Black woman calls out single men

[Cynic]

I'm done taking anything these chicks have to say seriously.

You get criticised as a broke dude who doesn't have his stuff together, but when you're achieving shyt off your own back (you know, actually being a MAN ) then you're lowkey accused of selfishness for not having the "right" woman by your side. I get that a lot.

Many men achieved greatness by having a woman by their side. OK? And? A lot of men have also achieved greatness through their own strength and abilities. Some women are actually threatened by men who have independence and could walk away tomorrow and still do good without them, let's just call it what it is.

Everything I have right now is because of ME and my hard work and no one can throw back anything in my face and say "you wouldn't have such and such if wasn't for me".

Who is to say who the "right" woman is anyhow? People change and they also have agendas.

When I meet the "right" woman whatever that is and she's loyal and not a burden, then fine. Until then I have the right to be picky because too many care more for what's in your wallet than who you are as a man, plus it's not like the law is exactly in men's favour when marriages break up.

The only person a man needs is the one in the mirror.

I'm patient. I'll take my time because I'm not gonna link up with someone who is a liability pretending to be an asset. I worked too hard for that.

Your time and resources are depriving another woman from commandeering them for herself.

They don't see you, only your utility but revealing this would cause too much trauma so they resort to shaming tactics and social pressure to force you to yield and conform.

A self-actualised well off man needs to be tamed or chastisized to prevent other men falling suit.

 

[Neuromancer]

fukk her. Do what you want.

 

[Big Blue]

She has a point

 

[Gold]

Sis is saying that you can walk and chew gum at the same time. Nothing prophetic about her post. It happens everyday, people meet in college, fall in love, get into their careers together, get married , have successful careers and have kids. Everyday this happens.

It does happen everyday like that
And it also happens the opposite way everyday

Men will have to decide for themselves which one is preferable.

 

[Neuromancer]

It does happen everyday like that
And it also happens the opposite way everyday

Men will have to decide for themselves which one is preferable.

This. Men and Women have to make the best choices for themselves, find people who are okay with their choice and stop taking advice from Twitter.

 

[Cynic]

I understand your point. However, I look at it this way: if my parents could come to a Western country, from a completely different culture - meet each other, get married, find ways coexist within the system, and still be together - why can't someone like me who has lived in a Western country all my life, do the same? I've got the luxury of being conversant with how things work out here from birth. They never had that and they had to acclimatize (I'd even say it's a perpetual process with them) and do it against all odds. They also don't have two heads.

More so, I'd wager that the primary reasons why most marriages fail is because people do it for the wrong reasons and because of that they overlook a lot things based on mundane things people tend to attach to maturity/and-being-matured these days. You've got people who get married to women solely based on aesthetics when they know the type of past they have and how old habits never die. But they'll still go ahead and do it because the society told them being able to look beyond a woman's past, is a sign of maturity - when it's common knowledge that you can't make a slag a housewife. And you've people who know the women they're with, are just in it for what they can get out of it, or they don't even connect with their women on that level. However, they'll still take the big step to the next level without examining/understanding the consequences of their actions.

Admittedly, I'd say I understand the risks involved and people will always have their flaws regardless of how good you think they're. But I don't mind taking that risk at least once for the sake of my kids. I just want 15 years out of it because that's enough time to instil certain foundational/fundamental values in your kids (if you decide to have all your kids within the first 6 years) under the same roof. And whatever happens after that can happen. Raising kids in a stable home is always a better option than popping kids everywhere and, as black people, it should be non-negotiable since we're the most affected group when it comes broken homes and single parent households.

Edit: a snitch on here told the girl about this thread. Nikkas still snitching to women on social media?

My father came from a hard core Latino machismo bsckground and a strong African patriarchal culture. My mother is AA but so far from the belligerent, abrasive, feminist type that she might as well be African herself.


Marriage was designed as a business arrangement to secure the future of offspring. Men provided, women nurtured.
The social dynamics and consequences have changed to f"ck you over at her request.

What this means is it doesn't matter how she is today . Her environment gives her options to bow out. If you are really interested in marriage then you need to account for judiaciary system and what other women are doing in this jurisdiction.

If divorce is a societal norm and she can get rid of you while keeping your utility then why exactly would you entertain such a lop side contract ?

On top of that, restricted access to your children ?



Men really are rational with everything except women

 

[philmonroe]

That's what I'm saying nikka!!! We're saying the same thing

We ain't saying the same thing in the same way hence why I posted. If I thought you were saying the same thing I wouldn't even quoted you nikka. Still using smilies smfh

 

[BigMan]

My father came from a hard core Latino machismo bsckground and a strong African patriarchal culture. My mother is AA but so far from the belligerent, abrasive, feminist type that she might as well be African herself.


Marriage was designed as a business arrangement to secure the future of offspring. Men provided, women nurtured.
The social dynamics and consequences have changed to f"ck you over at her request.

What this means is it doesn't matter how she is today . Her environment gives her options to bow out. If you are really interested in marriage then you need to account for judiaciary system and what other women are doing in this jurisdiction.

If divorce is a societal norm and she can get rid of you while keeping your utility then why exactly would you entertain such a lop side contract ?

On top of that, restricted access to your children ?



Men really are rational with everything except women

Yo daddy Latino huh

 

[DaRealness]

Your time and resources are depriving another woman from commandeering them for herself.

They don't see you, only your utility but revealing this would cause too much trauma so they resort to shaming tactics and social pressure to force you to yield and conform.

A self-actualised well off man needs to be tamed or chastisized to prevent other men falling suit.

Yep, pretty much. Too bad for them that men are waking up.

 

[Cynic]

Yo daddy Latino huh

He's black with an african mother .

 

[Mr.bocario]

She a good looking woman though I'm such a sucker for braids.

She admitted herself, those are snapchat filters

 

[George's Dilemma]

She admitted herself, those are snapchat filters

Glass half full breh, glass half full. She's still beautiful looking through her IG. Her sister too.

 

[MikelArteta]

sick of these instagram thots trying to preach their jargon.

 

[Larry Lambo]

This. Men and Women have to make the best choices for themselves, find people who are okay with their choice and stop taking advice from Twitter.

Facts, especially when it comes from a biased viewpoint.

A lot of chicks feel threatened by men improving themselves before they seek a wife, because they may be eliminated from contention.

 

[HabitualChiller]

Has anyone thought about the idea that it's easier to build when you don't have to provide/co-habitate witth another person?

There's a reason why my chief back in Boot Camp called his wife and kids "money-suckers"