Dating Life After Losing Weight

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These type of threads always show how much people HATE being evaluated on there looks.

Being more fit affords you better opinions. People give you SO MUCH grace when you look good.

I made a post on here last year where I said something along the lines of

"I stay in shape because if I didn't I would have to be nicer. I ain't trying to be nice."

:pachaha:I stand by that shyt.
 

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I don't think yall watched this short clip... son was COMPLAINING about going from never being an option to women to tapping at being option #2 at the highest.

He's learning despite the weight loss, the game is still the game. The remedy to his situation is to put that phone down, get off the net and take your ass out side and meet real people. :ufdup:

Women choose very quickly if they are feeling you in person (from my experience :ehh: )
 

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What's the hang up about being someone's number 1 or 2 or 3.

That is just such a weird way to think about attraction. Do you really need someone to pick you above every person on the planet immediately?
 

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I guess I’m confused about his complaints. Do you go outside or are you fully dating online? That’s important.

I don't think yall watched this short clip... son was COMPLAINING about going from never being an option to women to tapping at being option #2 at the highest.

He's learning despite the weight loss, the game is still the game. The remedy to his situation is to put that phone down, get off the net and take your ass out side and meet real people. :ufdup:

Women choose very quickly if they are feeling you in person (from my experience :ehh: )
I’m thinking this post is pretty spot on and may be a thread ender. Bro I’m married, but these women be outside! I know they’re looking for guys, get your ass out there and work lol.
 

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Everybody is attractive to somebody. People glow up so they can attract the folks they want sniffing around them.

Long story short everybody is shallow to some degree. Looks matter. But unless you're a 3'6" edition of the Elephant Man somebody will rock with you. Now will it be the person you had in mind....?
 

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Wrong :mjlol:

In what universe are we only referring to a face when they talk about attraction?

Ya'll literally post about ass all fukking day.

There is a 20+ thread of a woman who ya'll literally describe as looking like a "ghoul." A motherfukking ghoul.

:mjlol:
I NEVER said "only".

And you're right when it comes to men at least. Most dudes will fukk any damn thing.

I've always said that women had more standards for looks than men.
 

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People stress themselves out too much dwelling on bullshyt. You're someone's 2nd choice? Well find someone who will make you their 1st choice.

And I bet dude would do the same thing if he had multple options. That's he reality of the world. Stop worrying about who fukking who and worry about yourself, life gets so much easier.
 

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So your family is supposed to teach you how the world will react to fat you vs skinny you in the current dating scene?


No your family lies to you :mjlol: You 350lbs and grandma asking if you got a girlfriend the 4th Thanksgiving in a row.:francis:
 

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Are you crazy?

There is no “current dating scene”.


Society reacts to fat people one way and fit people another way. It’s that simple.


Yea; if you have a 15yr old daughter who is a size 20 and all the girls who are being asked to go to the dance are a size 2- 10, it would be pretty realistic to have a conversation with her about health, fitness, and how society treats people who are deemed more fit than others.


You have high school aged boys going to the gym with their fathers because they understand the difference in how people in school treat the guys who are fat or scrawny vs the guys who are more tone.

YES. If you want to raise kids who can somewhat acclimate to society you keep it real with them.


The girl who rolls out of bed wearing pjs to school vs the girl who takes the time to put together an appropriate outfit gets treated differently too.


Yea.


You want to get those convos out the way before college because your child will be in for a world of pain.


Folks be wondering why “some ppl are late bloomers” or “some people don’t figure it out until they are later along in life”.
THIS IS WHY.

Because some people have families that actually prepare them for the harsh social aspects of society, and some people have families that throw them into the world and tell them to “figure it out” on their own.

These type of threads always show how much people HATE being evaluated on there looks.

Being more fit affords you better opinions. People give you SO MUCH grace when you look good.

I made a post on here last year where I said something along the lines of

"I stay in shape because if I didn't I would have to be nicer. I ain't trying to be nice."

:pachaha:I stand by that shyt.

Great posts

Adding that most people get told lies from they fam to prevent hurting their feelings

Which has big consequences
 

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These type of threads always show how much people HATE being evaluated on there looks.

Being more fit affords you better opinions. People give you SO MUCH grace when you look good.

I made a post on here last year where I said something along the lines of

"I stay in shape because if I didn't I would have to be nicer. I ain't trying to be nice."

:pachaha:I stand by that shyt.
Girl! I’m saying. I be telling people, as long as I’m not more than a size 6…it’s like I don’t even have to open my mouth. Life just happens.

It’s actually disturbing how shallow the world is, but that’s reality. wtf am I gonna do about it?!
 

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He was the wrong kind of fat should've played football...Olinemen and Dlinemen don't have them problems :unimpressed:

:stopitslime:

I imagine quite a few defensive linemen don't have those problems. Lot of those dudes are tall and jacked.

Offensive lineman, though? I remember seeing those dudes with their girls in high school and thinking, "it's not something I would do."

If this is what being one of the best offensive linemen ever gets me...

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:stopitslime:

I imagine quite a few defensive linemen don't have those problems. Lot of those dudes are tall and jacked.

Offensive lineman, though? I remember seeing those dudes with their girls in high school and thinking, "it's not something I would do."

If this is what being one of the best offensive linemen ever gets me...

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He is clearly happy and bussin nuts so what's the issue? 🤷🏿‍♀️

Fat men should be playing football. That way you get self esteem and exercise and respect.
 
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