HarlemHottie
Uptown Thoroughbred
Do you date ds women?
BW complaining because the BM she WANTS do not see her as exotic
HARLEM AL
Your broad loves me.....
I've dated all colors of women except for white. My son mother, Jet black, my daughter's mother Brown skin. i didnt give a fukk then and I still dont give a fukk now.Do you date ds women?
The funny shyt is i got more play from light skin women than I did dark skin women.
Side Note: the real colorist are women. you want to know how I know? Because they are the only ones are concerned about whats the color under a baby's finger nails and behind their ears. They be examining the damn baby with a microscope. That said I do know there is a few goofy nikkas who go crazy over red bones.
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HARLEM AL
Your broad loves me.....
Same for me as far as getting more play from light skin women than dark skin women. I always though it was funny when my female friends would tell me that I have a type, I'd tell them you haven't seen the women that shot me down only the ones that gave me play.
HARLEM AL
Your broad loves me.....
Fam, this the fukking truth. Then when I see them with dudes that they like im side eying them. Im not even going to into the nikkas that they are fukking on the low. Total opposite of who they say they into. Man thats a totally different discussion.....
DrBanneker
Space is the Place
Good knowledge from a brehette. Makes sense. Your man won.
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That’s cool.
I guess my point is high numbers of BM don’t get online and talk about how much they hate LS women. Why is that??
Ezekiel 25:17
Veteran
I don't know. I just know this world ain't shyt. Stay offline as much as you can, if anything keep it locked down. Surround yourself with positive people and let the losers wallow in hate.
Yea instead of making this long some thread I was in last month someone randomly posted ronaldo and you paused your response to mention how attractive he was has this ever been the case for a black man on hereIt’s not that their intentions aren’t “pure”; it’s that hurt people hurt people.
I’ll be honest- I’m “brown skinned” and have experienced men checking to make sure my veins are visible (that’s some old school shyt if ppl don’t know), ppl telling me “oh you’re not that dark”, “oh, well at least your hair isn’t, you know, you know (meaning kinky/nappy)”.
And with all that negros still looked me in my face and said “I usually only date LS girls but…”
So I get it. The caveat is that being brown and “attractive” means that you hear ignorant shyt but still slip in, or you aren’t “too dark” so you aren’t the stereotypical prize but no one is denigrating you or your man’s choice because everyone else thinks you’re too dark.
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This affects dark skin men, of course, but it hits women way more harshly because men are the pursuers and a woman has to be desired and considered attractive for a man to approach. When your community obviously has an issue with skin color you’re dealing with
1- being outside the standard of beauty of your own men who overwhelmingly would prefer a lighter woman (all things considered equal)
2- being outside the standard of beauty of mainstream society so you have to deal with a lot of your own men viewing you as a consolation prize AND stereotypes/issues dealing with mainstream society.
The type of insulting shyt that is said to/about dark skinned women, or just being ignored by men in general.
Like I’ve said before- when you are a beautiful dark skinned woman like Justine Sky, Kelly Rowland. Aja, Naomi Campbell, Coco Jones, etc you can walk in a room and get the attention of quality Black men AND quality men of other races.
Just like men with money have their pick of women even if they aren’t considered that attractive.
Beauty is the trump card for women, and in an anti-black /anti- dark skinned environment your beauty is downgraded unless it’s undeniable because you’re a dime.
There’s a reason why men say “when a dark skinned chick is bad she shuts everything down”. Why is that? Because people don’t expect to see or consider darker women “bad”. They look at lighter women as more attractive off rip.
Someone here called it the “light skinned stimulus” LOL
This lady has experienced that shyt and is describing her experience, and speaking out of pain.
White men certainly aren’t better, and yea- she may not be considered attractive by the top 10% of brehs (which does seem to be the complaint of a lot of women yapping online), but she’s ultimately speaking out of pain.
That “exotic”/mixed preference shyt is REAL. Any Black woman with “good hair” is expressly told how beautiful her hair is, how much her curls are loved, etc. Very few of y’all are fawning over true 4c kinky hair. You might prefer that a woman be natural for the sake of not being fake, but the true tell is when a woman gets an undetectable weave. The difference in treatment from our own men is telling.
HarlemHottie
Uptown Thoroughbred
That's actually not surprising. I'm brown skin and ds men don't really be feeling me like that, but light brights love me. My bro super light and his wife was ds. Both sets of my grandparents were 'mismatched' like that too.
That's how we all end up medium brown eventually.
Sexual and social access. Not really rights.
The gaslighting in this thread
So black men. Who lived in hundreds of years of social conditioning along side black women, who also spent decades chasing any exotical they could find, and publically and loudly announcing how they like lite skin/long hair, talm bout chicks jumping in pools and coming out different, white chicks evolving. Nearly 40+ years of celebrities worshiped like GODS influencing blacks, seeing countless images of good things associated with whites and bad associated with black—-but none of that had any impact?
