BW complaining because the BM she WANTS do not see her as exotic

[Shadow King]

Yeah I've seen that too but it makes no sense...a lot of AA babies come out light as hell in the beginning. My kids were all like Vanessa Williams complexion when they popped out but are now closer to Eddie Murphy (like my wife and I).

This is a wild ass swing

Even when they date Black women the tilt is towards mixed or lighter chicks many times. I don't get where they think White dating society is immune from colorism. Otherwise why are BW (and BM) in the bottom of the rank in these online dating studies?

I don't know any personal life examples, but from I have been able to see, this isn't necessarily the case. Many of these pairings are darker women who echo this woman.

 

[DrBanneker]

You don’t know that in Indian culture the fairest and most narrrowed featured women are put on the highest pedestal yet the majority of Indian women are brown skinned and have medium features?

You don’t know that in East Asian culture the palest looking Asian women with (again) finer features are placed on the pedestal by their own men and society?

The same is applied to Latin women and even to a degree white women (with blonde hair blue eyes seen as the most beautiful)

You’re speaking as if it’s only black women that are under appreciated by their own men.

The reality is that it’s only black women that are the most vocal about this (in the media) compared to other non-black who experience the same but aren’t running to podcasts and magazines to talk about it

I put this is another post too since I lived in some of those places. To be fair, Indian women are getting more vocal but Asian women are still in the matrix.

I remember telling a Chinese girl she had a pretty tan and she nearly broke down in tears.

The ironic thing is Black people, especially women, are vocal about this because the Black community actually cares in aggregate and realizes colorism is detrimental. If they talk that shyt in LatAm or Asia people will put them on ignore. If Black men didn't care they wouldn't scream about it since they would know there would be no reaction.

 

[DrBanneker]

I don't know any personal life examples, but from I have been able to see, this isn't necessarily the case. Many of these pairings are darker women who echo this woman.

It is not necessarily the case but the skew is there. It is just the White population is so much bigger, the outliers give dark skin women a pool.

Why are people trying to make themselves believe they can escape Eurocentric standards of beauty by chasing those people who originated them?

It's real perplexing.

 

[O.Red]

You are not overthinking it. That’s exactly how it happens LOL

You better find some local Black programs, organizations, etc or yes, your son will definitely have a preference for mixed and white girls. How could he not if that’s all he sees during his development?


The only dark skinned female representation will be his mom and whatever is shown in the media. Eventually which one will be the stronger influence?

This is a huge elephant in the room and a pillar of the side effects of black folks moving to the suburbs when they get money

You raise these black kids like they're white and raise them around white people the likelihood of them seeking white acceptance and companionship is extremely high

Now your son is 16 and you're hurt because his last two girlfriends were white

But when it comes to acknowledging the side effects of assimilation black folks hide their heads or get offended mainly because these black folks LOVE being around white people

If your black child hasn't spent their formative years around black people and some form of blackness they are gonna be fukked up mentally. I've seen it 100 times

 

[Neuromancer]

to be honest I can't relate to any of this, my dad was dark skin and had kids with dark or brown skin women.

I have never seen good looking dark skin person have it hard in dating. You can may be argue that a below avg light skin person may get 1-2 more "points" but in reality them folks aint ending up in any situation of quality so who fukking cares. Women are selfish as shyt and most of their complaints stem from why isn't the person I`m not qualified for trying to sweep me off my feet

Both my parents are dark skinned. My mom was chased after by mad dudes and my dad got mad women. (Verified by independent sources.)

 

[prime]

Like i said….

Use black men in a negative light to hide the fact she like white guys..

That’s what all of them do on TikTok and YouTube I been peep game

 

[Neuromancer]

Why are people trying to make themselves believe they can escape Eurocentric standards of beauty by chasing those people who originated them?

It's real perplexing

Self hatred is a mental illness and antithetical to survival so it's probably some deep seeded need to self destruct.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Almost as if blackness hasn’t been vilified for hundreds of years causing its victims and their descendants to suffer great mental depressions from it.

There’s so much people can learn from history, yet no one wants to actually go looking for it.

Not all black people hate their black skin, so the excuse of being vilified doesn't apply anymore. If you really put some thought into it, the problem stems with women and their bird brains.

I hate to say it, but women are largely dumb. Even if they're perfect in our eyes, in God's eye, they'll still get cosmetic surgery. They should have never been given social media. That black woman in the op is just an insecure shyt head.

 

[prime]

She's liitereally Blaming Black Men for not promoting her image so she could appeal to the white biys she wants i.e. Blaming Black Men for being born a Black woman.

Chicks like her envy asian and latin chicks for their ease of getting the white dudes that she covets.

Bro I been saying this for years if white men wanted to date BW the numbers would be the same as WM/AW couples I am talking about late millennial women (89-95) and gen z women

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

She's liitereally Blaming Black Men for not promoting her image so she could appeal to the white biys she wants i.e. Blaming Black Men for being born a Black woman.

