Brehettes, what the hell is wrong with some of y’all? :dahell:

[Westbama Heartthrob]

Ladybird face at the end needs to be a smiley

 

[TheKongoEmpire]

You are a rapist

 

[The Burger King]

Imma ask some pointed questions.

Why is being affectionate towards your partner associated with children or lesser beings?

The issue isn’t really affection, per se. I don’t have an issue hugging her, kissing her, giving her attention, etc.

I’m just not the overly emotional or overly expressive type when it comes to dealing with other adults whether it be my girlfriend or one of my friends.

I will say a minute part of it is an aversion to judgment. You do have to admit there are women out there who will ask for that type of behavior from a man and then complain about him being “too soft” when she finally gets what she asked for.

Whereas a dog or a young baby won’t judge you for it.

My main thing is that I don’t believe in being fake. Just like I wouldn’t try and pressure her into sex if she’s not in the mood for it or wouldn’t like it if she faked orgasms, I’m not going to behave in a manner that isn’t sincere.

Inadvertently, you are actually telling us a lot about yourself. Stoicism is cool and all, but if your partner is so starved for affection that she is resentful of your dog…there is a an issue there. Tbh this isn’t a gender thing. There are men who get jealous of children when they are born because of the attention their wives give to their children.
People will say, “get over it” or question “why u need that level of affection or attention anyway”?

But we need to be careful about demonizing people for their needs. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting more affection from your partner. That’s a need she has. Just like I’m sure there are needs you have too.

Either she will accept that she can’t get that need met with you and look elsewhere or you can decide to show that to her.

Or it could feel unnatural to you and it may show a major area of incompatibility. Personally, I think this is workable but only if you want to.

People take a lot of energy to deal with in relationships, and hey don’t even have to be doing anything wrong. They can be draining sometimes. But they are worth it methinks.

It’s double sided, though, like a lot of brehs are saying.

I manage restaurants 50 hours a week and then I have my own little catering company I’m building up on the side.

I make very good money and I like what I do, but it is stressful in the current stage that I’m at.

Let’s also add in the fact that I box 2-3x a week and I lift weights 3-4x a week and dedicate an evening out of the week to meal prep.

I work hard to make good money, have a nice physique and the ability to defend myself and my woman.

These are things women want from a man but many of y’all fail to understand there’s a trade off.

You think after a man has done all of that stuff listed above, he wants to hear his woman complain about the same shyt over and over again?

Nah, we get tired too just like y’all do. If my girl has had a rough day at work, despite what many Coli alpha males say I’m not going to expect her to cook for me and suck me off.

She’s a gorgeous chick, there are plenty of broke and nikkas that would give her all of the attention and affection she wants, but for some reason she ain’t with them.

The rape guy is lowkey right, just an emotional intelligence thing. Women love to vent and complain. You (like me) are probably the logical type who seeks to fix problems that are brought to you so this type of behavior from women becomes mind numbing. She bytches about the same thing daily yet does nothing about it. Thats women

For a logical guy it's tough but try to participate in the conversation without offering solutions just support. "Oh wow the new regional manager is such a dikk blah blah blah." It feels awkward and fukking stupid to me too but this is what they want

I agree breh but the issue is she doesn’t want advice, ok cool.

Then when I just listen to what she has to say it’s “I feel like I’m talking to myself, why aren’t you saying anything?”

 

[The Burger King]

https://www.thecoli.com/threads/a-coli-breh-admits-to-rape.675610/#post-31842746

Read through the thread. He is the type to rape someone’s daughter and ask her about her mental health afterwards.

 

[Kenny West]

The issue isn’t really affection, per se. I don’t have an issue hugging her, kissing her, giving her attention, etc.

I’m just not the overly emotional or overly expressive type when it comes to dealing with other adults whether it be my girlfriend or one of my friends.

I will say a minute part of it is an aversion to judgment. You do have to admit there are women out there who will ask for that type of behavior from a man and then complain about him being “too soft” when she finally gets what she asked for.

Whereas a dog or a young baby won’t judge you for it.

My main thing is that I don’t believe in being fake. Just like I wouldn’t try and pressure her into sex if she’s not in the mood for it or wouldn’t like it if she faked orgasms, I’m not going to behave in a manner that isn’t sincere.


It’s double sided, though, like a lot of brehs are saying.

I manage restaurants 50 hours a week and then I have my own little catering company I’m building up on the side.

I make very good money and I like what I do, but it is stressful in the current stage that I’m at.

Let’s also add in the fact that I box 2-3x a week and I lift weights 3-4x a week and dedicate an evening out of the week to meal prep.

I work hard to make good money, have a nice physique and the ability to defend myself and my woman.

These are things women want from a man but many of y’all fail to understand there’s a trade off.

You think after a man has done all of that stuff listed above, he wants to hear his woman complain about the same shyt over and over again?

Nah, we get tired too just like y’all do. If my girl has had a rough day at work, despite what many Coli alpha males say I’m not going to expect her to cook for me and suck me off.

She’s a gorgeous chick, there are plenty of broke and nikkas that would give her all of the attention and affection she wants, but for some reason she ain’t with them.



I agree breh but the issue is she doesn’t want advice, ok cool.

Then when I just listen to what she has to say it’s “I feel like I’m talking to myself, why aren’t you saying anything?”

been there

 

[Dave24]

The issue isn’t really affection, per se. I don’t have an issue hugging her, kissing her, giving her attention, etc.

