I agree. Life is what you make it. If you don’t have a plan going into adulthood, or have any sort of idea of who you are, the chances are slim to none that college will help you discover that.
To be honest, I blame this on the parents of children who fail to expose their children to the bounty of what life has to offer. Poverty is a frame of mind. I grew up poor and largely was unaware of being poor because everyone around us were in similar circumstances. Once exposed, I was able to figure out what I wanted and needed to get out of life.
College to me is a place to network and hone your skills, sort of like a scrimmage or practice for the real world.
I'm not anti college, but I feel you have to be strategic about it. Just going to figure it out later is too expensive. I feel that my education is a good investment that opened opportunities I wouldn't have been able to get with just experience alone. If I could do it again, I'd do 2 years of community college for gen ed requirements, use the community college network to gain experience, finish up the last 2 years of college. I think 4 straight years through will cause burnout, hell anything more than 2, you can lose focus and purpose.
I agree with you that parents are part the blame as well, but many of them only know one way. My mom retired from the state government after 25 years. She still has a part-time job, so she collects her pension, social security and the pt job money. She's comfortable in her old age and that's what people did in her day. I'm not trying to way until 60 something LOL! I know if I keep my debt low and pimp out these degrees and certs, I can earn a salary to create some serious cash flow that I can use to fund other businesses. Yes, I know if I were a white male, that salary would be $20k+ more, but I cant worry about that.