By what age should a man have his shyt together?

[Diondon]

Yeah I'd say bout 25
Doesn't have to balling but doing alright
and most importantly handling his shyt like a grown man not on some Baby Boy shyt

 

[Tae]

That's the perfect chick to wife imo. I'm one of those dudes that don't want a chick with a BS, full time job, and got a whole bunch of shyt going on.... speaking from experience, there needs to be one weak link in the relationship... I prefer if it's the chick.

 

[The Mad Titan]

A man having his self together doesn't mean the same for everyone. It seems like people automatically like to think that means making good money, or having his own place. False...

 

[BlackBall]

26 years old

 

[Tae]

A man having his self together doesn't mean the same for everyone. It seems like people automatically like to think that means making good money, or having his own place. False...

What does it mean to you?

 

[Ohene]

lol at 25, a mere 2,3 years fresh out of school. this life shyt is a marathon.

I'd say 28-30 you should be stable with no frivolous debts, your own space, transportation, good clothing, perhaps a solid woman by your side etc. But theres no specific age

It's idiots saying shyt like "25" thats the reason why you have so many black males out here with car payments up the ass, student loans, credit card debt, a Beamer and designer clothing with no long term prospects to show for it...all to impress women and peers with such asinine expectations.

 

[MikelArteta]

Ehife is short as long as you are haply with yourself I say don't store up your treasures on earth

Roof over my head
Food in my belly
Job
Passport I'm good

Ever since my near death experience I enjoy my life, I'll worry about rainy days when they happen

Some PC contrived bs of money in the bank, wife and kids, a depreciation car a 25 year mortgage and a job you can lose any day isn't having it together for me

True.

But if you don't even have a savings account with a decent amount of money in there, and a steady job/income by 27 then you are hustling backwards in my opinion.
There is no security in life, but that is no reason to keep yourself stagnant.

 

[ProfessionallyTrill]

The age that works appropriately with his current situations. No man is the same.

Some of you young muhfukkas screamin numbers gonna be feelin like shyt when you're knockin on that number and aint nowhere close to stable.

Some men have no problem livin with moms til 25. Others got that independence at 18 but had bumps in the road towards being comfortable. Each choice comes with pros/cons which will affect your "stability" time.

nikkas out here saying "I need to have this and this by this time" are setting themselves up for a rude awakening.

 

[Tropical Fantasy]

There is no set age imo, everyone moves at their own pace.

 

[Ohene]

Some of you young muhfukkas screamin numbers gonna be feelin like shyt when you're knockin on that number and aint nowhere close to stable.

Some men have no problem livin with moms til 25. Others got that independence at 18 but had bumps in the road towards being comfortable. That comes with pros/cons which will affect your stability time.

nikkas out here saying "I need to have this by this time are setting themselves up for an awakening."

Real shyt. I'd love for nothing more than to move out my parents' house but I'm thinking long term. I aint moving out until I'm making at least $60K a year and even when I do I'll live at home for a year or two to stack bread before I make that move.

Even when I hear ppl say shyt like

"I wanna get married when I'm 25"
"You wanna have kids when youre 30? "
"Dont you wanna be able to do stuff with your kids?"

I cant help but @ them. The 20s are a grind time to me, I aint putting no timelines on myself.

 

[Carlton Banks]

Also, sometimes you get your shyt together (which by everyone's definition means moving out to your own place and having a steady job) and you're still not happy. That's the funny thing about life. We all strive for the same basic goal, and some of us when we get it, it's not good enough for us. That's why no man is the same. I had my own crib and decent job just last year and I realized that shyt wasn't my calling. Life taught me that i wanna travel the world. I ain't trying to work a 9 to 5 for the rest of my life just to keep a roof over my head that I'll spend most of my days not even seeing. Life's too big for that. Some people want that, but I'm looking at bigger goals. You gonna be old for the rest of your life than you'll be young. So why give an age to something so miniscule? I know ppl 21, 22, 23 that wish they didn't pack their bags and leave home so quick. Now they stuck at a job they hate dealing with shyt they don't wanna deal with all day every day. All cuz society says "get your shyt together by 22." It's really an American thing, other countries their families stick together. America's the only country telling you to live apart.

