FLYINHAWAIIAN
Vegan For a Reason
I just know howz to talk
Brehettes: How do you feel about guys moving slow?
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I just know howz to talk
This is true. I find that the perfect balance with a female is to make my interests known and then once I make that known and SHOW my assertiveness then she reciprocate by, at the very least letting me know at what pace SHE would like to go. If she is looking for a relationship then let it be known so that WE BOTH don't end up playing silly "where do I go next ?" Games.
I have absolutely no problem going slowly, it is not a requirement for a woman to drop her panties on the first, second, or third date. As long as we BOTH understand where we ultimately want to end up with this. I hate wasting my time. If after a few encounters you are not feeling me, then be honest. If you want to go further faster, then I can pick up on subtle hints, but don't make things a fukking jigsaw puzzle.
With MOST men if the woman meets us halfway then that is all we need.
Rayzah
I'm Everywhere you ain't never there
That is exactly what im talking about.. just meet me halfway, I don't know why its looked down upon to give hints that are easy to pick up on
SpringWater
Just Like That
I once dated a guy for six months straight who was afraid of me. He was cool. Handsome, funny, kind, smart, hardworker. But he was intimidated. I mean, he wined and dined me for six months. I am not exaggerating when I say six months. Flowers just because at the office. Any concert or game or event I wanted to attend, he would take me. Whenever I wanted to eat out he'd take me where ever I wanted to go. He spent so much money on me it was crazy. Which was why it was so confusing....he would even bring me lunch at work if I wanted it and we don't work together and I work downtown.
He would say that he wanted me to know he felt differently about me and not just like I was a piece of ass but he wanted to get close in other ways. I believe he was really just scared of me. Scared to make that move for some reason. I know he liked me a lot judging from how he spoiled me but he was AFRAID to make a physical move on me and that was a huge turnoff. I could sense he was scared to take charge with me and let his real desires be known. This was not only unattractive, it was weak and sad. I think he could sense that I was losing attraction for him which made him even more intimidated. So it was like a vicious cycle. Until finally, I stopped letting him take me out as much and eventually I started dating a man who wasn't intimidated or afraid and he and I were exclusive and having sex within two months and he is still my man to this day. The other guy is a forever FRIEND.
Trust me, BE YOURSELF and don't wait too long because a woman will lose interest and you'll be friendzoned forever. Don't be afraid to go for it if you care for her and want to be more than just her friend.
He would say that he wanted me to know he felt differently about me and not just like I was a piece of ass but he wanted to get close in other ways. I believe he was really just scared of me. Scared to make that move for some reason. I know he liked me a lot judging from how he spoiled me but he was AFRAID to make a physical move on me and that was a huge turnoff. I could sense he was scared to take charge with me and let his real desires be known. This was not only unattractive, it was weak and sad. I think he could sense that I was losing attraction for him which made him even more intimidated. So it was like a vicious cycle. Until finally, I stopped letting him take me out as much and eventually I started dating a man who wasn't intimidated or afraid and he and I were exclusive and having sex within two months and he is still my man to this day. The other guy is a forever FRIEND.
Trust me, BE YOURSELF and don't wait too long because a woman will lose interest and you'll be friendzoned forever. Don't be afraid to go for it if you care for her and want to be more than just her friend.
As a guy, I can understand what he was trying to do, but he failed miserably.
I don't think he was afraid. I think he wanted everything to go so well that he fukked up by over thinking it. He was doing too much.
Women get upset if you want sex too fast, but get upset if you respect them & wait. It's just the way it is. You need to find the perfect blend. If you don't know how to do that, it's better to be too fast than too slow.
Women face this situation as well. When they come across a guy they really like, they want to make sure everything goes right. As a result, they may make this guy wait (which they didn't do with other guys) & he just ends up losing interest.
There's a certain type of pressure for both men & women when they come across someone they really like. They want everything to go right & unintentionally come off as if they aren't interested in sex.
