Come post some Internal thoughts you have that might make black people view you as a sellout or c00n

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Idk who is to blame for this, but black women should have never been made to think their bodies are commodities. As black men yeah, we have testosterone ect so biology overrides logic. But we shouldn't have supported, stripper/hoe culture.
(Rabbit hole money says we may have been raised by a person who was in it or about it.) But we should have said, nah ya'll ain't gotta do that earlier.
 

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See this is the problem.

We want to halfway be honest with ourselves while at the same time being dismissive to what other people say.

We need to stop pretending like it's just "some"

And you're right.
It is my problem.

Which is why I'm not in here attempting to change black women or their attitude.

I'm just sharing my experience.


I'm not being dismissive and I'm not trying to change your experience, I simply did what you did but from a different perspective. How is it you can share you negative experience with black women but I can't share my non negative experience with black women as a black woman? You took it is an attack, it's not. It's a different experience.

Maybe this is why you have issues because you internalize things and get offended when your point is countered with an alternative. I also agreed that some of us are exactly what you're describing aka acknowledging your experience yet you still took offense. Make it make sense.
 
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Elaborate please.
I think it’s a “keep up with the Jones (Jonesettes)” type of thing. The effort some young women put in to 1. Get pregnant and 2. Get rid of the father is noticeable. I’ve seen groups of young mothers ostracize other women for not having a baby yet like “u not grown, u don’t have a baby yet”.
The notion that u should be married first OR be financially stable before u have a baby isn’t even considered.
It’s pretty fukked up.
 

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:mjpls:Why don't yall build middle/affluent Black communities?
:mjpls:They usual move where no blacks are.
Nothing wrong with wanting to move to the burbs or rural area to get away from the hood bullshyt and fukkery. Folks need to stop hating on brothas and sistas who just want a better life and peace of mind for themselves and their kids.
 

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I'm not being dismissive and I'm not trying to change your experience, I simply did what you did but from a different perspective. How is it you can share you negative experience with black women but I can't share my non negative experience with black women as a black woman? You took it is an attack, it's not. It's a different experience.

Maybe this is why you have issues because you internalize things and get offended when your point is countered with an alternative. I also agreed that some of us are exactly what you're describing aka acknowledging your experience yet you still took offense. Make it make sense.
Well that tends to be the course of action once a man, specifically a black man, shares his experience.

Dismiss his perspective or give an example of how what you've experienced is the opposite.

At the very least you can see how that can be perceived as dismissive?

This is why alot of black men choose not to share their experience at all.

And what alternative did you counter to my point?

That black women are strong?
That I can't handle them?
That I need a kid glove wearing woman?

I agreed with all of those.
 

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I think it’s a “keep up with the Jones (Jonesettes)” type of thing. The effort some young women put in to 1. Get pregnant and 2. Get rid of the father is noticeable. I’ve seen groups of young mothers ostracize other women for not having a baby yet like “u not grown, u don’t have a baby yet”.
The notion that u should be married first OR be financially stable before u have a baby isn’t even considered.
It’s pretty fukked up.
But why be single if you can help it?
 

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I think being a baby mother/father is more respectful than being a wife/husband to the young generation

I remember in high school i knew 4 classmates who got pregnant

My parents didnt have me until they got married and they had me a year later

To this day they still married and me and my brother still dont have any kids yet
 
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