 

[MikelArteta]

Enjoy life
If you live till God willing 80 like the average CDN your not even halfway there yet.

Real shyt. I'd love for nothing more than to move out my parents' house but I'm thinking long term. I aint moving out until I'm making at least $60K a year and even when I do I'll live at home for a year or two to stack bread before I make that move.

Even when I hear ppl say shyt like

"I wanna get married when I'm 25"
"You wanna have kids when youre 30? "
"Dont you wanna be able to do stuff with your kids?"

I cant help but @ them. The 20s are a grind time to me, I aint putting no timelines on myself.

 

[The Mad Titan]

What does it mean to you?

For me personally it means stability and being able to provide for me or those I care for without putting them at risk. So to me having you're stuff together depends on you're situation. I don't have a wife or kid, realistically all I have to look out for is myself, and I make pretty decent money and go to work everyday. 2 years ago I moved back home with my mom and sister, not because I had to but because it was the smart thing to do and I get along with them great. I remember telling people that I stay with my mom and sister the face they always made was always













Little did they know

 

[Tae]

Also, sometimes you get your shyt together (which by everyone's definition means moving out to your own place and having a steady job) and you're still not happy. That's the funny thing about life. We all strive for the same basic goal, and some of us when we get it, it's not good enough for us. That's why no man is the same. I had my own crib and decent job just last year and I realized that shyt wasn't my calling. Life taught me that i wanna travel the world. I ain't trying to work a 9 to 5 for the rest of my life just to keep a roof over my head that I'll spend most of my days not even seeing. Life's too big for that. Some people want that, but I'm looking at bigger goals. You gonna be old for the rest of your life than you'll be young. So why give an age to something so miniscule? I know ppl 21, 22, 23 that wish they didn't pack their bags and leave home so quick. Now they stuck at a job they hate dealing with shyt they don't wanna deal with all day every day. All cuz society says "get your shyt together by 22." It's really an American thing, other countries their families stick together. America's the only country telling you to live apart.

Real shyt. I'd love for nothing more than to move out my parents' house but I'm thinking long term. I aint moving out until I'm making at least $60K a year and even when I do I'll live at home for a year or two to stack bread before I make that move.

Even when I hear ppl say shyt like

"I wanna get married when I'm 25"
"You wanna have kids when youre 30? "
"Dont you wanna be able to do stuff with your kids?"

I cant help but @ them. The 20s are a grind time to me, I aint putting no timelines on myself.

Its not about setting arbitrary goals/timelines. Its about setting yourself up for the future you want to live. Most dudes don't know what they realistically can do v.s. what they want to do with their life until their about 25. But once you finally realize the life you want to live you have to create a plan and put it into action. Everything won't go according to plan but at least you'll have the framework.

If you decide you want to travel the world and not work a 9-5, what is your game plan to make that happen?
If you don't want to move out of your parents house until you have at least 60k saved that's fine, but are you stacking your bread or are you spending it on material things?

Too many people out here are "living for the day" and not thinking about tomorrow, that is why so many people are in debt.

Some of you young muhfukkas screamin numbers gonna be feelin like shyt when you're knockin on that number and aint nowhere close to stable.

Some men have no problem livin with moms til 25. Others got that independence at 18 but had bumps in the road towards being comfortable. Each choice comes with pros/cons which will affect your "stability" time.

nikkas out here saying "I need to have this and this by this time" are setting themselves up for a rude awakening.

 

[Wild self]

There is no right age, everyone is different and deals with different situations in life.

Your not guaranteed a stable job regardless of your education, having a car also is not a validation of anything.

Every man should validate himself inside , as long as you are content with yourself ditto what the outside world thinks

I'm about to give up my car once I start working from home and oh yeah I lice at home but I have over 400k in equity.

If I didn't mention that you'd think I wasn't stable right?

Exactly. Especially in the post 2008 economy. Best thing for you to do is strive for something better everyday and stay that course till you make it. Education and skills are still not enough for that "good" 9-5 job. Don't let these women shame you and end up being broke because you had to uphold an image.