Child Support card that can only be spent on the child; Women are against it

[Nomadum]

For example. Buy diapers or clothes and sell them.

better one, using the money to buy weed and drink.

Not all women are terrible mother's that do child support ( maybe I should include that in my page 1 posting as a disclaimer) but for the women who do abuse the system and make a good father look like shyt in the eyes of others, nothing but the meanest ice mug for yall bed wenches.

 

[Yup]

Child Support is quite possibly the dumbest requirement ever. Another unsuccessful venture we continue to throw money at. You don't support a child with money, you support a child with love, time and energy. Money only seems to come into play because we often times lose site of our parental obligations and subsequently end up having to pay for it. Co-Parenting should be the goal of any two people who produce a child out of wed-lock. Instead we place ourselves at the mercy of the court system to arbitrarily define a minimum and maximum amount of money deemed appropriate to support a child you helped to create but who does not live under your roof. As a man, if I were in one of these unfortunate situations, I'd feel obligated to help meet the needs of the mother of my child as that woman's well being has a direct impact on the health of my child.

I think what happens is men and women make the mistake of procreating with people who are not fit to raise children. Which is just as stupid as child support.

Law cannot make people care or force them of their parental obligations. Of course the child support system is flawed. But the court cannot force an absentee parent to be there for his child physically.

 

[Nomadum]

I dong have an issue with this program. But the women arent wrong. It tales a lot more than a measly couple 100s a month to support a child.

Yea true, but when the money isn't used for the child then that's when it becomes an issue.

Funny there is a girl at work who I know just spent her child support money on a trip to Vegas

LMAO, Exactly!

 

[Dig]

65 dollars is nothing. Can you raise a child on 65$/week?

This was the early 90's

 

[CACarot]

You guys being real simple minded if you think this would suffice. Not saying a women should have her mortgage, cable , lights and everything paid in full but if she is housing the child then the child is contributing in some manner to these expenses. There has to be some reasonable ground in between it all.

 

[Prodyson]

So what the hell is the Mother in the equation for? If she isn't going to take care of the child at home then why isn't the custody granted to me?

I don't think the house, the water nor the electricity is of the concern for the parent required to pay child support. that's unfair. so basically if I don't have custody, I need to pay for everything while the mother ride's for free? LadySimone, that's not fair. what if you were required to pay child support? would you truly feel it's your responsibility to pay for the water and electricity? and don't say "but that's the man's role" because that's not a fair answer.

While I agree with the idea for the most part, the accommodations one would have if they were single with no kids isn't the same as someone caring for a child. You might need a two bedroom instead of a one bedroom apartment. All utilities will be more just by way of having more people using them. Also there are things the custodial parent is responsible for that can't be paid for to the vendors mentioned. Healthcare for example. And that make a DRASTIC difference when kids are added to a plan.

This is from the husband of a woman who receives child support (barely). But we rarely actually use that money. We put it into a college fund cause we really don't need it. And if we want to do something special for our daughter, we sometimes use a little bit of that money. In most cases we don't touch it though.

I like how they're thinking though.... just needs to be tweaked a bit

 

[LadySimone]

This has nothing to do with the original post

Fact is if you as a parent can't take sufficient care of your child MAN or WOMAN without manipulating CS you should not have them.

End of discussion.

So obvious momma gotta look good & presentable at work to keep a job. She needs a job to feed baby. Do you think CS should be spent on work clothes?

Y'all be to caught up in these gender wars you can't think rationally

That's a straw man if ever I read it. Facts are what money mothers get from fathers for being the primary caregiver of children will never account for what it takes to raise kids. She will spend more of her life raising kids she had 50/59 with a man. Time she can't enjoy like a father can who only sees his child twice a month.

Face it, mothers do more and the fathers money does not sufficiently take care of children equally.

Throw a couple dollars to the person who gets up in the middle of the night with a sick and crying child while you somewhere else fast asleep comfortably.

 

[Mountain]

May the Most High cleanse the earth of your type so we can have a strong and respectable nation.

You have the gift of a logical brain. That is a useful tool in helping to build up the next generation.

And if you don't like children, at least we don't have to worry about you spouting off nonsense that leads to a weakened society that is full of chaos.

May you stay on earth as the rebels are destroyed.

lmao you sound like a star wars extra

 

[the cac mamba]

Child Support is quite possibly the dumbest requirement ever.

As a man, if I were in one of these unfortunate situations, I'd feel obligated to help meet the needs of the mother of my child as that woman's well being has a direct impact on the health of my child.

alright well, there are several that dont

ive got plenty of problems with this system but its necessary AT LEAST to a degree

 

[The God Poster]

That's a straw man if ever I read it. Facts are what money mothers get from fathers for being the primary caregiver of children will never account for what it takes to raise kids. She will spend more of her life raising kids she had 50/59 with a man. Time she can't enjoy like a father can who only sees his child twice a month.

Face it, mothers do more and the fathers money does not sufficiently take care of children equally.

Throw a couple dollars to the person who gets up in the middle of the night with a sick and crying child while you somewhere else fast asleep comfortably.

I see you not gone answer the question

Let me put it like this then. Do you feel a father who gets child support should spend the money on himself?

Also I pray you don't have children. Talking bout bu bu but Momma deserve to have some fun.

No any person who has children gives up that right & needs to put child ahead of "fun"

 

[Prodyson]

Honestly, I think it should be addressed like an HSA plan. They give you debit card and it's automatically usable at certain places. And anywhere that it can't be used automatically, the parent has to submit a claim.

In addition to that, they just need to come up with a better way to actually calculate the needs of a child. Then it won't matter as much because they will only be getting what's absolutely necessary to take care of the child.

 

[Lo-Co]

Yep and you can make a killing selling diapers. nikka like me would be like how much?

nikka lemme get a key of huggies
Dudes gonna find out their baby moms is like frank Lucas out here.

 

[Buckeye Fever]

Im good

This nikka

 

[Yup]

You can tell a lot of guys have never taken care of another human being besides themselves. Personally, i think that more men should be provided custody of children.

Frankly, if many men knew what it takes to raise a child...many would opt for child support. Raising a child is no walk in the park. There is no monetary value to raising a child it is all arbitrary.

 

[MrFantastic]

That's a straw man if ever I read it. Facts are what money mothers get from fathers for being the primary caregiver of children will never account for what it takes to raise kids. She will spend more of her life raising kids she had 50/59 with a man. Time she can't enjoy like a father can who only sees his child twice a month.

Face it, mothers do more and the fathers money does not sufficiently take care of children equally.

Throw a couple dollars to the person who gets up in the middle of the night with a sick and crying child while you somewhere else fast asleep comfortably.

The only problem is that most women rather have primary custody. They don't want to have true 50/50 custody as that will lower what they recieve in child support.

It's unfair to have it both ways.