Dating red flags/tips you learned over the years

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All @Booksnrain would have to look forward to is this:



:bpunimpressed:

I wouldnt wish that on my worse enemy.

 

[Youseenmywork]

- Too many male friends (usually means she likes male attention from various men so you will never be enough even if she ain't letting other dudes hit, she still gonna be flirting and texting these male friends telling yall business *I'm a male friend lol)

- Too much social media is a bad thing 90% of the time, another attention thing....she seeks validation from other people to make her day

- Her views on her father are pretty important, if she has a bad relationship with him she'll have toxic/false beliefs on what a real man is since she didn't grow up with one

- A chick who has height requirements in 2019 tells a lot about how she views herself. Usually means she is insecure about her own height. Usually is always single cuz her options are limited and you can't really pick a mate based on how tall they are and think it will last.

- First time you go to her house and it's dirty and she doesn't offer you anything to eat or drink, she wasn't raised right. Not wifey/mother material.

This is one I'm tired of hearining. I'm not saying this cause I'm 5'9 I'm saying it cause ive caved in some tall nikka chest in my time and Ive had my chest caved in. Women haven't stop thinking that being tall equals safety. If a women would do her goggles it would tell her that the average male height in America is 5'9.

 

[Youseenmywork]

[QUOTE="xoxodede, post: 34458311, member: 26179"]- he watches and donates to Tariq Nasheed or any YouTube "Black Manosphere"

- he always brings up my or anyone else's skin-tone/skincolor -- or he says he only dates "light-skin or brown-skin baddies" - aka Colorist

- he brings up how he doesn't like his woman to wear Headwraps or Bonnets to sleep -- even though he doesn't know if you do or not. And doesn't care that sometimes you may need too.

- he compares me to his ex's - good comparison or not.

- talks or lets me know about his favorite IG Thots, Pornstars or anything sexual without me inquiring

- he makes comments about getting me pregnant. Not cute.

- he is on some #alllivesmatter or #allvaginasmatter

- he watches reality TV shows and plays a lot of video games

- he always asking for a picture or to take a picture - and even when they see you all the time. Like why?

- he makes comments about my shopping habits or things I buy.

- he goes out to the club still -- or more than once a month.

- His crew consists of celebrities and male thots.[/QUOTE]


This anit it ...lot of education in the black manosphere. I can name the men and I don't follow Tariq like that he's hit miss ...

 

[Youseenmywork]

Expound further please.

Are you against the idea of submission in general? Or more so against the idea of submitting to someone not worth submitting to? Or do you see his constant mentioning it as an insecurity, a projected expectation with no concept of what it entails he does?

Don't worry women submit one way or the other . I can't believe I'm 30+ and that is a trigger word lmao. My grandmothers and aunties used that word when I was coming up but then again they went threw the civil right era to...

 

[ViShawn]

I blame masculinity being eliminated from modern culture....

But you keep mentioning thing like "fukk raw"... at the same time you dont like someone politically conservative...

You know if you dated someone who is conservative, you might eliminate some of that aint shyt behavior, right, darlin'?

I actually think being too liberal / leftist is a red flag. So many women I've went on a date or two started bringing up politics and I had to shut them down on stuff like immigration and abortion.

Many of them have that "doin' me" sex positive shyt going on too. Not to mention can't cook I personally want to start a family so I'd prefer someone with more socially conservative values. Not in everything of course.

 

[Youseenmywork]

Red flags:

• She has an adversarial relationship with her mother-, even if she talks to her mother almost everyday.
• She has no female friends.
• She thinks deep convos (art, science, philosophy, history, etc.) are pointless.
• She keeps interrupting/talking over you.
• She has a job but is constantly asking for money.
• She has no furniture.
  
• Her bed is a mattress on the floor; has no bed frame.
• She mistreats her kids.

Pointers:
Black Panther's Anti-Incel Guide for Success With Women :blackpblessed:

 

[Youseenmywork]

Don't fukk with a chic who don't hit the weight room or care about her health. Same goes for men. If you go be in this game you gotta know it's a marthon not a sprint.

 

[Youseenmywork]

@ this laundry list
I'm only guilty of the bolded
I dated a couple of latinas when i lived in Miami and Costa-Rica and i dont workout these days

What's wrong with dating interracial or bi-racial ?

 

[ZEupTWN]

Sorry breh but coffee is a friend zone date. Nothing more. At least movie can give you a little intimacy.

I've known to many people who go a long way with the basic shyt.... Especially if there a busy person and don't have the time to plan out a real date at the moment...Starbucks or coffee shops in general just so happen to be everywhere and convenient....Personally I wouldn't use it for a real date but if i want to have a basic meet up to get a proper feel of the other person and see where there head is really at and go from there with the more serious stuff....hard to get a real feel for a person period through text, call, dm's especially if you met them and got the there contacts on a first encounter....


