TaxCollector13459
2018 Coli Rookie of the Year
Ehh…50-50
Coli member gets packed up on Twitter for saying marriage isn't about happiness
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LebronsHairline
AKA Chief Green Leaf
You should be getting cooked nikka
Haha why do you say that?
Scustin Bieburr
Baby baybee baybee UUUGH
They ain't really selling it tbh
"Hey you, you there being happy? You're not really happy until you're married! What? No marriage won't make you happy! It's about sacrifice, duty and loyalty. It's a struggle but it's meaningful!"
So hol up, I'll give up what I've got going on for a "meaningful struggle" that could cost me nearly all my money, my home, my relationship with my children and friends from my ex's side if it goes south?
This is truly a tough choice
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I view marriage as a partnership of two like minded people to reach a goal
SmoothOperator88
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Congrats OP. You went viral. At least you're taking it in stride.
Some people with certain societal perspectives are going to agree with you. I don't though.
A lot of what's changed in my view is the requirements what a successful partnership has gone up the Maslow's hierarchy of needs pyramid from Safety towards self actualization. Do I enjoy being with my partner? Is my partner content as an individual? Are we healthy together? Does my partner enhance my own happiness? Are we good and in harmony with our situation in life and the directions we may want to go? Can we actualize together? So much stuff muddies what we think of when think about partnership, including stuff like family and the greater community. It's a very individualistic view, sure, but also everyone's union is an individual thing. And I don't think a lot of us, men in particular think that deeply about these things.
Some people with certain societal perspectives are going to agree with you. I don't though.
A lot of what's changed in my view is the requirements what a successful partnership has gone up the Maslow's hierarchy of needs pyramid from Safety towards self actualization. Do I enjoy being with my partner? Is my partner content as an individual? Are we healthy together? Does my partner enhance my own happiness? Are we good and in harmony with our situation in life and the directions we may want to go? Can we actualize together? So much stuff muddies what we think of when think about partnership, including stuff like family and the greater community. It's a very individualistic view, sure, but also everyone's union is an individual thing. And I don't think a lot of us, men in particular think that deeply about these things.
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I agree with this but in all fairness tho, it was tv/movies that put these ideas in people heads that marriage is supposed to be happiness 24/7. Women think this the most but men do too.@King P Damn Breh, they’re really cooking you in you QTs.
This exactly why I said in the other thread that this is not the culture to get married in, and I say this as someone due to get married.
It was generally understood that marriage was for business for first, prior to the Boomer generation. Marriage was to keep money in wealthy circles and for women to marry upwards.
And now you have these birds thinking it’s all about love and happiness. And that’s why you see lower marriage rates and higher divorce rates.
Yes, there are other factors to consider as well, but once the wedding is over, they forget that marriage is something you have to work at, LIKE A JOB! Now it isn’t as fun as they thought it was huh?
There’s never consistent bliss, lust or happiness. There will be times you can’t stand your other half, where you’ll feel upset or question your marriage but you’re supposed to work at it.
Sorry it had to be you breh. Don’t bother engaging these birds next time.
I legit can not think of a single reason it makes sense to get married nowadays. I know someone gone say “bu bu but it helps with taxes tho”
If that’s the best you got
Add the fact society teaches women from a very young age they’re incomplete and unworthy/not beautiful etc if they can’t find a man of value to marry them and now you got women pressuring men to get married because of the pressure put on the woman to get married.
I ain’t even get to the part of how much a woman can benefit from a divorce, to the point they’re incentivized to get one when she’s “bored”. Men do too but nowhere near as much.
I been saying for years a lot of women wanna get married (wedding/engagement ring etc) more than they wanna stay married (actual marriage).
This what y’all call getting roasted? 
Just a bunch of bitter chicks on Twitter typing nonsense about how it’s the responsibility of their marriage to give them a happiness they don’t know how to give themselves?
Damn if that’s getting roasted y’all really don’t wanna be in circles I’ve been in
Just a bunch of bitter chicks on Twitter typing nonsense about how it’s the responsibility of their marriage to give them a happiness they don’t know how to give themselves?
Damn if that’s getting roasted y’all really don’t wanna be in circles I’ve been in
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THE ONE
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Rep'd thanks for your honesty!
I reposted your comment in a thread a made years ago
Why do a lot of married men seem so miserable?
Why do a lot of married men seem miserable and dead inside? :jbhmm: I straight up bump into a lot of older guys that tell me unprompted not to get married and enjoy being single. They be looking like this in the face when their "better half" is around. #DogsetK
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