Bruh I have stories
My ex wife didn't like for me to touch her because she said I always wanted sex...I was like I'm attracted to you this a problem?
Last LTR ...she was sexy as hell too...rub her ass she hollering stop it...then eventually complained that I'm not affectionate enough...
Bottoming women don't know what they want
There has to be some middle ground folks.
Jokes yes, but there's some truth in there, for men and women, especially those who may be 'neuro-divergent' and get overstimulated. For women on here who have had kids, I'm sure they would tell you that there are times where you can get really "touched out" and overwelmed to the point where your husband just groping you at random doesn't register as flirty, it just adds to all the stimulation that she's been trying to find some space away from.
So no matter what your title is or how long you been married, COMMUNICATE, being a good lover and good partner is never a done deal. Today might be overstimulating and she may need space, tomorrow she may need extra touch and validation.