Coli relationship experts — why do we attract certain “types”?

Rhyme n Tekniq

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I tend to attract a little bit of everything, but lately, the sexy ,but smart hood chicks been throwing me alley oops. I dont even play around in them circles or carry myself that way (not since highschool).

One thing, that's always been the case, Whatever nikkas consider certified dimes, have always thrown themselves at me (That sounds a bit conceited but it's the truth). It'll be the ones all the nikkas trip over their tongues for , who I use to brush off as not being realistic goals...those are the ones who will approach me and typically my conversational skills are enough to keep them hooked. This Is how I started hitting my stide and building my confidence with women as early as highschool. Had to discover my own market value.

I could say I dont have a preference, but its not totally the truth..I dont have strict preferences

Dark skinned women really do something to me yo, like cotdamn, no matter the tribe or vibe, chocolate women speak to my desire on a cellular level, Caramel women too, so dont feel no type of way

I also like fiesty, witty women. A little combativeness is sexy and exciting. I like to banter and talk shyt playfully rather than put on this air like i'm some perfect gentleman, that agrees just to appease. So these strong minded chicks or those with a little fire in them are the ones I tend to attract. I can deal with strong women, just not toxic miserable ones.

Cac chicks arent really my thing unless they're big booty redheads like Bryce Dallas Howard. For something like that, I'll bite, otherwise, it's black women 200% , 24x365.
 

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@The Burger King Interesting. I'm your type and randomly attract Dave East looking guys, but never deal with them.

For me, it's definitely a childhood thing: my brother looks like y'all and I remember how 'bad brownskins' used to chase him. It was embarrassing to me even as a child. Like, ma'am, get a hold of yourself. :skip: Even my little friends.

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@The Burger King Interesting. I'm your type and randomly attract Dave East looking guys, but never deal with them.

For me, it's definitely a childhood thing: my brother looks like y'all and I remember how 'bad brownskins' used to chase him. It was embarrassing to me even as a child. Like, ma'am, get a hold of yourself. :skip: Even my little friends.

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Yeah it’s just a pattern I’ve noticed in my own life that just has me perplexed for some reason.

I’m glad I’m not the only one noticing this.

I ain’t mad about it either I just find it odd that I subconsciously end up with the same type of chick, physically, in every relationship.

But all of y’all have been giving some good insight. :obama:
 

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I've spoken on this before. I work literally twice as much as the average person in blue collar work. Sweats and beat up boots, change that to old reliable sneakers for the couple of times I get to make gym time, home. If I want need extra bread, weekends make me work triple as much as most of the world. All facilitated by a 2020 Passport.

Money as a female magnet only works when you're able/willing to demonstrate the money. Now some women may hear the job title and try to hook you in, and they supposedly line up at the Christmas party we throw despite not working there :heh: but overall I can tell you there's another side to the 6 figure experience that doesn't have women banging your door down.
depends...

do you have stories about traveling?
do you know about food/wine/clothes, etc...?

different interest is how people can tell you have your shyt together w/o being somewhat flashy.

im a minimalist but on the dating apps I can low key brag by showing a photo with the background in a different country...
...or I can talk about how I did this and that, etc...

Money gives you the ability to have time to think and be an interesting person...
...and ultimately thats the bait females need

some women need to see the big car, house, etc...
but not all.

I focus on the ones that can pickup subtle ques
 

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Slim thick light/brown skin women have always liked me. But for some reason dark skinned black women rarely give me the time of day, to note I’m a brown skinned brotha

I’m not attracted to other races of women so I’ve never payed attention to whether I attracted one:yeshrug:
 

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depends...

do you have stories about traveling?
do you know about food/wine/clothes, etc...?

different interest is how people can tell you have your shyt together w/o being somewhat flashy.

im a minimalist but on the dating apps I can low key brag by showing a photo with the background in a different country...
...or I can talk about how I did this and that, etc...

Money gives you the ability to have time to think and be an interesting person...
...and ultimately thats the bait females need

some women need to see the big car, house, etc...
but not all.

I focus on the ones that can pickup subtle ques
So you think a person who works 2-3x as much as others has wine/traveling stories?

Money gives you time to think and do things ONLY if you create your own schedule. Most men do not and a good deal of men have to work on volume to have money.
 

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I don’t have a physical type but I definitely attract ho’s…at 16 it confused me bcuz I mistook that feeling of lust I put forth with love…once I got in tune with myself tho it was smooth sailings…I keep good women as friends but I love fukking with ho’s :wow:
 

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I've been trying to figure this out with my therapist too. I'm stoic in public and don't approach women first. The ones who approach me and I've dated, they've all had clinical mental illness. Everyone I've dated was on antidepressants and benzos.
Maybe those are the chicks who make the first move 🤷🏾‍♀️. Not being funny
 

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I only attract overweight bytches :martin:

Edit:
Or maybe overweight bytches are the only ones confident enough to approach me first :wow:










:camby:
 

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they don’t have to be hoodrats as he specified but I definitely agree with his sentiment overall about relationships feeling like a chore to me…I know for many it’s not and that’s absolutely fine and sincerely plausible…but for me relationships are agonizingly boring…the way the idea of running around messing with different women all the time disgusts some men is the way being in a relationship with just one women disgusts me
 
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