Co-parenting, Marriage, Open Relationship or Bachelorhood?

[Kwéyòl]

One day I children and be someone that they can be proud of and look up too. As my mother says when she closes her eyes for the final time she wants to die knowing that.She did everything in her power to make sure her kids live a good life. And i want to die knowing that too . so monogamy

 

[LadySimone]

Marriage monogamy family stack paper.

 

[CinnaSlim]

I'd hope to find a husband. I know commitment is not an issue for me. Finding someone who will commit or is worth committing to is the difficult part.

I'm not fit for polygamy or polyamory. I do not like to share and my mind is already scattered enough.

I wouldn't mind co-parenting. This way my kids are not in the crossfire of a tumultuous relationship. They have an extended family, get more experience. But it's not ideal because I'd like to know what's going on with my child who is involved etc.

So monogamy it is.

 

[Giselle]

I want to be married with kids. I like my space though.

I wouldn't mind coparenting.

I only want kids if i can afford full time nannies for them

Why? What would you need a nanny for? People should take care of their own kids instead of them being raised by nannies. If you're going to let nannies raise your kids, then you probably shouldn't have any.

 

[Trapperman Dave]

I'm solo til the day i'm no mo

 

[The BasedFather]

Polygamy.

Have 3 rich ass wives for money. Have another that cooks. Another that cleans. Have 5 more for sexual purposes.

We'd live in a mansion and I'd live in a secluded part of it and only see them when I needed something.

 

[Spatial Paradox]

Monogamy for me. Ideally, I'd be married, with kids at some point after being married for a little while and just enjoying ourselves as husband and wife.

The bachelor's life has its perks, but just bouncing back and forth with women you've no real connection with outside sex is...boring to me.

Polygamy/polyamory/open relationships are a no-go. Dealing with one woman is enough for me. I couldn't imagine wanting to juggle multiple women. And I'm the jealous type. Ain't no way I'd be cool with sharing

Just a matter of meeting a woman who wants to take the ride with me through the journey of life and who I'd like there with me.

Plus my mother keeps saying she'll never get grandkids out of me and I want to prove her wrong without having kids with any ol' random woman

 

[CinnaSlim]

Monogamy for me. Ideally, we'd me married, with kids at some point after we've been married for a little while and just enjoying ourselves as husband and wife.

The bachelor's life has its perks, but just bouncing back and forth with women you've no real connection with outside sex is...boring to me.

Polygamy/polyamory/open relationships are a no-go. Dealing with one woman is enough for me. I couldn't imagine wanting to juggle multiple women. And I'm the jealous type. Ain't no way I'd be cool with sharing

Just a matter of meeting a woman who wants to take the ride with me through the journey of life and who I'd like there with me.

Plus my mother keeps saying she'll never get grandkids out of me and I want to prove her wrong without having kids with any ol' random woman

I'm ready when you are

 

[At30wecashout]

The ideal is bachelorhood because I have no patience for a woman trifling with my feelings again. When I have more piece of mind, monogamy, on the condition that

I have plan B, plan C, and plan D options so I don't feel pressed if something goes wrong. I can dip quick and not look back. BTW, the other options aren't women, just

places and situations I would go to when I would rather drop a relationship.

 

[Vice Queen]

Kids throw the wrench in all of my ideals. I want my children to be raised by both of their parents, in the same house, like I was. I want my children to know both sides of their family, like I do.

BUT

The fear of being taken for granted and unappreciated keeps me from ever wanting to live with a man and even if I were to live with a man as a co-parenting situation for the sake of the kids I just don't believe it's possible to keep assets and the division of labor separate the way I imagine them in my mind (i.e. he takes care of himself and the kids, I take care of myself and the kids). Also, if we were to be able to afford a big enough house to where I can have a bedroom and he can have a bedroom and the kids can have theirs, it would be confusing for them to see their parents sleeping in separate rooms, and one parent not coming home for a night or three because they're out getting ass from someone else.

I have often said how I don't want to be married, but the financial incentives kinda have me questioning that. But I don't want to live with a man and be taken for granted for doing shyt out of the love I have for him. I figure if we live apart and he still has to do his own laundry and dishes and shyt it will keep us together, but I really don't know. I probably just need to invite the universe to have me cross paths with a man who isn't 100% dependent on me, like I won't be 100% dependent on him.

That fear runs deep.

In the end, I wouldn't mind a long term relationship. But it would be one with many conditions, moreso to protect myself, unless I finally decide to be more vulnerable.

 

[Action Mike]

wanting kids is the only reason im getting married

 

[QuavoFlow]

bachelorhood

 

[Spatial Paradox]

I'm ready when you are

You down for that?

 

[CinnaSlim]

Kids throw the wrench in all of my ideals. I want my children to be raised by both of their parents, in the same house, like I was. I want my children to know both sides of their family, like I do.

BUT

The fear of being taken for granted and unappreciated keeps me from ever wanting to live with a man and even if I were to live with a man as a co-parenting situation for the sake of the kids I just don't believe it's possible to keep assets and the division of labor separate the way I imagine them in my mind (i.e. he takes care of himself and the kids, I take care of myself and the kids). Also, if we were to be able to afford a big enough house to where I can have a bedroom and he can have a bedroom and the kids can have theirs, it would be confusing for them to see their parents sleeping in separate rooms, and one parent not coming home for a night or three because they're out getting ass from someone else.

I have often said how I don't want to be married, but the financial incentives kinda have me questioning that. But I don't want to live with a man and be taken for granted for doing shyt out of the love I have for him. I figure if we live apart and he still has to do his own laundry and dishes and shyt it will keep us together, but I really don't know. I probably just need to invite the universe to have me cross paths with a man who isn't 100% dependent on me, like I won't be 100% dependent on him.

That fear runs deep.

In the end, I wouldn't mind a long term relationship. But it would be one with many conditions, moreso to protect myself, unless I finally decide to be more vulnerable.

you dont have to live together to co-parent. But then you have to trust eachother to make good decisions while you are not there with the kids.

 

[Deflatedhoopdreams]

I desire monogamy, but I'm destined to live a life of bachelorhood.

I desired marriage until I got old enough and found out the women of this generation ain't shyt. #HOH I'm yelling it to the grave