Black Women on a forum are asked: "How can Black men do right by you?"

[Londilon]

Black women: how can black men do right by you?

.....since this board is mostly populated by (black) women...I'd like y'all to pour your hearts out on this thread with no holds barred.

The Answers:

I want black men (especially Africans) to become good leaders and to be autistically/anally focused on the development of the African continent, especially (Sub-Saharan Africa).

I want black men to have an increased sense of racial pride.

Quit ignoring the weird/awkward black girls...and use that as a reason to justify why you date out.

They exist just like you do and *gasp* they don't want thugs.
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Quit being so hypersexual.

I like sex too, but it doesn't rule me and I still handle business.

Also...your manhood should extend beyond your penis.

And you don't have to smash everything moving...use discretion.
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Racism sucks and it's not going anywhere anytime soon.

Do not use this as an excuse to not go after your goals and collaborate with those in your community.
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Instead of policing women and all of their behavior, call out the problematic men in our community.

And if you choose to be quiet, don't call the next man that does call out others a "simp" or sellout.
(I'm thinking of the recent situation with Malcolm Jamal Warner speaking the truth about that Diddy/Jay-Z pic)

If I have to tell you or give you tips on how to be a man to me then you are not a man.

Do right by me meaning if you want to start a family I need MARRIAGE. Think with your mind and not your penius all the time there is a place and time for that.

Learn about and appreciate black women's hair texture because it grows out your head too. Later you may have a daughter and she needs to learn to love and appreciate her hair by seeing her parents doing the same.

I may come back later...

Let go of the idea we're "strong " and we can just take and deal with anything y'all throw at us. We're women and like any other woman we're soft and pink and feeling too. Please remember that, sometimes I think it's forgotten.

Take responsibility in actually healing their past wounds instead of blaming others and not actually making an effort to heal.

Date whoever they feel like dating without bashing black women.

Take rejection with grace. It isn't the end of the world.

Work on their self worth.

Speak up for abused women and children instead of going quiet just because of that toxic male code many men have where they protect each other no matter what actions have been committed.

Stop preaching about black unity, the necessity of black wallstreet and sticking it to the white man by quitting jobs to pursue so called entrepreneurship as an excuse to not work at all lol...take the realistic route by actually working a job and then making money and saving it to start your business. Many dudes who do this mess end up living with momma or on someone's couch. No type of thinking ahead and sometimes it's deliberate because the goal is to leech off of someone else.

Build
Provide
Respect
Protect
Promote

It’s as simple as apple pie. But before all that, y’all have to love yourselves so u can love the reflection of you: Black women. I believe a lot of black men hate themselves which is why their hatred of black women is so visceral

1. Be providers instead of letting women take care of you.
2. Learn how to court women.
3. Embrace marriage.
4. Get married before having kids.
5. Have some integrity when you're married. Stop cheating.
6. Let go of the colorism.
7. Focus on education and careers rather than chasing women.
8. If you can't do any of these things, then do not fix your mouth to complain when Black women date out because we're tired of you.

I wont link to the thread but I'm sure everyone can guess where this is from.

Do you agree with some of the comments? How does it make you feel?

 

[Ms. Quick]

 

[ba'al]

Is david dukes still posting their threads to his twitter btw?

 

[Londilon]

 

[southern.girl]

I personally think it was a great, constructive list.

 

[Calmye]

they don't know what they want until a real man tells them like any other race of females

 

[315]

 

[Londilon]

None of the comments I posted were bad. Goes to show that some people can't have a reasonable view on things.

 

[Calmye]

I personally think it was a great, constructive list.

Quit molesting us. Quit raping us. Quit beating us. Quit killing us. Quit comparing us to other women if you do not want the same done to you. Quit treating us as the enemy and then manipulating us to be your allies. Quit abandoning your own

nikka get your self esteem up. If a bytch ever say this shyt to you run asap. She's broken

 

[horizon]

lol

 

[Phitz]

Sounds like a bunch of angry women typing stereotypes

Come to think of there's alot of typing stereotypes roaming the coli

 

[horizon]

None of the comments I posted were bad. Goes to show that some people can't have a reasonable view on things.

nothing about LSA is reasonable

 

[chowism]

Minus the comment about the raping and molesting, it was a pretty solid list. I ain't mad at that list.

 

[ThaEruditious]

*sigh* The more I beat myself up about our lack of unity, the more I just wanna say fukk it and just work on bettering myself and those around me. Nothing is ever really gonna change. Both sides are irrevocably fukked up and neither really wants to address their own bullshyt. Chicken or the egg...

 

[The Fade]

This is the story of a girl, who cried a river and drowned the whole wooooorld