BW: Black Men Can’t Afford To Have Wives Because They Take Care Of Their Broke Single Mothers

[xiceman191]

As a parent your kids aren't supposed to be your safety net because you refuse to improve yourself.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

I wouldn't say that anyone owes their family anything, but what would be the point of being rich if not to share it with your family?

 

[NinoBrown]

Imma have to agree to disagree with u boss. Family is everything. My parents made sure I had what i needed and I will do the same for them.

Both my parents were neglectful, abusive, and narcissistic...nevermind the gambling and substance abuse issues....but hey, "Take care of them anyway"...

Having to learn how to tie a tie for a college interview because your father is off getting high or with a sidepiece...

Naw....they are on their own...

 

[5n0man]

And while some are saying "put them in a position to make money" reality is. Some just don't want to work for it

I've seen this shyt first hand. One of my homies is married to Jimmy Smith's(cornerback for the ravens) sister and some of the shyt his family pulls sounds crazy. Dude has a brother that's good at cutting hair so he bought him a barbershop. nikkas never did anything with it, just an unopened building to this day, but dude is always callin talking about he needs 10k. He'll give a family member some money and they'll buy expensive ass jewelry with it and hit Jimmy up talking about they broke again and need another 20k. Bought his mom and dad a nice ass house, most of his siblings stay at the house but nobody could get some money together to pay the taxes on that shyt.

You'll go broke trying to help out family.

 

[badtguy]

Moms always ask me for something. I cant recall how many plane tickets I've paid for. None of those tickets were to see me either. Shyt I've even paid for her to go on a couple cruises. Ive never gone on a cruise myself

Lol. I laughed

 

[LeetStickMcGee]

As a NYC realtor who has seen hundreds of applications for expensive apartments I can tell you 100% certainty that this is the case.

I've had clients whose parents have given them an entire year of rent upfront so they don't have to worry. I'm talking a 40k wire transfer for a one bedroom.

More common though is parents being able to act as cosigner's on leases. I have white clients making 70k at 32 years old living in expensive apartments because daddy who makes 400k is cosigning and giving them money.

They're also able to stay in schoolonger for advanced degrees when they know they have the back up of their parents.

My black clients RARELY have this luxury. More often than not mom is collecting checks from the child.

There needs to be a discussion about the lack of money management in the black community. It's a damn lie that many of us are poor. I know plenty of folks(my mom included) who would be well off had they made smarter decisions growing up. If we didn't have money jews., Arabs and Asians wouldn't set up shop in our neighborhood the way they always have.

And this is why reparations given as a check ONLY will have us back at square one. We need additional programs and financial education.

 

[Grand Eeezus Maxwell]

Twitter obsessed with black men, rape and fakkitry...Jesus!
Jesus

 

[Colicat]

Sadly, it's the racial wealth gap. Many people have to help their parents after they graduate college -- and even those who never went to college.

Most White people don't have that issue -- so therefore they can have a relationship that doesn't involved needing to help their families.

It’s not only that, they are getting inheritances.

Business are being passed down.

College educations are being paid for and subsidized.

Coveted internships can be taken because they don’t have to work for pay.

Acres of land, grandma’s house, and family farms are getting passed down.

Parents are giving homes, condos, or down payments for homes as graduation gifts.

The wealth gap is so much more than just taking care of other relatives financially.

Yet some folks out here complaining that one person is trying to keep 5 adults afloat?

Those folks need to direct all that energy in the right damn place.

 

[luckyse7enz]

As the coolest and wisest person my toddler will ever know, he should be pleased to have me retire in his beachfront guest house.

 

[mag357]

I agree, but that's a parent job. The only thing a son or daughter have to do is pay it forward to their offspring

I personally don't believe that...
Family is supposed to take care of family..
Ur a kid and cant take care of urself, so ur parents take care of u...
I feel like ur goal as offspring is to get to a point where ur parents dont have to work or at least work less..

 

[mag357]

I don’t “take care” of my mom, but she knows everything she did and does is appreciated, as much as I can. I don’t do for her because I feel obligated to, I do because I want to.

That kinda mentality that you owe your mom is kinda toxic imo. Moms taking care of their children up to adulthood is their job. Unless she’s physically incapable of taking care of herself, or has no mate to do it, it’s not the child’s job to take care of any capable adult. Do it outta kindness, not obligation, or just don’t do it

Everybody is different...
And this is why I think blacks are kinda fukk up tho...
Ur mother takes care of u.. not cause it's her job but because ur family and she loves/cares for u...
Niggsz really cool wit seeing they're mother and fathers out here working cause they're capable adults...
To me that's craziness...
Me not trying to make my parents life easier as they get older... is me failing as a son... imo

 

[King Poetic]

It’s not only that, they are getting inheritances.

Business are being passed down.

College educations are being paid for and subsidized.

Coveted internships can be taken because they don’t have to work for pay.

Acres of land, grandma’s house, and family farms are getting passed down.

Parents are giving homes, condos, or down payments for homes as graduation gifts.

The wealth gap is so much more than just taking care of other relatives financially.

Yet some folks out here complaining that one person is trying to keep 5 adults afloat?

Those folks need to direct all that energy in the right damn place.

100%facts


also add the fact these white kids parents leave life insurance policies behind which even help out the family even more....

a lot of us black folks families don't leave shyt behind for their kids.... this will continue even when we passed away

 

[Lýba'rhaésheýun]

Dont take care of ppl who take care of ur needy for 18yrs, bruh

You didn't ask to be born bruh, its good thing to do, at the same time this mindset as to where you just owe someone for the rest of your natural life cause they decided to have you is nonsense...

But in the black community alot of us don't really hold are mothers accountable for a thing they give her passes no one else gets even when she don't deserve it.

 

[mag357]

It's a blessing to help your parents -- especially if you were raised by the kind that provide a loving home and took care of you well.

THIS right here all damn day long

 

[LeetStickMcGee]

100%facts


also add the fact these white kids parents leave life insurance policies behind which even help out the family even more....

a lot of us black folks families don't leave shyt behind for their kids.... this will continue even when we passed away

It's why almost every black family starts back at square #1 and we don't go anywhere. We don't think of our financial future.