this is why we have the coli 
Coli Brehs in trouble…. Studies show that Loneliness is more harmful than smoking 15 packs of cigarettes a day
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africngiant
All Star
see you brehs on the otherside soon
Iverson_64
Superstar
In general, men need strong support systems even outside the context of dating.
I'm not even that close with my father but I can still call him for certain advice every now and again. My gym trainer is also a good friend of mines and we can chop it up about tons of personal issues outside the gym. I've got close friends who I can kick it with whether it's a major event or just chilling at home or in a bar. I also have relatives that I'm very cool with.
I do have a girlfriend but losing her wouldn't automatically make me lonely because I already have a network of people that I know support me.
A lot of men(especially younger men) don't have that type of support or friend circle which intensifies the feelings of loneliness when you're not in a relationship or childless. And therapy costs a lot of money.
The GMB and MGTOW types will paint the bachelor life as Heaven on Earth for men but the reality is that many men aren't even suited for the perfect bachelor lifestyle. A lot of men even in their 30's are a paycheck away from homelessness, renting places to live in, not working their dream jobs, and have a hard time finding single women that they're compatible with for relationships.
"Taken" men get clowned on TLR quite often but one thing I enjoy about being in a LTR is that I no longer have to waste time, money, and energy being on "the chase" and finding different ways to impress different women. Being in a serious relationship ironically keeps me focused on my grind and my purpose more than when I was single because I'm planning on starting a family in the near future.
For every casanova who's living the bachelor playboy dream and living lavishly, there's 3 more perpetually single men who are dealing with loneliness and other forms of mental health while also struggling to pay their bills, rent, and other expenses. The former will often speak for all single guys and gloat about how great the lifestyle is and how getting married/having kids is a trap but the truth is there's plenty of miserable people on both sides whether married or single. Married men just know how to open up about their woes more while single men tend to prefer to play up their image.
I'm not even that close with my father but I can still call him for certain advice every now and again. My gym trainer is also a good friend of mines and we can chop it up about tons of personal issues outside the gym. I've got close friends who I can kick it with whether it's a major event or just chilling at home or in a bar. I also have relatives that I'm very cool with.
I do have a girlfriend but losing her wouldn't automatically make me lonely because I already have a network of people that I know support me.
A lot of men(especially younger men) don't have that type of support or friend circle which intensifies the feelings of loneliness when you're not in a relationship or childless. And therapy costs a lot of money.
The GMB and MGTOW types will paint the bachelor life as Heaven on Earth for men but the reality is that many men aren't even suited for the perfect bachelor lifestyle. A lot of men even in their 30's are a paycheck away from homelessness, renting places to live in, not working their dream jobs, and have a hard time finding single women that they're compatible with for relationships.
"Taken" men get clowned on TLR quite often but one thing I enjoy about being in a LTR is that I no longer have to waste time, money, and energy being on "the chase" and finding different ways to impress different women. Being in a serious relationship ironically keeps me focused on my grind and my purpose more than when I was single because I'm planning on starting a family in the near future.
For every casanova who's living the bachelor playboy dream and living lavishly, there's 3 more perpetually single men who are dealing with loneliness and other forms of mental health while also struggling to pay their bills, rent, and other expenses. The former will often speak for all single guys and gloat about how great the lifestyle is and how getting married/having kids is a trap but the truth is there's plenty of miserable people on both sides whether married or single. Married men just know how to open up about their woes more while single men tend to prefer to play up their image.
To be honest, this is related to those social skills deficits I used to write such long posts about years ago. People didn’t wanna hear it then but here are the effects.
Knowing how to positively interact with others without causing people to wanna tear their eyes out from being around you is a survival skill. A lot of people don’t get how badly they rub others. A lot of people are also bad at holding good conversations.
On the flip side of this, some people are lonely EVEN when they are surrounded by people. Extroverts can be SUPER LONELY trying to use parties to work around their loneliness because they aren’t comfortable sitting in their own silence or just being with themselves.
Loneliness is less about knowing a lot of people and more about having a lack of quality people that get you, and whom you spend lots of time with comfortably. We need to start emphasizing and training kids in healthy relationships and human interactions.
Knowing how to positively interact with others without causing people to wanna tear their eyes out from being around you is a survival skill. A lot of people don’t get how badly they rub others. A lot of people are also bad at holding good conversations.
