Brehettes how would u react if your child's father
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25YOUTHS!!
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Been saying this for years.
They should make it a standard test, like the dozens of newborn tests they do anyways...especially if breh is gon be on the birth certificate.
It should be a standard thing, like you actively have to opt-out of it...Takes away the emotional excuses like you don't trust me, you think I'm cheating etc.
They should make it a standard test, like the dozens of newborn tests they do anyways...especially if breh is gon be on the birth certificate.
It should be a standard thing, like you actively have to opt-out of it...Takes away the emotional excuses like you don't trust me, you think I'm cheating etc.
BrokePhiBroke
Superstar
I prefer that.
Any future arguments won't exist about it not being his child.
The end.
Any future arguments won't exist about it not being his child.
The end.
O.T.I.S.
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But reality is... It happens.In today’s climate I understand I really do... but yea I would be offended and hurt. It would definitely damage our relationshipThat’s not a threat to try to stop him either, it just is what it is.
If you think I am cheating, not only cheating but would have another man impregnate me. Not only that but try to pass the baby off as yours, why are you with me?
I’d rather not know, but then if I found out I’d be worseit’s a lose-lose situation.
And its VERY common. I don't see why a woman wouldn't do it if its going to completely verify that he's the dad.
It should be mandatory honestly speaking. And all this "trust" shyt is completely garbage if you done been through a dudes phone, IG, Facebook, email, etc.
Don't get hoes pregnant....
StickStickly
Superstar
This. Personally I wouldn’t cheat on the father of my child so I would be hurt. Unless you and the mother aren’t together, have a rocky relationship or you have very valid reasons to believe she cheated, why ask? Why not wait a little bit? You don’t even have to get the birth certificate right away, so why not chill while she’s trying to recoup from giving fukking birth? Her hormones are going to be crazy and she just gave a lot of herself to make sure a human was born healthy and loved, so why cast doubt about your love and hurt in her mind at the very moment her little baby is born?
If he asked I would assume he’s projecting his behavior onto me or is unsure about being with me or having a kid. That’s not something you want to hear when you have the baby blues, anxieties, body pains and tears, and hormonal shifts.
Honestly, unless you have your credible suspicions, wait.
Edited: of course you guys aren’t talking about wife having your kid. If you’re having unprotected sex with women you don’t love and they become pregnant, sure. But again, WAIT. There’s nothing bad about waiting a little bit. You’re not pressured to identify as the father right away. So just fukking wait and ask for the test a week later or at the first doctor appointment.
These measures are all about prevention. The male wants the DNA test to prevent raising a child that isn't his own. The female wants access to his technology to prevent possibly being cheated on which can lead to stds being brought back to her and other bullshyt.What do you mean fair "trade"?
There is an element of common sense/no fukks about trust in each scenario.
What's the problem? He could have access to my tech too. This is light work for me b/c I'd have nothing to lose and everything to gain. DNA test? Sure babe! Complete transparency in everything we do?!
This'll be a breeze! I'm wit it!
25YOUTHS!!
Superstar
elaborate breh
So if for whatever reason a dude falls out with his girl, she puts him on child support, then he ends up finding out the child isn’t even his and now he’s stuck paying obligated child support for a child that isn’t his. Or they stay together, hes raising this child for years, then he finds out it isn’t his biological child. Or the child grows up and somehow finds out that who he/she thought was his/her father wasn’t the whole time.
No one wants to deal with that shyt. Better safe than sorry.
BrokePhiBroke
Superstar
I haven't read the whole thread but I'm not understanding what's wrong with proof.
Women want proof of things all the time.
Did you really work them amount of hours? Let me see ya check stub.
Do you have an STD? Let's go get tested.
Do you really make six figures?
Is this really your house and not your mama house?
The list goes on.
I want proof that my man 100% heretrosexual.
The point is people have a right to clear the air and make sure things legit. I would NOT take offense to a test and honestly I plan to give whomever I have a kid with a test whether they want one or not. TO CLEAR THE AIR.
Women want proof of things all the time.
Did you really work them amount of hours? Let me see ya check stub.
Do you have an STD? Let's go get tested.
Do you really make six figures?
Is this really your house and not your mama house?
The list goes on.
I want proof that my man 100% heretrosexual.
The point is people have a right to clear the air and make sure things legit. I would NOT take offense to a test and honestly I plan to give whomever I have a kid with a test whether they want one or not. TO CLEAR THE AIR.
What are the stats on this? Because you know some people and have seen/heard stories? It’s easy for a guy to say this because this is something you will never have to deal with at most you will have to deal with the bolded. It’s a slap in the face for someone who is being extremely open and faithful. It’s a lose-lose situation. The guys “peace of mind” but the woman is like after all this this dude doesn’t trust me?
Also to the bolded I don’t. If I have to do all that I don’t want to be with you. I can’t be on a relationship like that it’s not healthy. Either I trust you or I don’t. I have been in a relationship with someone who didn’t trust me for no reason other than his issues and he was probably cheating himself worst relationship ever.
I did say I understand and would be more willing if it was brought up in the beginning and knew the reason for the trust issues. But I would still question the relationship and if I would want to deal with that and at the time of testing it would still hurt. Just being honest.
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*Angel*
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If she's going through your phone to find evidence of cheating then y'all clearly have a trust issue. How you handle that is on you. I'd be more concerned about why she's doing it. Is there reason to suspect you or not. Understanding the why for me would help make my decision easier, but to just be paranoid and assume is cause to get dismissed imo.
*Angel*
Frozen Flames Goddess
Clearly you didn't comprehend what you read. Sounds like an argument a weak nikka with no defense would make. If a nikka calls me a hoe with no evidence or without me giving him a reason to suspect cheating, he has issues not me. No one tests a baby just because.
Break up a happy home and cause damage to the child because of your hurt ego brehettes
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Perhaps the same reason a man would want a paternity test.
O.T.I.S.
Veteran
I don't need stats I got real life experience..
shyt just happened last weekend when my homies chick went through his phone and found NOTHING while we was at a house party but still had an attitude because of old shyt she found...
And I gave an example earlier in the thread how a chick tried to trap another one of my homies.
As for me, I got cheated on but found out and left before old girl found out she was pregnant... What if I was just oblivious and she just had the baby with me still there and we didn't get a test.
So no.. chicks going phones is not the most nikkas have gone through. Sometimes its just all these dudes know about.
For me, a test is definitely necessary. Idgaf if she wants to be with me or not afterwards. My momma taught me to never put my 100% trust in anyone especially a woman so
If you wanna ride out after we have the test its your prerogative