Also, there is no such thing as ‘black male privilege,’ so often black men do not get the benefit of the doubt. In response, black men have mastered hyper-masculinity. With this, it offsets what white or other patriarchies have in their communities. A black man can shrug off not having things that white men are accustomed to such as under the table networking, gated community, secret societies and clubs, exploiting minorities, being a part of old money family, having a judge reduce their jail sentence for being a first offender or being a so-called well-to-do-kid -- but black men can brag on their effortlessly attempts in getting with women.
Granted, having a good ‘mouthpiece’ or social skills in talking to women is not a bad thing, all it matters is how it was done.
Yet, this societal norm was not given to us out of good will. Slave masters would use black men to breed traits, in order to form the perfect slave who will obey and have enough strength to carry the daily load. The ‘mandingo’ evolved centuries later to become the pimp and now presently to the player.
I see many black male celebrities use their status as dominance. Even though in high school and college, I saw this mentality being used as a privilege. Sometimes I would lie to my male friends that I was sexually active.
It was easier to talk down about other sex life of other men than my own. It was wrong for me to do, but I did not want to be on the receiving end of not being accepted by other black men. Granted, there are some who appreciate honesty and do not define you less than anything than your character, but, there needs to be more room for these types of conversions. What defines our masculinity and should we be more careful on how present it?
This is an everyday thought in my mind. I have been in many black male groups on Facebook that focus on black relationships and respectability. Their masculinity is fragile because they want to be like the ballers and rappers that they despise because they would trade the loneliness to be somebody they are not.
Trey Songz is not a bad guy for his show, but as a black man, I am tired of seeing us being obsessed with sex from toxic and manipulated relationships that constantly fails in making ourselves happy.
shyts depressing as fukk, its crazy what Cacs did to them and Conitue to do.
