David_TheMan
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Why wouldnt he pay for the maintance its his home?
Charging girlfriend rent on a property you own outright. Who’s right/wrong?
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I guess I'm a different little cupcake because I see everyone arguing right and wrong but I don't think like that at all. Who is "right" or "wrong" just depends on who you are in the scenario.
I think 2 people trying to move off of "principle" and be "right" instead of what is financially and emotionally best for everyone is cause for concern and probably why relationships don't work out the vast majority of the time. Being "right" doesn't make you happy.
I guess I'm more of a results oriented person. Who cares if you're "right" and the shyt doesn't work out in your favor?
Moving in with a man and contributing little will make that man look down on you and feel like he has "hand." Lol No woman should do that unless she is okay with being treated in a manner that alines with that.
Dude shouldn't move her in on some "you pay shyt." If the mortgage wasn't paid that would then give her rights to the property since she paid on it. Now that the mortgage is paid she's a whole tenant meaning that if the shyt goes south you gotta go throw a process to get her out. If you change the locks on a tenant it could result in jail time in some cities. That means you are stuck with her until the paperwork is done and that could take months or years.
Brehs trying to push breh into paying on some being "right" shyt are really pushing him into to doom. If he must move her in which, I don't advise, I would actually be legally smarter to just have her pay for the food and utilities. That way she has little to no tenants rights.
Some of ya'll gotta grow up. You're suppose to be "leaders" but still thinking in very childish terms. You gotta look at the whole pictures.
I think 2 people trying to move off of "principle" and be "right" instead of what is financially and emotionally best for everyone is cause for concern and probably why relationships don't work out the vast majority of the time. Being "right" doesn't make you happy.
I guess I'm more of a results oriented person. Who cares if you're "right" and the shyt doesn't work out in your favor?
Moving in with a man and contributing little will make that man look down on you and feel like he has "hand." Lol No woman should do that unless she is okay with being treated in a manner that alines with that.
Dude shouldn't move her in on some "you pay shyt." If the mortgage wasn't paid that would then give her rights to the property since she paid on it. Now that the mortgage is paid she's a whole tenant meaning that if the shyt goes south you gotta go throw a process to get her out. If you change the locks on a tenant it could result in jail time in some cities. That means you are stuck with her until the paperwork is done and that could take months or years.
Brehs trying to push breh into paying on some being "right" shyt are really pushing him into to doom. If he must move her in which, I don't advise, I would actually be legally smarter to just have her pay for the food and utilities. That way she has little to no tenants rights.
Some of ya'll gotta grow up. You're suppose to be "leaders" but still thinking in very childish terms. You gotta look at the whole pictures.
Regarding the bolded one has to wonder why the proposed arrangement isn't emotionally best for the woman, and what that says about her (and the prospects of the relationship). There is added nuance of course but ultimately that is what it boils down to.
I pay rent but I'm not on the deed to my landlord's property. Unless you physically log into BoA and make payments from your account to the mortgage, paying rent doesn't automatically give you equity. You're just paying for the right to squat.
And in some places, after a while you do obtain tenant rights just from living somewhere, even if you don't pay rent.
I agree with you that there are smarter ways to go about this for both sides. None of those ways involve leaving money on the table. He could have been more sensitive to her concerns.
Exactly, it's his home, his asset. Why wouldn't he profit off of it? Why would he let someone else siphon off $10000 per annum that can go towards repairs, or a 401k or investment fund?
If he had a financial advisor he would be advised to realign his priorities to get ahead in the long run.
It’s his house. He can charge what he wants. She doesn’t have to comply.she’s still saving money.
anyway my comment is speaking to the larger. Even if it was his house and he still had a mortgage... women overwhelmingly scoff at the thought that they should pay rent. Because she’s “helping him get equity in something she doesn’t own”
She's been doing that ever since she started renting apartments
if you don't own an asset (or haven't made the investment necessary to accumulate equity in an asset) you are renting and someone is making money off your desire for shyt. That is economics 101Why is that an issue all of a sudden because you're swapping fluids with the asset owner?
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More often than not I tend to take that L.
What’s the point in having a man if he makes you pay for stuff??Next he’s gonna make me pump my own gas and wash my own car. Might as well be single.
SadimirPutin
Superstar
All you need to do is change the genders of who owned the house and who wanted to move in and then watch the light bulb go off in people's head
In that case the first thing that would be said is how a grown ass man expect to move in and dont pay rent......
It comes down to this.....if you move into my house what IS THE BENEFIT TO ME if we are not married or have children
In that case the first thing that would be said is how a grown ass man expect to move in and dont pay rent......
It comes down to this.....if you move into my house what IS THE BENEFIT TO ME if we are not married or have children
SadimirPutin
Superstar
People talking bout they can open a joint account with the money she saving
They afraid to ask for rent money but all of a sudden gonna expect that she is going to put money in joint savings that he can dip into.
I addressed this question in my second post in this thread. There are many reasons this could not possibly be wise.
1. If gives him control over your housing situation while he isn't trying to offer proper tenant rights ie he can throw you out on a whim
2. If he doesn't see as a long term perspective it keeps you emotionally and physically connected while limiting your options
3. He could just be using her emotionally to get extra money ie selling her a dream
4. He could have rules in his home that could be emotionally damaging to her
5. Also idk if you have ever lived with someone but people tend to get a god complex in situations like this even when you are paying fair price. And many times they try to be controlling even when they need you to help pay their bills.
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Copy Ninja
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He put a value of $800 per month on that relationship
All fair points. The solution here is not for her to move in for free, but to either sign a full lease giving her rights, or for both of them to move in somewhere else.
I never said anything about her moving in for free. In fact, I presented 3 different solutions in my pervious posts. Please don't put words in my mouth.
If she my girlfriend 
. Like, I ain't gonna charge "rent" but she gonna be putting the money on other shyt so there's really no difference.
Chick wanted to move in before. She said her money would be our "play money" & I had control.
. Like, I ain't gonna charge "rent" but she gonna be putting the money on other shyt so there's really no difference.Chick wanted to move in before. She said her money would be our "play money" & I had control.