Choosing bums as life partners
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AyBrehHam Linkin
First Black Brehsident
Breh a shorty I used to know let a nikka live with her, pay no bills, didn’t help with rent, always used her car, ate her food, DIDNT even try to get a job.
but he stayed in the streets smoking and doing bullshytand she’d have to pick that nikka up from different spots all the time
I told shorty to at least demand he get a job and she was like “no”
She’s married to my homeboy now but she was stupid as fukk a couple years ago
back in the day my girl used to stay with her ex after he beat her regularly, called her out her name for the most trivial shyt, wouldn't let her have social media, would have her text him a picture of her location every time she was out, wouldn't let her hang with her fam or friends whenever she wanted to, never had a whip always had them walking far asf some place, and breh was broke asl couldn't get a job ever n had them living in a hotel room
. she didn't leave until he gave her a std cus he was cheating off her phone that she let him use for months when he broke his and was too broke to get another.
She was a dumb 19 year old at the time so
FeverPitch2
Superstar
Square dudes are lame and boring.Not standing up for the bums or the women that get with bums, but them square dudes need to get some testosterone.
You have a point. Upstanding brehs need to stop with the whining and step their game up.
You have to give a woman something to be attracted to.
Look at how you dress and present yourself.
How do you talk to people?
If you do get her back to your place, do you know what you're doing?
Take inventory.
If you're out here having children you have a duty to seek stability and structure. There is no room for middle ground.
The Realist Perspective
Superstar
His girl knows his life and character and she said it all in the damn video. Did you watch it? I'm not understanding the disconnect here.
Looks like they have a Mother/Son relationship..
The way she was talking to him was disrespectful, but he tolerates it, so that's on him..
Now, to be fair, she has a valid gripe to hold. Dude shouldn't be out in the streets if he has a wife and daughter at home. Dude should be out there working and bringing home the bag. Maybe he does have a job and take care of his husbandly duties?
IDK..?
She chose that man and is doing what she feels is best, so I say let them sort out their marriage the way they want..
I wish them the best of luck!
The way she was talking to him was disrespectful, but he tolerates it, so that's on him..
Now, to be fair, she has a valid gripe to hold. Dude shouldn't be out in the streets if he has a wife and daughter at home. Dude should be out there working and bringing home the bag. Maybe he does have a job and take care of his husbandly duties?
IDK..?
She chose that man and is doing what she feels is best, so I say let them sort out their marriage the way they want..
I wish them the best of luck!
Ezekiel 25:17
Veteran
Apparently there is no middle ground if something like IT or Game Developers are geeks 99% of the time.
FeverPitch2
Superstar
Part of the reason some women choose bums is control.
If she provides for all of his needs, no matter what bullshyt happens, he's going to have to come to her for shelter, food, transpo, walking around money, etc.
Better a toxic man than no man.
An upstanding dude would require her to step her game up as well.
Water seeks it's own level.
Watching bootleg DVD's, eating a chopped cheese on the couch while smoking with D'Yontrelvis is probably her idea of the perfect romantic evening.
Pretty much the difference, square dude ain't gonna argue with them like that
Hold this l brehback in the day my girl used to stay with her ex after he beat her regularly, called her out her name for the most trivial shyt, wouldn't let her have social media, would have her text him a picture of her location every time she was out, wouldn't let her hang with her fam or friends whenever she wanted to, never had a whip always had them walking far asf some place, and breh was broke asl couldn't get a job ever n had them living in a hotel room
she didn't leave until he gave her a std cus he was cheating off her phone that she let him use for months when he broke his and was too broke to get another.
She was a dumb 19 year old at the time so
FeloniousMonk
Dont mind me..Im a azzhole
Op says bum.
Female in video says gangsta.
Is op calling bums gangstas or gangstas, bums?
Niccas can't even hang out no mo...
Female in video says gangsta.
Is op calling bums gangstas or gangstas, bums?
Niccas can't even hang out no mo...
360Waves
2 girls and they get along like I'm Lou Will
The overwhelming majority of the people working in IT and game design are white/asian and the overwhelming majority of them also have a significant other or are married. Other races don’t seem to automatically view these types as “geeks” and are very willing to sleep with them. I’ll repeat myself, only in the black community is the “swaggy”, “exciting” bum ass nikka more appealing than the stable, but “square” software engineer. Then you stupid fukks turn around and really got the audacity to ask why there’s so much dysfunction in our community when your own thought processes are what enables it.
FeverPitch2
Superstar
Breh a shorty I used to be close with let a nikka live with her, pay no bills, didn’t help with rent, always used her car, ate her food, DIDNT even try to get a job.
but he stayed in the streets smoking and doing bullshyt
I told shorty to at least demand he get a job and she was like “no”
She’s married to my homeboy now but she was stupid as fukk a couple years ago
It's just like someone with a habit.
There's nothing you can say until they finally want better for themselves enough to make a change.
Some never make that change.