Cousin mentally breaking after Mother in Law moved in

[MajesticLion]

This is really the only effective answer

There is soooo much bad advice in this thread

Breh has to COMMUNICATE.
Tell his wife how he is feeling and then go for the “ask”. The ask is key .

“Babe, you know how I am. I need my space. I’m here all day working from home and I’m struggling with your Mom doing x,y, and z. I know she’s struggling with her health but things can’t continue this way. How can we work together so that I get the alone time I need?”

There’s no guesswork,no ambiguity,his wife knows exactly how husband feels and by coming to a solution they both agree on , they reinforce their bond.

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

Married two years and multiple family members have tried to move in?

What kind of family did he marry into?

Prolly mexican

 

[Prince.Skeletor]

It's family, it is what it is
He should fix it through the wife
And make her force shyt and he not ask her directly

 

[Cat piss martini]

me: yo mama got the upstairs smelling like a damn monkey cage.
her: lower your voice!!!.....she may hear you.
me: dikk run this house.....mind yo damn tone.
her:
me: how much longer you think she got to live?
her:
me: ok ok....i'm sorry that was fukked up.
her: i'll talk to her.
me: good because i kicked the dog thinking he pissed in here.
her: really....i'll talk to her.
me: and act like a nikka got option and go cook something.
her: oooooookaaaayyy!!
me: and spray something.....burning oil aint cuttin it.

 

[get these nets]

Prolly mexican

I meant what kind of value system does the family have, not ethnicity/nationality. OP mentioned that everybody in the story is of the same ethnic background.

 

[⠀X ⠀]

It doesn’t sound like they have kids. He should tell his wife to get her mom in check, or he’ll have to re-evaluate their marriage.

 

[Htrb-nvr-blk-&-ug-as-evr]

Why that reaction? Those homes can be pretty nice

Man I wish I had the space for something like that…that would be my shyt right there..

 

[Coli Bot]

Man some or yall clearly never been in an adult relationship. As if its just that easy to say no to your wife's sickly parent.

Best thing you can do it just stay single and free because once you get in a serious relationship you immediately have to make sacrifices like this.

 

[The_Sheff]

Bruh it's one thing if someone is elderly but if she has mental issues they don't have the capacity to give her the care she needs. That's going to ruin your cousin relationship and the marriage will fail.

Do they have kids? Once you have kids you absolutely need some space where you can relax, your cousin gonna go crazy if he doesn't get that when kids show up.

 

[Zero]

Put antifreeze in her collards.

 

[Guile]

Tell her she has to stay in her room and clean it during the work day.

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

This the type of shyt that makes you enjoy single life.

you said breh sitting in a car for 2 hours??

to avoid going to his own home??

 

[Big D Bangston]

2 options:

Option 1. Set some rules in place so she AND wifey understand.

Example:

(To Wife) "Look now, i really don't mean to be inconsiderate, but im gonna need mom in law to get it together".

(to Mom in law) "You are not that down bad to where cleaning your room is difficult. Please, respect my house and clean up after yourself. i love you, but being ill does not release you of being considerate of others. This is the living area, to be shared by EVERYONE. You are welcome to come in to relax, but we have furnished a nice area for you to have to yourself. i please ask that you would enjoy that area instead".

Option 2. Convert the downstairs into your office. If she finds a way to fukk with you there, then there is always the nursing home.

 

[BuckFilly]

that bish need to hit the road

 

[spliz]

As a man. He shouldn’t be the one telling his wife’s mother this and anyone saying otherwise either isn’t married or don’t got no home training. Lol. But his WIFE DEFINITELY should be checking that shyt at the door. That’s his wife’s job right there. And it’s his job to put his wife on her job.