Share your story with the coli fam Breh. How did you overcome that type of mentality?
Aight I won’t make it too long I got plenty of stories.
High school: Quit soccer. Started smoking weed occasionally, became lazy. I had so many girls throw it at me but my mind was all jacked up. I honestly thought none of them wanted me and they just wanted to be friends. I was hanging around the football players and the basketball players that were smashing EVERYTHING and a few teachers
. So I Assumed “why would they want me” and that grew as time went on. Lol one time this Jamaican girl in business class leaned on my shoulder and was rubbing my arms and she looked at me and said “what’s your type?” Bruh my response was “what you mean my blood type?”
. She knew I was innocent and gave me a kiss in class anyways. She was a few years older than me. Still didn’t know what to do with it. Had girls ask me out for prom my sophomore, jr, and sr year and I always said no. I was self conscious about my height (5’7”) and was flat broke. Had a fine Puerto Rican girl my Jr year ask me and I said no. Was at home playing call of duty that night.
Fast forward sr year I had a girl but she pretty much asked me out. I was still weak mentally.
College: dated the girl for about 2.5 years. She moved to another state and dated this marine and broke up with me via text. The best thing to have happened to me. I literally cried. That night I just made up my mind to change most aspects about my life and I did. I went to the gym, smallest and skinniest guy there probably now that I think about it. Excelled in school and got a 4.0 one semester, Pops was proud. I quit weed cold turkey my sr year. Got an internship at a great architecture firm and I was putting on lean muscle and looking solid.
I approached as many women as possible. My body count is low but I needed to develop social skills. Definition of thirsty. But I didn’t always want to sleep with them. I just needed the social skills. I surrounded myself with homies that had the same goals and aspirations as I did and naturally women with the same aspirations gravitated towards each other. I developed social skills and most importantly became 100% comfortable with myself.
My word of advice for bruhs with the same mentality would be to excel in something. Whether it’s school, job, gym etc. find something and be great at it. Find your passion and pursue it. That drive will help you in other area in life trust me on that.
Next would be quit the porn and the jacking off. You need the testosterone. There’s beauty in every women. A lot of dudes want the finest girl in the world. The average shy girl that’s been hitting you up could end up being a very significant person in your life.
Her laugh, her jokes, the way she looks at you, the way she expresses her dependence on you, Care, and nurture for you and how she always has your back can be far more beautiful than a big ass or t*ts.
To my younger bruhs I would suggest meeting many different women from different cultures. Learn from them. Learn to cook their food, learn a new. Language. You know how many women become available to you when you learn a new language? They say one way into a girls heart to speak to her with her mother/fathers tongue. I’m not saying ditch your women and c00n it up. What I’m saying is be more attractive. Have charisma, go and experience life so you can share these stories the new women you meet. Go solo solo on a vacation and make yourself uncomfortable. Switch up your cut. Grow a beard, shave, get the 5 o’clock shadow, buy some new cologne and a Nice watch and go out By yourself so that your comfortable with yourself. Get a new outfit it doesn’t be need to Be expensive but it better fit like a glove. Find a button up that Accentuates your biceps or your shoulders or your traps. Get some apple cider vinegar and baking soda tooth paste and get your teeth a bit whiter. Cut soda and drink water and clear your acne. Go and lift weights and see how strong and aesthetic your body can Be. Eat a bit healthier. Try yoga because chances are there’s a very high percentage that there are women there. Learn to build up sexual tension, learn to read cues, learn to converse, learn how to tell a story. Learn how to approach a woman In a way that it isn’t a “yes or no” situation. Peak her interest and if she isn’t interested it’s not like she said “yes or no”. For example I was Talking to a woman about trying to be vegetarian for a month and she was telling me about recipes. I pulled out my business card and said something like, “let’s continue this conversation here’s my business card hit me up anytime after 5 and it was nice talking to you.” I really had to jet because I had to make it to the gym before a date
I’m telling you go and follow your passion everything else is a plus. If she’s doesn’t call so what. Just be interesting. Nobody likes bland food, nobody Wants to take a bland vacation, nobody watches the NBDL lmao! nobody likes bland people period. Go out and live bruhs life is short. Can’t tell you how many times my life has changed just because I forced myself to be uncomfortable and went out and said hello to someone.
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