Whenever I meet a woman and we exchange numbers, if there's good chemistry over the first phone call I'll always ask if she's down for meeting up for drinks or coffee the next day. I'm not wasting my time sporadically texting and playing those shytty pre-first date games. For all I know, she could be talking to another dude so I want to make the first move quickly 
Most women like the boldness and will consent. Yeah there's always flakey women, but that's why you don't put all your chips into one woman right away.
Most women like the boldness and will consent. Yeah there's always flakey women, but that's why you don't put all your chips into one woman right away.
SpringWater
Just Like That
As a guy, I can understand what he was trying to do, but he failed miserably.
I don't think he was afraid. I think he wanted everything to go so well that he fukked up by over thinking it. He was doing too much.
He was afraid. He is a libra and had somewhat of a reputation for macking the ladies. But with me, he was smitten to fear. SIX MONTHS. That's a lot of money. We were spending time multiple days each week. Anything I wanted. Not even so much as a passionate kiss. Only hugs and kisses on the cheek. In fact, our one kiss was a peck and it was one I initiated in month three on New Year's Eve. at midnight I pecked him but he didn't take it further.....we were with friends and he would later say he was being discreet and didn't want our business on front street. He continued to date me three more months spending crazy money and being there whenever I wanted.....but never taking me in his arms and passionately moving the relationship forward until I finally just stopped accepting his invitations, etc. I think he kicks himself to this day for how he took things too slow. He didn't know how to read me is what he says. Whatever, i've moved on. I was apparently not like what he's used to. Not saying that is a bad thing but judging from the money and time he spent, he wanted it to be something and took too much time with it. Fellas, even if the woman is professional and refined and educated, she still wants a CONFIDENT man who is not afraid to go for it. That's just human nature.
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If he moves slow he got a small dikk.
#6inchgang representer
& thats the only way im comfortable moving.
#6inchgang representer
& thats the only way im comfortable moving.
FLYINHAWAIIAN
Vegan For a Reason
now if he woulda tried to hit immediately, you woulda thought he was just like every other dude and been turned off.
now that he waited and treated you special, you saw he was different and still got turned off.
SpringWater
Just Like That
now if he woulda tried to hit immediately, you woulda thought he was just like every other dude and been turned off.
now that he waited and treated you special, you saw he was different and still got turned off.
That's actually not the case. He waited six months to even take it past a peck. One that I initiated. He would not even kiss me back. I tried and waited. I started wondering if there was another issue like he was not attracted to me but he wouldn't spend all that money and time and not be attracted plus he was very complimentary towards me. His behavior was more than just his being a gentleman or treating me special he was overthinking something although I'm not sure what. Male or female, a person wants someone who is confident and self secure.
FLYINHAWAIIAN
Vegan For a Reason
he probably didn't want you to think he was tryna hit.
sometimes females don't wanna give play to dudes who they know wanna fukk
I would appreciate it. It just has to be the right guy, and if you both want a relationship I think it's good to be slow. I was talking to this guy and I told him I wanted to take it slow. He was trying to be together it had only been two weeks! It wasn't that I didn't like him, I just wanted to see how we mesh before we took that leap. You just need to find someone on that wavelength. You seemingly wanted to be in a relationship, so find someone willing to wait, that you legit like.
You should have vocalized your intentions to her - we don't like reading between the lines, especially in the beginning.
I had someone tell me there intentions with me from the jump, but for 1-2 months, moved more like a friend than anything. I confronted it in the end and learned that he was taking this all "very seriously" and trying to be respectful. Had I not asked, and had he not shared, I would have eventually dwindled out of it and moved on. Ended up together for 3 years and counting.
I had someone tell me there intentions with me from the jump, but for 1-2 months, moved more like a friend than anything. I confronted it in the end and learned that he was taking this all "very seriously" and trying to be respectful. Had I not asked, and had he not shared, I would have eventually dwindled out of it and moved on. Ended up together for 3 years and counting.
