Black Woman: “I Avoid Successful Black Men Because I Don’t Want A Man Doing Better Than Me”

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This isn’t a rarity… Some are just bold enough to say it. Let’s not forget the women in secret competitions with their men as well.
 
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After watching the video, I feel like her saying that was not about some sense of superiority over black men but a sense of inferiority in that she knows that she wouldn’t be able to measure up to a black man that has his shyt together. She would rather be with a man on her level, a man that’s a work in progress, because she views herself the same. I don’t see anything wrong with that. Her saying that she doesn’t want a black man doing better than her is out of feelings of inadequateness vs it being an ego thing.

Feel like some sistas are in this weird zone where they have all the material stuff (degrees, career, house, car, vacations etc) but struggle with the emotional issues. Outwardly they have it all but they need to heal on the inside.

A man that has the same material stuff appears to be "too good" for them since they assume he's got his mental/emotional shyt on lock.

So...the women date down but they date men that lack the material stuff but appear confident and well adjusted. Problem is that if the man doesn't have college/trade school, career etc., they end up being unevenly yoked anyway. Women are givers in just about every way EXCEPT money. A woman does not want to take care of a man financially 99% of the time unless he's adding value being a stay at home dad...and even then, she's gonna want him at work once the kids hit a certain age.
 

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This isn’t a rarity… Some are just bold enough to say it. Let’s not forget the women in secret competitions with their men as well.


Why would a woman be in competition with you? Doesn't make much sense, the man is the leader and should lead the household.
 
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