The other 90% can marry a man that is at a similar place in life mentally, financially, and physically.
Water seeks its own level. The average BM isn't fit and thus doesn't deserve a fit woman. The average BM salary is 42k, he doesn't deserve a submissive woman because he cannot provide for her. Many of the BM on this forum need/desire leadership from a random unproven man on YT so it's clear they dont possess the leadership characteristics to be head of household. Many men don't have the discipline required to manage themselves let alone another person.
Many men want fit feminine cooperative submissive when while being broke, basic, uncultured, undisciplined, and dysfunctional. It's not any different that a broken, broke, unfit woman wanting a fit, financially elite, masculine leader.
The delusional men and women (which are most) need to stop complaining about not getting a partner they can't qualify for and be realistic about what they are and they type of person they should be with.
Side Note: you said women cheat more than men then said men cheat at 28% vs women who cheat at 24%
That 90% of BW that are not high-quality women are left to the men who's not in the 10-12%, the average BM (and even they are starting to reject these women in the 90% because these average men want the same traits that the BM that's in that 10-12% group wants)
Here's the issue, that 90% of unqualified women want those 10-12% men and they can't get these men to marry them because those women in that 90% are not wives and don't posses the things that these men want.
They don't know what these men want, you can't get the man you want because you don't know what he wants. This 90% group of women don't come with batteries and warranties like the other 10-12% do. Your next paragraph aligns to what I am saying and that's the problem. The average black men make 42k, that 90% of BW who are not high-quality women overlook these 42k BM and want to muddy up the waters and bring their baggage non wifey material and fukked up traits to these men who are in the 10-12%. Many of the women in the 90% class are "fun girls" If you don't think the average BM is good enough for you, what makes a BW who do not have the qualities of a high-quality women think that a BM above average wants them? when they are not above average?
We have to be truthful about our state we are in as a community, the shyt is really bad, and it's not bashing BW, it's saying that the ways, look, and whole shape up needs a do -over.
In your paragraph you are equating money with leadership, (your talking points come from the mindset of the 90% of women that don't want the average BM) and that's the problem. Before 1965, those black men were making far less than 42k, some had 3rd -8th grade education, but you know what they had too, a wife and family. Those men had women (their wives) to submit to them, wash their uniforms, have a cooked meal, taking care of the home, etc. bringing him peace. Those men with less were leaders in their household. Those men were raised by men. You can't have men being leaders when over half of the men come from single mothers. The average man makes 42k, more than what the average BW make which is around 36k, and she shyts on the average BM like he's beneath her?
Those black men who are dysfunctional, full of emotions, broke, lazy, undisciplined, basic, I bet you your life savings, I bet you a higher % of these men come from single mothers. I bet you most of these men were raised by single mothers. Single mothers carry all of these traits that you described that these men are. They pick these traits up from that single mother. The sass and all. I can almost tell when I'm going back and forth with a male poster on here to know if he was raised by a single mother, grandmother and if his dad was around 75-100% of time, by the way they response to certain things. It's starting to become more and more clearer who raised who. It's no knock, it's just how things happened.
Men who are the opposite of these traits usually had a father around 85-100% of the time. And if you wanna say that these men fathers should have been around to help raise these men so that they wouldn't turn out this way, I will challenge that notion and say that the woman should have MARRIED BEFORE SHE CARRIED so that she could have been a wife and had a husband to teach her son these things so that he wouldn't be that man that you are describing, instead of being a Baby Mama. Men who come from 2 parent household tend to be the opposite of what you're saying the men are now.
There are some men who are strong men that come from single black mothers, but if you were to compare that man's story and a man who had a father, who guided him throughout his childhood, teens and early adulthood in most cases, the comparison would be night and day on how those two men look at the world and interact with people.
I agree with your last statement. We need to go back to what has worked. What we are doing now and how we think is not working and it's producing sassy ass men, the next 20 years will tell it all, these women that are single mothers are having sons and making them look like the nikkas that they want. (shyt is sad). She's raising him to be the very men that she complains about. It starts with the woman though. She has to know how to pick a man. A woman has to know how to be a wife, she has to teach her daughters how to be a wife, she has to want marriage before she carries. If a man doesn't want to marry you, you shouldn't be having raw sex, you shouldn't be wasting your time with buddy, especially if you were raised to be a wife and you want a husband. Waiting until you're 30, 35 to have you first marriage is stupid. You wanna ride dikk in your 20s and then wanna settle down when you're past your prime and wall, stop. Those women of the past did no such thing, majority of them didn't.
Yes, if you factor in social media attention that women get, they cheat more than men, Women are the ones who DM boxes are field, they are the ones who respond to DMs, Hypermangy is a real thing. If this wasn't the case, then why women keep their SM and friends (males) when they are in a relationship? Why women usually have more males as friends/followers than females? They want the attention and the shyt that comes with it.