I'm not too picky though cause I know I got my flaws, but signs of sensitivity or any type of dismissive attitude is a automatic no go for me.....

 

[x2y]

This one may not be as common but a MLM peddling female is red flag.

Mary Kay, Beachbody, Primerica, Herbal Life etc keep those hoes away from your friends and Family.

 

[Youseenmywork]

Nah. Men been like this since the beginning of time. I give men hell but I recognize a lot of the silly shyt that comes out of their mouths comes from them being biologically pressed to reproduce.

I think societies are currently crumbling due to the reckoning from men having been able to run amok for CENTURIES.

All the "boys will be boys" bullshyt, messing over chicks in their youth but feeling entitled to a good woman who will wait hand and foot on ya, while u cheat and go start another family across town, but get back in the kitchen shyt is gone.

Now people who were dependent on that old paradigm don't know what the hell to do. Because the social safety nets are gone. You actually have to be a genuine person and cant feel entitled anymore. And dudes are literally shooting people over entitlement.

Women are smirking arrogantly, but that shyt works both ways b/c a lot of women aren't used to operating outside of victimization and learned helplessness. It's an adjustment for them too...and many don't know what the hell they want in the face of all these new options available to this generation that previous generations of women couldn't even fathom. Women's rights never had anything to do with trying to act like excessive promiscuity and a lack of integrity equals "EMPOWERMENT!" bytch please. Meanwhile all these "empowered" chicks STILL can't find the will to tell a dude "nah" and keep gettin finessed by random dikk who could care less about whether they are breathing beyond the nut they leave in em.

We go from one extreme to the next until equilibrium is found.

In my heart of hearts, I think men and women can benefit from this social reset and find people they love not out of economic necessity but out of true and real enduring love and respect. But people are REALLY stupid and REALLY stubborn, so u see men doubling down on their woman-hate idiocy and women acting fukking nuts.

But as I said b4. We are watching evolution in the making. If men and women can't be sensible and learn to come together successfully, we will be going extinct. And we deserve it if something as simple as mastering mutual respect for one another is that much of a challenge.

This explains a lot ....

 

[ZEupTWN]

I actually think being too liberal / leftist is a red flag. So many women I've went on a date or two started bringing up politics and I had to shut them down on stuff like immigration and abortion.

Many of them have that "doin' me" sex positive shyt going on too. Not to mention can't cook I personally want to start a family so I'd prefer someone with more socially conservative values. Not in everything of course.

100% they can come off delusional and out of touch....You see this a lot with these transplants who move to big cities...Don't get me started when these goofy white bytches do it....

 

[Youseenmywork]

Only thing I disagree with is the first date being cheap as hell...Coffee is definitely not perfect breh, that is a friend zone date...

$100 for dinner reasonable so that's what I would aim for...

Pay for dinner test always been one of the best in determining a woman's quality...If you enjoyed her company and she makes a move to pay for it, you stop her and pay it yourself...If she doesn't make the move, she's a smash and pass and you need to determine if you can get the box tonight...If the answer is no, pay your half and bounce...

The other classic test is the passenger door...Basically get out, open the door for her and when she gets in pay attention to what she does as you make your way around to the driver seat...If she pulls out her phone its

Also if she pulls her phone out infront of you at any point and does not apologize she's ...

Naw coffee and tea is perfect cause trust it's other nikkas that have done nothing and ...NVM fukk it

 

[Youseenmywork]

I actually think being too liberal / leftist is a red flag. So many women I've went on a date or two started bringing up politics and I had to shut them down on stuff like immigration and abortion.

Many of them have that "doin' me" sex positive shyt going on too. Not to mention can't cook I personally want to start a family so I'd prefer someone with more socially conservative values. Not in everything of course.

Its funny cause I'm neither but it's funny to hear shyt about Republicans thoe and it be the same old tired shyt to...

 

[Canon]

If he is

-bitter
-no career
-plays video games excessively
-got kids and uninterested in being in their lives
-blames women for everything
-abuses drugs
-has insecurities about your career
-is a Hotep
-doesn't have a good relationship with his parents
-is a hoe
-incel
-can spend days in a dark room doing nothing
-lives in a filthy crib
-can't cook or clean
-seems irritated by u being positive
-always tries to bring everything back to sex
-is never genuine but always talking corny game
-can't be himself
-Hates on his own friends to make himself look good
-has encouraged a chick to get an abortion in the past
-lacks passion
-is willing to fukk u raw
-never accountable for anything
-doesn't have REAL hobbies outside of PSN
-seems controlling
-can't have an enjoyable conversation with u
-resents u for having any expectations of him but wants to fukk u
-is a single sperm donor
-gets triggered by this list


There are others...

how you meeting incels that stay in there room for days at a time?

stop trollin ho