Chicks like her envy asian and latin chicks for their ease of getting the white dudes that she covets.

Bro I been saying this for years if white men wanted to date BW the numbers would be the same as WM/AW couples I am talking about late millennial women (89-95) and gen z women

No I disagree. The real answer has been in our face all this time. Women are bird brains and social media has made it worse. White, Asian, black, it don't matter. Why do y'all think women of all races get surgery even if they look good? Every woman wants to be perfect.

Ayesha Curry was light skinned and STILL insecure about not getting attention.

 

[Piff Perkins]

Even when they date Black women the tilt is towards mixed or lighter chicks many times. I don't get where they think White dating society is immune from colorism. Otherwise why are BW (and BM) in the bottom of the rank in these online dating studies?

Most people date within their race, so a white man preferring women who are white or look white-ish shouldn't be stunning. Yet these are the same women who threw a fit on twitter when Chris Evans revealed his white girlfriend. The delusion and entitlement is insane.

Someone deciding to date you is not a morality statement by a man. We need to kill that. A white man dating a black woman doesn't mean he's a good man, or is not impacted by colorism, or is progressive. It more often than not just means...he likes you. Pretty simple but that's why most people date someone regardless of race and there's nothing wrong with that. Date who you want. There's a weird inferiority complex at play from some black women who feel the only way they can feel empowered is via the approval of a white man. At which point they start shytting on black men for not appreciating their hair, their skin tone, etc. Never mind that black men are dating and marrying black women more than anyone else on the planet.

Twitter is nonstop gender warfare, specifically against black men. shyt is tiring.

 

[Ahadi]

Why do all the crybully swirling/divestor feminazis all have the same fake valley girl accent? (also, why do their sycophant males all have that whiny soyboy 'upward inflection' voice?)

I swear that western academia has infiltrated black western cultures.

BW that watch love island is starting to be a red flag….

 

[DrBanneker]

You don’t know that in Indian culture the fairest and most narrrowed featured women are put on the highest pedestal yet the majority of Indian women are brown skinned and have medium features?

You don’t know that in East Asian culture the palest looking Asian women with (again) finer features are placed on the pedestal by their own men and society?

The same is applied to Latin women and even to a degree white women (with blonde hair blue eyes seen as the most beautiful)

You’re speaking as if it’s only black women that are under appreciated by their own men.

The reality is that it’s only black women that are the most vocal about this (in the media) compared to other non-black who experience the same but aren’t running to podcasts and magazines to talk ab

We are in J&J, they on play on Black sports teams and go to Black things already. Luckily the Black community in our area is relatively tight so we know a lot of people and we are building networks in the Black middle class parts of PA and NJ they are getting acclimated to. We may actually move in a couple years too.

It would be nice to live in ATL or Maryland but we are doing well enough with what we have for now.

 

[Neuromancer]

Most people date within their race, so a white man preferring women who are white or look white-ish shouldn't be stunning. Yet these are the same women who threw a fit on twitter when Chris Evans revealed his white girlfriend. The delusion and entitlement is insane.

Someone deciding to date you is not a morality statement by a man. We need to kill that. A white man dating a black woman doesn't mean he's a good man, or is not impacted by colorism, or is progressive. It more often than not just means...he likes you. Pretty simple but that's why most people date someone regardless of race and there's nothing wrong with that. Date who you want. There's a weird inferiority complex at play from some black women who feel the only way they can feel empowered is via the approval of a white man. At which point they start shytting on black men for not appreciating their hair, their skin tone, etc. Never mind that black men are dating and marrying black women more than anyone else on the planet.

Twitter is nonstop gender warfare, specifically against black men. shyt is tiring.

Glad you seeing the light.

 

[Gloxina]

You don’t know that in Indian culture the fairest and most narrrowed featured women are put on the highest pedestal yet the majority of Indian women are brown skinned and have medium features?

You don’t know that in East Asian culture the palest looking Asian women with (again) finer features are placed on the pedestal by their own men and society?

The same is applied to Latin women and even to a degree white women (with blonde hair blue eyes seen as the most beautiful)

You’re speaking as if it’s only black women that are under appreciated by their own men.

The reality is that it’s only black women that are the most vocal about this (in the media) compared to other non-black who experience the same but aren’t running to podcasts and magazines to talk about it.

This is very true- colorism is rampant in Indian culture. And I know skin bleaching is big in East Asia and South Korea is damn near the plastic surgery capital of the world, because being light is the ideal.

But I don’t really care about the details of their issues like they don’t care about ours. My chief concern is my community. Not white girls who aren’t blondes, but still have WHITE skin and white privilege

You think a brunette who is still part of the dominant group has the same experience as a dark skinned black woman in America? Lmao