced lie

"We are just saying shyt black women need to hear" as if the 20 black women on here are going to relay the message to the millions of black women in the US

U nikkas aint foolin anybody but yourselves with this bullshyt.

I have no idea what theee fukk you just wrote.

 

[Rawtid]

I agree with the top half of your statement. The bottom half is statistically not true. You make great points ( top half), just disagree with the bottom.

I truly believe only certain types of families comprise the statistics, mainly low income. Poor children in general suffer, no matter if they have two parents or not.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

I have no idea what theee fukk you just wrote.

These are excuses brehs here make for why they put black women through the ringer and give black men a pass.

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

The bottom half is statistically not true.

Based on what stats? Single parent just means not married.... You mean to tell me that there is an actual stat that quantifies success between children born out of wedlock as opposed to the opposite?

 

[Yesterday]

"We dont need to talk about what black men do, the media already does that" as if the media doesn't do the same with black women

"We talk about what black men do here all the time" which is a bold faced lie

"We are just saying shyt black women need to hear" as if the 20 black women on here are going to relay the message to the millions of black women in the US

U nikkas aint foolin anybody but yourselves with this bullshyt.

This isn't an example, it's a generalization

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

This isn't an example, it's a generalization

Give me a day and I will find examples. Im not making this up

 

[Mandarin Duck]

I'm seriously curious as to how many of y'all were raised by single mothers, yet still harbor these feelings about them

 

[cam>]

Men abandon their own children, and women are to blame.

Men contribute next to nothing in the raising of their own children, and again, women are to blame.

Men undermine black love, black families and the respect people have for blacks, and again, women are to blame.

This bro-code that has so many of you excusing the destructive behaviors of bros, and deflecting blame on to the backs of women - who are already bearing the double-load of irresponsible, neglectful, absentee co-parents - is counter productive.

The excuses and deflection do nothing but block a solution.

Instead of telling black women to be wizards, capable of prophesying the actions of others and the future, and instead of expecting black women to be heros who do everything, for everybody, all on their own (including not needing or requesting financial support from absentee co parents), simply tell black men to be fathers.

Tell black men to value the families they create for a change. Tell black men to behave like adult males and take care of responsibilities for a change.

 

[Max Power]

The problem is that unplanned children conceived in moments if stupidity with the wrong people are tolerated. Other communities have just as many unplanned pregnancies as us, but they get abortions without flinching. Indian dude I know was running through chicks reckless - had 2 abortions before he was 21.