I think a lot of people don't understand how non-profits work. If you can sell a mission/story people give you money. If you structure the organization where your people/family are being a paid a salary, then it is what it is.
I'm in the process of starting up a family/community based non-profit with my family, and after you figure out what the mission statement is and who we're trying to serve, the next pivot is to... how do we pay ourselves for doing the work.
I didn't read the OP yet, but I will now. Don't judge me.