On the flip side of this, some people are lonely EVEN when they are surrounded by people. Extroverts can be SUPER LONELY trying to use parties to work around their loneliness because they aren’t comfortable sitting in their own silence or just being with themselves.
Loneliness is less about knowing a lot of people and more about having a lack of quality people that get you, and whom you spend lots of time with comfortably. We need to start emphasizing and training kids in healthy relationships and human interactions.
mbewane
Knicks: 93 til infinity
I might be a sociopath because I don't think I've ever felt "loneliness". I'm legitimately fine with or without people and everybody who knows me accepts and understands thatmy presence is a commodity I do not wish to share with everyone, but when I'm feeling social I'm the life of parties. Really just depends what mood I'm in.
Tbh I think the problem is more about delving deeper in the ideology that makes being "lonely" a bad thing to some people as opposed to somebody having a problem and that's why they're lonely. Although my opinion is biased because I don't think I've ever been involuntarily "alone"
There's a difference being alone and being lonely. Introverts (myself included) mostly don't have any issue being alone, but on the contrary we can feel lonely even when with other people around. Loneliness is often confused with being alone, when loneliness is more about lack of connection. You can be alone 90% of your time but that one friend you see for drinks once every two weeks is enough for you to experience the connection you need. And on the contrary you can be out and about with work colleagues etc multiple times in the same week and feel lonely af.
Sensitive Christian Grey
The Fisher King
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africngiant
All Star
nah breh i just wanted to add to the threadYou better not be committing that
Location play a heavy role... Nowadays People that really fukk with you or good friends are scattered all over the country or your state. Alot of them moved or relocated because of covid and the job market.
I had my moments. Especially during the middle of the pandemic and it was miserable having to move because I was living in a neighborhood full of mostly stuck up ass immigrants(mexicans and africans), Weirdo out of towners and hipster CACs.
I had my moments. Especially during the middle of the pandemic and it was miserable having to move because I was living in a neighborhood full of mostly stuck up ass immigrants(mexicans and africans), Weirdo out of towners and hipster CACs.
sayyestothis
Free the guys
So why don't u move? Wouldn't that solve the issue?I'd never used to be a lonely person. When I lived in New York City, I was around people all the time. It was at a point where I felt like I just wanted to be alone to escape them. But then again it's New York City. The nightlife scene is vibrant diverse and filled with so much flavor. There's so much to offer anybody.
I live in Denver now and I keep to myself and smoke weed and make music and just go on the collie and social media cause I can't fukk with people here I'm not gonna lie.
I've been meeting people recently but that's something I've been doing for the majority of my life.
And when I go out here it reminds me of why I don't go out here. I Hang out in Aurora because I like being around mostly Black people. Wheh I lived in New York City I'd never was around the white people like that...mostly Black People and Latinos.
Moving to Denver was reversed culture shock for me...cause Denver is just soooo fukking WHITE compared to NYC. These white people here in Denver get very racist and don't interact with Black People like that. And it puts me off from just wanting to interact with them. I'll just be out in about minding my damn business and these crackers be thinking I want to rob them and rape them and murder them and I'm like...OK fukk you.
if you're gonna be like that I don't have to be around you.
I'll even say the older I get I'm getting very racist dealing with white people's racism that I don't want to deal with them anymore.
Like these people are so clownishly racist it's like a joke. I dont even want to be around them like that. Their whole vibe is kind of nauseating to me. Homogenized as fukk. And I'm a solid black man I'm an African I can't be around crackers like this. It's too white for me.
I feel like I just want to move to Africa and be around black people 247 at this point in my life.
Living around white people just unnecessarily brings my blood pressure up and affects my mental health negatively.
I don't understand this shyt. Buy an Xbox. PlayStation. Switch. Meta quest 2. As an adult you should have all of them. Netflix, Hulu, hbo max, Disney+, Amazon prime. Door dash. Shipt, Instacart. There has never been a greater time in human history to be alone by yourself. The options are unlimited.
I think people need to stop being so bourgeoisie, thats what the problem is.The same poor "dusty" u speaking down on knows where all the parties are at.
And low key, there's never been an easier time to holler at women. So many of y'all are scared, I be having these women looking at me like I stepped out of a portal from another dimension. They want to be courted.
But I'mso what the hell do I know
What if you can't afford an Xbox, playstation, switch, meta quest 2, etc, etc??