Coli Ladies - Please GTF in here
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CinnaSlim
Queen of Swords
Ah well, I like to give people the benefit of the doubt but they disappoint me almost every time.
Your brother has to take back control. I'm not a man or in his position so I can't say how hard that will be to do.
He's just gonna have to let go of his ego. Realize that him and her are over. Cut all ties to her and worry about himself.
Just keep supporting him. Keep reminding him that he is a good person, her leaving him is her decision. It doesn't mean that he's any less of a man. It just opens himself up to new opportunities and meeting new people.
If he's feeling envious of her lifestyle, help him figure out what he wants in life and go for it. You can start with small simple goals and keep building from there.
I've been engaged as well and it ended 
, I remember when my ex fiance got married how she "accidentally" emailed me her wedding pictures (one reason why I leave no ins). Even when gone these people will gloat and try and bring you down if you allow it, the key is to not allow it. This isn't the notebook or some corny ass romantic comedy where everything works out at the end and the person you care about shows up at your door in the rain and ish, this is LIFE and if you don't grab it by the balls no homo you will be in the pits.
If someone walks out of your life lock that door, padlock it and never allow them back in.
Even my last ex I allowed that skank thot to have somewhat of a control in my life for years, till i finally said eff this and cut all ties and my life has been 150% times better. God could have sent this dude a loving wife right in front of his face but because he sits around marinating on the past it slips through his fingers
, I remember when my ex fiance got married how she "accidentally" emailed me her wedding pictures (one reason why I leave no ins). Even when gone these people will gloat and try and bring you down if you allow it, the key is to not allow it. This isn't the notebook or some corny ass romantic comedy where everything works out at the end and the person you care about shows up at your door in the rain and ish, this is LIFE and if you don't grab it by the balls no homo you will be in the pits.If someone walks out of your life lock that door, padlock it and never allow them back in.
Even my last ex I allowed that skank thot to have somewhat of a control in my life for years, till i finally said eff this and cut all ties and my life has been 150% times better. God could have sent this dude a loving wife right in front of his face but because he sits around marinating on the past it slips through his fingers
CinnaSlim
Queen of Swords
I agree, like someone told me, "no closure is closure." People want to try to rationalize and look for hope or an opening when there is none.
In this situation tho, I think dude just feels like she upgraded and it's a hit to his ego.
I dunno. It might be more. If just the words "Happy Birthday" get him upset.
Hope dies last, I don't give second chances, but sometimes people do meet up years later thing is you can't sit around and hoping for that
And its all perception, dude she is with could be cheating on her, hitting on her or not even loving her.
I remember when my ex fiance got married and gloated in my face, even my last ex when she got engaged gloated again
both are single now and will probably struggle to find stable meaningful relationships, I would have married them both at one point if they didn't effed up , people show you what you want to see not what is the truth.
Elle Driver
Veteran
She needs to get a life and leave him alone esp since she knows he doesn't respond. She's petty af. And he should block her number.
Music Fiend
Superstar
Thanks for all the help guys, I will send him the link tonight. Ive done all i can do.
You are right. Thanks for your input, between that and the fact that they had been with each other since before he could drive, that's all he's really given a chance to know. And although I never really was close to her, I do know she always had issues with keeping friends. in her words, "they were all fake". So she may actually be the fake one here and she's playing that nice and kind role to a good dude.
It's clear as day to me, to be honest she isn't even "that bad". He's pulled badder, but in his mind that's always been the one. Or at the very least hes on some negative ish where he thinks every chick will leave him eventually. The bad chicks he'll sabotage it and then I'll never hear about em again, then it'll be thanksgiving dinner and our moms will be like "have you heard from the ex fiance" lol.
She's smart and plays an a1 victim role. but maybe she's guilty for leaving dude, he treated her really well. Did things I'd never do for a woman until she's my wife. Just not guilty enough to fix the issue and come back correct and right. Just tryna keep that option open just in case bro becomes useful.
Weird thing is i ran into her at a bar a year or so back and it was like she knew about the updates on my bros life. She has a habit of befriending other peoples friends, so i'm sure everyone is telling her exactly how he is.
It's his life at the end of the day. thanks to everyone who dropped their 2 cents.
You are right. Thanks for your input, between that and the fact that they had been with each other since before he could drive, that's all he's really given a chance to know. And although I never really was close to her, I do know she always had issues with keeping friends. in her words, "they were all fake". So she may actually be the fake one here and she's playing that nice and kind role to a good dude.
