- Disloyalty, talking negative about you to other people instead of establishing a direct method of communication with you and only you. No one should know the issues in your situation except for the person that you have the issues with.
- Lies, "if you lie, then you cheat, if you cheat then you steal" . Nothing worse than catching a person in a lie because then you can never trust them with the truth. If they can lie to your face, then there's no limits to what other behavior they will engage in.
-"Energy vampires are emotionally immature individuals who have the sense that the whole world revolves around them. They are almost incapable of seeing things from another person's perspective. They often lack empathy" This type of person brings down your whole vibe. Feeds off negativity and drama. Their whole purpose is to mask in their own misery and take you along with them. I remember when I was taking a professional development class for work; I really needed to focus bc it was beneficial to my job at the time. I explained to the dude that I was with at the time, that our time together would be limited, how important it was that I be prepared to finish the course.. etc etc. It's like he deliberately wanted to distract me - started complaining about my work hours (staying late at the office), talking about how I wasn't being attentive; compare me to his friend's girlfriends as far as them making time (even though those women didn't have the same job demands or didn't work at all). always coming up with some reason to start shyt to "force me" to pay attention to him. Also dated this other dude- At the time, his life wasn't going so well with his business, started drinking a lot, always making the spot hot with cops watching. Some of the least productive times in my life have been during a relationship.
- Possessive has no life outside of yours. No interests, hobbies or activities that keeps them occupied.
- Self centered "it's all about me attitude"
- Emotional and mental immaturity, feel like you have to put them in adult "time out" constantly, by either ignoring or not responding to them because they are not acting rational or understanding.
- Never listens, only hears: if I have to constantly repeat my feelings or concerns and there still not respected.
- which brings me to the last point, if you feel that you are contemplating "ghosting" a person and whether their are too many disadvantages to engaging with that person. That's a sign to exit. Intuition says a lot.
- a person will treat you, how you allow. No one likes to be used or made to feel that the returns are not worth the time or emotional investment.
- too many female "friends" and for men, if a woman has too many male "friends", that means that you're not getting what you need from your personal relationship. Need friends or a rotation around to compensate for what's lacking or having someone on standby,
