Co-Parenting Really Is Difficult...Dont Have Kids

[tru_m.a.c]

Lol it's a crap shoot for guys but women are always encouraged to choose better. Y'all are funny.

The thread is about OP always arguing with his BM about stupid shyt, and being afraid he'll be taken to court.

Dora replied, "Pick better a better baby momma next time."

My reply was, "It's a crap shoot." Why? Because women argue about petty shyt all the time both in and out of relationships. This is why men want to remain single. shyt has as much to do with men thinking with their dikks and wanting to smash everything in sight as it does men not wanting to deal with the following:

somehow she assumed co-parenting meant I was suppose to co-parent her emotions

No amount of vetting can foreshadow whether a woman will or will not take you to court. Educational level doesn't matter. Age doesn't matter. Ethnicity doesn't matter. That was my point behind it being a crap shoot. You cannot prepare for that. Anyone who says otherwise is lying.

You're in your feelings and arguing some other shyt that I probably agree with you about.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

why do you guys keep saying this like it matters...it's an absolute crap shoot

this shyt is a myth like woman always believing "that girl over there" or "that instagram bytch" or "that random bytch" is a hoe and they themselves or their friends are not.

A lot of people show their fukked up/irrational side during the course of a relationship. I get sometimes shyt goes extra sideways once feelings get hurt, but people either fukk around and get their jumpoff preggo (i.e. someone they don't know well) or ignore the signs of an incompatible parent.

Nothing can 100% be avoided, but I see a lot of folks complaining about their situation when their s/o displayed the same flaws when they were together...like, you knew that about them and still created a kid, your bad. now you gotta deal with a fukked up BM/BD for 18-22 years

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

the problem i have is i offered to go to even "co-parenting classes" or some kind of hit or miss counseling just to see what we can do and she will just deny it and continue to have verbal wars

thats what i think is petty

thats like a fat person seeing they are 300lbs and just giving up instead of admitting there is a problem and getting on a diet and slowly but surely losing the weight

thats my baby momma in a nutshell, times are hard with our communication and she rather just keep hatred than to buckle down and fix it

 

[tru_m.a.c]

A lot of people show their fukked up/irrational side during the course of a relationship. I get sometimes shyt goes extra sideways once feelings get hurt, but people either fukk around and get their jumpoff preggo (i.e. someone they don't know well) or ignore the signs of an incompatible parent.

Nothing can 100% be avoided, but I see a lot of folks complaining about their situation when their s/o displayed the same flaws when they were together...like, you knew that about them and still created a kid, your bad. now you gotta deal with a fukked up BM/BD for 18-22 years

I understand what you're saying. However none of that is a predictor of suing someone in court, which is what the OP is shytting bricks over. Your point is very valid when speaking on a person's general temper.

 

[Mowgli]

Get trapped by a woman watch her get fat and destroy your life bruhs.

 

[MoveForward]

Edit

 

[Take It In Blood]

Get trapped by a woman watch her get fat and destroy your life bruhs.

i thought u was murray'd bro

 

[Sad Bunny]

I've heard the same thing from many of my friends

 

[Easy-E]

I dont know how yall brehs do it

all i do is argue with my baby momma and she is defensive to everything

i dont know how im gonna make 18 years with this uncooperative hoe

My nikka

 

[froggle]

It helps to be married before you have kids.
With a strong foundation, financial stability, and an open line of contact between you two.
I'm not about that "baby mama/baby daddy" life, I need a degree of certainty.

bu bu bu bu bu bu but GMB

So many people are having children together which is a lifetime deal, but they aint even dating each other after 6 months
Kids need stability...and this thread is good reason why.

 

[Hersh]

once both of you decide that your kids needs and feelings r more important than y'all.. y'all be fine.. till then good luck.

 

[Rhyse]

It’s better once the kids are older/adults. All my ex and I do is laugh and talk about the shyt our kids do behind their backs. lol whole conversation (most of the times) is saying you need to get your kids. Thankful we made it to the other side. All I can tell you is make it easy and choose your battles.

 

[Depreciating Asset]

I dont know how yall brehs do it

all i do is argue with my baby momma and she is defensive to everything

i dont know how im gonna make 18 years with this uncooperative hoe

7 years later... Update?

 

[JasoRockStar]

7 years later... Update?

From what it looks like, OP abruptly stopper posting about 7 months ago.

And considering he was making threads like this:

https://www.thecoli.com/threads/my-doc-said-the-stress-of-coparenting-is-going-to-end-my-life-soon.869185/

 

[Koapa]

Damn OP was going through it. Hope dude is still alive for his child.

I'm co-parenting with a 20 month old that lives in NY and I'm in TX. It difficult on my mental knowing that I'm missing precious moments in my child's life. It also difficult trying to have a good co-parenting relationship with a person who is bitter and angry. You can't predict a chick will file child support on you or leave with your child.

Im in the child support system and the judge will also look at the man as piece of shyt. I was giving my child mother $750 a month and buying all his formula, clothes, and necessities. The judge wanted to hit me with $16,000 in back child support plus $1,600 in monthly child support. I also have to fly and Uber to NY to see my child. My uncle told me before my child was born to keep all my receipts. I present all my receipts to the court and the judge begrudgly calculated and reduce my back pay to $6,000.

I know some guys who are stressed out and angry with their child or kids mother. Chicks take their kids to another state and refuse to let him see them.

I know a cat in Htown that have to fly to Toronto to see his child. They meet in Htown then she left with their child.

I know I'm not the only one going thru this that's why I don't have a woe is me attitude. I'm not going to lie, when I see my son picture in my phone, it gets me emotional.