I’m just not the overly emotional or overly expressive type when it comes to dealing with other adults whether it be my girlfriend or one of my friends.

I will say a minute part of it is an aversion to judgment. You do have to admit there are women out there who will ask for that type of behavior from a man and then complain about him being “too soft” when she finally gets what she asked for.

Whereas a dog or a young baby won’t judge you for it.

My main thing is that I don’t believe in being fake. Just like I wouldn’t try and pressure her into sex if she’s not in the mood for it or wouldn’t like it if she faked orgasms, I’m not going to behave in a manner that isn’t sincere.


It’s double sided, though, like a lot of brehs are saying.

I manage restaurants 50 hours a week and then I have my own little catering company I’m building up on the side.

I make very good money and I like what I do, but it is stressful in the current stage that I’m at.

Let’s also add in the fact that I box 2-3x a week and I lift weights 3-4x a week and dedicate an evening out of the week to meal prep.

I work hard to make good money, have a nice physique and the ability to defend myself and my woman.

These are things women want from a man but many of y’all fail to understand there’s a trade off.

You think after a man has done all of that stuff listed above, he wants to hear his woman complain about the same shyt over and over again?

Nah, we get tired too just like y’all do. If my girl has had a rough day at work, despite what many Coli alpha males say I’m not going to expect her to cook for me and suck me off.

She’s a gorgeous chick, there are plenty of broke and nikkas that would give her all of the attention and affection she wants, but for some reason she ain’t with them.



I agree breh but the issue is she doesn’t want advice, ok cool.

Then when I just listen to what she has to say it’s “I feel like I’m talking to myself, why aren’t you saying anything?”

@The Burger King dope post! Admire your success and hard work! I was wondering is it possible I could live with you and be a roommate? You already about my life situation but maybe ecan become successful like you and you can be a mentor of sorts to me and help with getting my life together? Also maybe I could work for you under one of your business as well. What do you think?

 

[The Burger King]

@The Burger King dope post! Admire your success and hard work! I was wondering is it possible I could live with you and be a roommate? You already about my life situation but maybe ecan become successful like you and you can be a mentor of sorts to me and help with getting my life together? Also maybe I could work for you under one of your business as well. What do you think?

I mean breh, I appreciate it but I ain’t really trying to have a roommate, I like my privacy.

If you could get to DFW by the end of the year, I could hire you as a caterer and help you find an apartment in Dallas but this is a very loaded question that would be better suited for DMs.

 

[Dave24]

I mean breh, I appreciate it but I ain’t really trying to have a roommate, I like my privacy.

If you could get to DFW by the end of the year, I could hire you as a caterer and help you find an apartment in Dallas but this is a very loaded question that would be better suited for DMs.

Ok cool, I understand where you are coming from

 

[7th Letter Specialist]

I bet OP ain't gotta worry about his dog finding a new owner tho

..yea..nikka...now what

 

[BigMan]

Dump that bytch

 

[UpAndComing]

She could be upset because she’s been having issues at her job and she feels like I’m not listening to her complaints about said job.

We had a discussion about it, she mentioned the issues at her job and I told her she should quit.

I even offered to give her a job until she can find something better. Her father did too (they’re Igbo and run a bunch of African food marts here in DFW).

But at the same time, I don’t know what she expects me to say when she keeps complaining about the same shyt over and over again and I’ve already offered her a solution.

Wait, you dating an Igbo girl?

This changes everything. You are 100% wrong and say sorry

 

[The Fade]

Set up a time to go shopping for a leash and a crate. Let her pick them out.

 

[The Burger King]

Wait, you dating an Igbo girl?

This changes everything. You are 100% wrong and say sorry

We’re past it, last time we hung out she apologized and said she was emotional because she was about to get on her period.

 

[DA_LURKA]

she was emotional because she was about to get on her period

In my experience when women get extra irrational that's usually the culprit...

 

[O.T.I.S.]

So last night I was on the phone with my girl, talking after work.

My dog, a female Toxirn, came to my room and I spoke to her like how most people speak to their pets.

Very affectionate, like a little child basically. Innocent enough, right?

Well apparently not, because my girl got pissed at this and told me she wishes I would speak to her like I speak to my dog.

A breh was fukking flabbergasted and I asked her “So you want me to speak to you like an actual bytch? ”

This made her even more upset and she went off on a rant talking about how I show my dog more affection than her and she literally started crying on the phone

Now I will admit I’m not the most affectionate dude out there.

I’m not really an openly emotional, touchy-feely type of dude. But at the same time I definitely show that I care through my actions.

So I told my parents about what happened and my Dad took my side, while my mother took my girlfriend’s side and can totally understand why my girl would want to be spoken to like a dog.

I don’t think this little problem is a threat to our relationship, so far she seems to be a pretty good catch.

We rarely if ever argue about anything, but I just want some feedback from some of the older brehs/brehettes on this shyt because I still can’t wrap my mind around this shyt.

Noticing a lot of women really just want to be treated like oversized kids…

No responsibilities in the relationship, no accountability, babying, no financial responsibilities, nothing.

Just treated like a princess not a partner. I’m not against showing affection but I need a partner.

Not a child, not dependent, but a partnership with what I would hope will be a great friend