Blavity article: Does hypermasculinity hinder black men from finding true love?

[MoroccanBoy]

Some.of these angry no life coli nikkas need some MDMA once in a while

 

[MaxPain]

@ men looking for "true love"

 

[Gold]

True Love?

If you're searching for true love, you probably don't have a grounded understanding of how relationships work.

Its the same with people who use the word "soul mate." I avoid anyone who says that

 

[EmpressKali]

True Love?

If you're searching for true love, you probably don't have a grounded understanding of how relationships work.

Its the same with people who use the word "soul mate." I avoid anyone who says that

I agree. I told myself after my last serious relationship I wasnt into the whole whirlwind of love and emotion. I just wanted common goals and dreams with a man I liked/loved/respected/physically attracted to.

Everything else would just be extra.

 

[Gold]

I agree. I told myself after my last serious relationship I wasnt into the whole whirlwind of love and emotion. I just wanted common goals and dreams with a man I liked/loved/respected/physically attracted to.

Everything else would just be extra.

I'm surprised at this post.

Dapped

 

[Ain't That Something]

Hyper masculinity is probably why black men have the shortest life expectancy in the country.

But is it a symptom of something much bigger or the cause?

Are nikkas hyper masculine bc they live in a society where they hold no real power so they have to compensate for it or are you saying we are hyper masculine for the sake of it.

By the way that is if I even believe this narrative of black men being hyper masculine in the 1st place. I am trying to learn not tinker the media frame my view of my people

 

[EmpressKali]

But is it a symptom of something much bigger or the cause?

Are nikkas hyper masculine bc they live in a society where they hold no real power so they have to compensate for it or are you saying we are hyper masculine for the sake of it.

By the way that is if I even believe this narrative of black men being hyper masculine in the 1st place. I am trying to learn not tinker the media frame my view of my people

Living in high crime areas will make you hyper masculine and blackness is perceived as hyper masculine anyway. It could be both but it still doesnt negative that the lifestyle diseases most black men die early from are due to a certain type of lifestyle.

I highlighted early because we all die of the same diseases but I read in DC (the place with the highest incomes in the country) has the highest mortality rate for black men. I found that to be strange.

Another commenter made references to Native Americans which is a bad comparison because NA live completely outside of mainstream societies, outside of cities with amenities that prolong our health. I cant compare a NA living on a reservation to a black man living in NYC.

 

[Tropical Fantasy]

Blavity back at it again with the bullshyt

 

[EmpressKali]

I'm surprised at this post.

Dapped

What are your goals and dreams... are you attractive?

 

[Gold]

What are your goals and dreams... are you attractive?

I'm ugly as fukk and my dream goal is to marry a sugar momma

 

[Maddmike]

Yes but only because black women praise black men for being hyper feminine...

Think about it...gays and transsexual black men set the "trends" for black women...that's what they worship...although they like to blame it on us, where do you think all this plastic surgery stuff hit off at?

 

[Antiquity]

All you're doing is over explaining something that's simple af.

In other words, I addressed your question, but it contained too many "sciency" words and not enough fluff and thus didn't suffice your expectations. That's too bad.

You've yet to explain how any of this over-explanation makes love nonexistent.

Hormones and chemicals in the neurotransmitters of the brain cause bonding chemicals that release. Humans came up with this label called "love". It doesn't, and never has, existed in the context that people have created it and refer to it as. It's a neurochemical and hormonal process, not a magical connect that harbors between two souls.

This is a brain scan done with participants who were "intensenly in love with their partner" and participants who had broke up and just got out of a relationship. Results from the study shown that the participants who were "in love" on the top chart had an increased level of brain activity in the region of the brain that handles emotional functions ; the bottom chart, the "broke up out of a relationship" participants had less brain activity and lower levels of nonepherine. These people "in love" simply had an increased level of dopamine and oxytocin being sent to their brain. That's it. It does not exist beyond this very simple science. Neurochemical alterations emit hormones. It is a neurological function in its entirety, it is not the mythicized nonsense that human beings have labeled it as.

That's like saying having hunger doesn't exist because hunger is the result of chemical processes in your body

What? Not even remotely similar. Try again.

Either way, what do you get out of debunking the existence of "love"?

What a silly question. Why would one have to "get something" for merely debunking a word that has connotations that are rooted in biology rather than soul mate fairytales - which people conveniently like to ignore?

 

[-----]

Blavity is still a thing?

It Should be called Fagivity.

 

[Indiglow Meta (R$G)]

Native Americans have a higher murder, rape, alcoholism, and general failure rate than AAs.
Stop spreading lies.
The rez looks like absolute garbage unless there's a casino...and even then....
I know because I been there. Mohawk in NY...A few in NS.

 

[-----]

What?

Love is a neurological process that takes place in the brain. The pupils dialate up to 75%, nonepinephrine production begins sending signals to the reward center of the brain, and an odorless hormone named Oxytocin is emitted. These are all neurochemical exchanges that take place in specific regions of the brain. That's too bad if this doesn't fit in your narrative of "love" being a harmonic magical soul connection - it is no such thing. It's a primitive neurobiological response embedded in all organisms - it's an evolutionary mechanism for procreation.

By the way, have you ever even looked up the definition of emotion? It's a physiological response, meaning that it deals with physical and chemical functions of an organism. Just like I've said, it's a chemically induced biological response.

emotion

[ih-moh-shuh n]
3.
any strong agitation of the feelings actuated by experiencing love,hate, fear, etc., and usually accompanied by certain physiological changes, as increased heartbeat or respiration, and often overt manifestation, as crying or shaking.

physiology

[fiz-ee-ol-uh-jee]
noun
1.
the branch of biology dealing with the functions and activities of living organisms and their parts, including all physical and chemical processes.

Were your intentions to debunk my stance? Because you've done no such thing.

The greatest love one can have is for one's self.
Without that no other loves are possible.