Now all of a sudden, all the brehs love 4c, kinky, Afro hair?!
And black women just lying about their whole collective experience. Like School Daze didn’t exist. Like Martin wasn’t clowning Pam for beady beads. But no. On the Coli, everybody making six figures. Everybody six ft tall. Everybody is a perfect catch and skin tones, hair texture and facial features that approximate white beauty standards don’t have an impact in our community.
Cool story bro. I remember black dudes circa early 2000s CLOWNING black chicks for even THINKING about going natural. Hell that’s part of what spawned the era of Shea butter Twitter. Black chicks literally had to work to enact legislation to protect themselves from discrimination in the workplace over their damn hair. Many black men don’t like or even know anything about natural black hair, ESPECIALLY on women. Black women creating their own natural hair movement to create a safe space and culture for them to wear their hair is what popularized natural hair culturally.
But only on the Coli. Just deny, deny, deny and blame bw.
On the other hand, equally embarrassing as some blk dudes gaslighting is black c00n females letting whites pet their hair for validation. Non-blk dudes asking to “touch your hair” is just as bad as Black dudes not liking “peppa-headed chicks”. It’s fetishization and dehumanizing no matter how you cut it. White b*stards cannot save any damn body b/c they started this shyt in the first place.
Luckily between weird, racists colonizers and self-hating blacks, there are many who genuinely like Afro-textured hair. And if they don’t, Fukk em. But I’m not gon sit here and pretend that certain people in our communities eyes don’t light up more when they see a bone straight blow out or some biracial curls over 4c textured hair. And I’m not even blaming black men or black women for being impacted by white supremacy. But we can’t work through shyt when we deny anything that makes us uncomfortable.
Theres just something about you.
a black woman who dream man is Jason Moma writing paragraph' shyting on black men for liking lightskin's, biracial's exotic's, latina's, olive skin, long curly hair women
the dumb nikkas that actually dap that bytch's hypocritical post's constantly preaching to black men about colorism, white women worship lost and are the biggest blindest idiots
10. One of the 3 dudes on my short list of attractive white dudes. There's only three. Chris Hemsworth, Cullen Rutherford, Jason Mamoa.
That body, those, eyes, the smile, the Pacific Islander look, that voice. Jason Mamoa bae for life.
Lmao! I forgot which one it was but those Jason Mamoa interviews be killing me. Dem chicks be eye fukking the whole time and he just so animated and oblivious. They don't even try to hide it
lmao at the comments
What you are referring to is the bitterness and resentment some NOT all of these dudes are exuding along with thirst in a lot of cases.
If u desperate for sex b/c u not getting any, ur energy is ENTIRELY different from dudes who are. This is also true for highly attractive men too. Men who are in command and very attractive on several levels are some of the most carefree types of guys around. Also some of the legitimately nicest dudes too. They not really slut-shaming or concerned about chicks body count. They not mad or resentful at women. None of the rules apply to them. Because they swimming in p*ssy and potential p*ssy. So they can afford to be nice and carefree.
Look at Jason Mamoa.
LMAO! This dude can obviously pull whoever, whenever. (
You think Jason sitting around mad, seething about bytches and hoes and that shyt? HOHs for what? This dude literally married who the fukk he wanted even tho Lisa Bonet is like 20 years older than him. People be talking shyt talm bout why a fine dude didn't choose somebody younger? B/c he's Jason Mamoa. He is free to date, marry, impregnate anybody he chooses b/c he has nothing to prove. Ain't gotta be disrespectful or an a$$hole.
Some very attractive people are legitimate a$$holes. Others are sweet and have a totally different energy b/c they ain't got nothing to prove, so they can enjoy life and women instead of worrying about em. They not on edge or frustrated. And if they face rejection, they get over it. I can't envision Mustafa Shakir sitting around hating women. He too busy making chicks shiver in his presence.
Same thing goes with women too.
Jason Mamoa
Jason got that
no you can't make this shyt upAnd how many followers, viewers do these types influence? We talk about tweets with a few thousand likes, but what about sold out stadiums, millions of fans? All of this has an impact on how we view ourselves in a white-washed society.
“Hair long black and curly like you Cuban”
I totally agree with this. So many divestors and swirlers saying BM don't like dark skinned women. They using some gaslighting tactics. They just should say they want white or non black men and find themselves one. There is no need to justify that they have preference...what they accuse BM of having. Like BW don't have preferences too...I been rejected before because I'm not a "preference." Shyt is ridiculous at this point. If u want non black men....just say that.
I dislike when BW do that...just say u like WM or non black men and find one.She was basically blaming black men as the reason she dates outside her race…
That's some gaslighting and projecting type shyt.
Asian women love white men and have their preferences...why can't BW?
People need therapy and living in real life offline instead of the internet.