Can Ya Girl Be Too Friendly?

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married girl at work made me food, got me sentimental gifts, lingered a lil long for hugs, sought me out during meetings, we dmed before, during & after work, made out during afterwork parties & we'd skip work to hangout. i'm fortunate that your girl is my girl, so i love it when they're friendly.
 

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I think some men confuse a woman's friendliness with being flirtatious which stems from insecurity.

I feel like a man who is secure about himself and the relationship he has with his woman, meaning he trusts her, and can count on the fact that she's for him and only him, he wouldn't be stressing about her being “friendly” (or should I say courteous) towards other guys in general settings.

An insecure man is the opposite, he isn't confident about himself and the relationship he has with his woman. He'll deny the allegations, but subconsciously, he believes another man, who may possibly be better than himself (looks, finances, personality, charm, etc), could steal his woman's attention, etc.

This reminds me of why some men don't want their woman having male friends, it's because of their closeted insecurities, in which, another man they potentially perceived to be better than them has a chance of stealing their girl's heart.

This all comes down to some men being more insecure and unsure of themselves than others, as well as a lack of trust in their woman, which goes to my point about insecurities and unsureness (lack of confidence).
 
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Out of respect for my man, I'm never too friendly with other men. Plus me and my man work together. We never have those issues of him or I being too friendly with the opposite sex. Cordial yes, but nothing out of line or could be deemed as disrespectful. It's no need for it.
 

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I think some men confuse a woman's friendliness with being flirtatious which stems from insecurity.

I feel like a man who is secure about himself and the relationship he has with his woman, meaning he trusts her, and can count on the fact that she's for him and only him, he wouldn't be stressing about her being “friendly” (or should I say courteous) towards other guys in general settings.

An insecure man is the opposite, he isn't confident about himself and the relationship he has with his woman. He'll deny the allegations, but subconsciously, he believes another man, who may possibly be better than himself (looks, finances, personality, charm, etc), could steal his woman's attention, etc.

This reminds me of why some men don't want their woman having male friends, it's because of their closeted insecurities, in which, another man they potentially perceived to be better than them has a chance of stealing their girl's heart.

This all comes down to some men being more insecure and unsure of themselves than others.
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Yes but honestly in my personal experience, more often it was me being a lunatic :yeshrug:
Honestly I think this is what it is more times than not. Do you care to give an example when you over reacted?

I think some men confuse a woman's friendliness with being flirtatious which stems from insecurity.

I feel like a man who is secure about himself and the relationship he has with his woman, meaning he trusts her, and can count on the fact that she's for him and only him, he wouldn't be stressing about her being “friendly” (or should I say courteous) towards other guys in general settings.

An insecure man is the opposite, he isn't confident about himself and the relationship he has with his woman. He'll deny the allegations, but subconsciously, he believes another man, who may possibly be better than himself (looks, finances, personality, charm, etc), could steal his woman's attention, etc.

This reminds me of why some men don't want their woman having male friends, it's because of their closeted insecurities, in which, another man they potentially perceived to be better than them has a chance of stealing their girl's heart.

This all comes down to some men being more insecure and unsure of themselves than others, as well as a lack of trust in their woman, which goes to my point about insecurities and unsureness (lack of confidence).
Perfectly stated.

Out of respect for my man, I'm never too friendly with other men. Plus me and my man work together. We never have those issues of him or I being too friendly with the opposite sex. Cordial yes, but nothing out of line or could be deemed as disrespectful. It's no need for it.
What is "too friendly" exactly in your opinion?
 

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married girl at work made me food, got me sentimental gifts, lingered a lil long for hugs, sought me out during meetings, we dmed before, during & after work, made out during afterwork parties & we'd skip work to hangout. i'm fortunate that your girl is my girl, so i love it when they're friendly.​
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