Your bro definitely needs closure... Or to find a badder chick.
Tell him if she wanted to be with him then she would be
It's clear as day to me, to be honest she isn't even "that bad". He's pulled badder, but in his mind that's always been the one. Or at the very least hes on some negative ish where he thinks every chick will leave him eventually. The bad chicks he'll sabotage it and then I'll never hear about em again, then it'll be thanksgiving dinner and our moms will be like "have you heard from the ex fiance" lol.
She's smart and plays an a1 victim role. but maybe she's guilty for leaving dude, he treated her really well. Did things I'd never do for a woman until she's my wife. Just not guilty enough to fix the issue and come back correct and right. Just tryna keep that option open just in case bro becomes useful.
Weird thing is i ran into her at a bar a year or so back and it was like she knew about the updates on my bros life. She has a habit of befriending other peoples friends, so i'm sure everyone is telling her exactly how he is.
It's his life at the end of the day. thanks to everyone who dropped their 2 cents.
Thanks for all the help guys, I will send him the link tonight. Ive done all i can do.
You are right. Thanks for your input, between that and the fact that they had been with each other since before he could drive, that's all he's really given a chance to know. And although I never really was close to her, I do know she always had issues with keeping friends. in her words, "they were all fake". So she may actually be the fake one here and she's playing that nice and kind role to a good dude.
It's clear as day to me, to be honest she isn't even "that bad". He's pulled badder, but in his mind that's always been the one. Or at the very least hes on some negative ish where he thinks every chick will leave him eventually. The bad chicks he'll sabotage it and then I'll never hear about em again, then it'll be thanksgiving dinner and our moms will be like "have you heard from the ex fiance" lol.
She's smart and plays an a1 victim role. but maybe she's guilty for leaving dude, he treated her really well. Did things I'd never do for a woman until she's my wife. Just not guilty enough to fix the issue and come back correct and right. Just tryna keep that option open just in case bro becomes useful.
Weird thing is i ran into her at a bar a year or so back and it was like she knew about the updates on my bros life. She has a habit of befriending other peoples friends, so i'm sure everyone is telling her exactly how he is.
It's his life at the end of the day. thanks to everyone who dropped their 2 cents.
everyone can be fixed its not to late!
Or this ol Orlando Scandrick ass nikka turns a blind eye to whatever is going on, falls head over heels, proposes and marries her lands this chick on some blogs/gossip websites, homie catches wind of it and ends up even worse.Most likely the NFL player is gonna drop this broad and then she'll be all broken down and shyt and your dumb ass friend should just be like
The only way to prevent this from happening is to cut all ties until you knowingly do NOT care about said person anymore.
Without going into detail...I've done it and it works (with my first ever girlfriend). I'm even cool with said girl now and I'm at the point where my best homies could try to fukk her and I'd be like, "score one for the team breh
".bruh....get the fukk outta here. she did that?I've been engaged as well and it ended
If someone walks out of your life lock that door, padlock it and never allow them back in.
Even my last ex I allowed that skank thot to have somewhat of a control in my life for years, till i finally said eff this and cut all ties and my life has been 150% times better. God could have sent this dude a loving wife right in front of his face but because he sits around marinating on the past it slips through his fingers
Or this ol Orlando Scandrick ass nikka turns a blind eye to whatever is going on, falls head over heels, lands this chick on some blogs/gossip websites, homie catches wind of it and ends up even worse.
The only way to prevent this from happening is to cut all ties until you knowingly do NOT care about said person anymore.
Without going into detail...I've done it and it works (with my first ever girlfriend). I'm even cool with said girl now and I'm at the point where my best homies could try to fukk her and I'd be like, "score one for the team breh
time heals all wounds!!!
gotta kill that emotional connection
bruh....get the fukk outta here. she did that?
yup she did
no lie
my email was included with about 50 other people on a forward. This was after like 4 years of never even talking to her.
she;s divorced now though
O.T.I.S.
The Monk & The Mercenary
I have a plan...
Get your bro really fukked up one night. When he passes out, block her ass for him.
Or change his number and send out a mass text telling everyone this his new shyt. When he wakes up the next day, tell him he started getting pissed about her texting him all the time and he did it himself
Get your bro really fukked up one night. When he passes out, block her ass for him.
Or change his number and send out a mass text telling everyone this his new shyt. When he wakes up the next day, tell him he started getting pissed about her texting him all the time and he did it himself