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You shouldnt have any sympathy. I dont. Muthafukkas are idiots. It's above me now.And you still smashed her raw and nutted in her? Make it make sense.
Sorry to tell you but you're fukked. If she's acting like this weeks into the pregnancy, it'll only get 10 times worst. If you get a steady girlfriend or eventually marry a chick, she's going to make your life hell because it's not her.
This is why I find it so hard to have sympathy for people who complain about shyt they knew wasn't right from the jump. Y'all be ruining you own lives for a nut?
therewillbeboogienights
All Star
NO it's not. None of this is normal!
There's a lot of bonding that occurs during this period that OP will miss out on!! But then again ???? It seems like he's already chucking the deuces and leaving child rearing for the mom.
Guess y'all wanna learn the hard way from all the "Raw No Regrets" talk on here
Kyle C. Barker
Migos VERZUZ Mahalia Jackson
From what I remember babies need to be breastfed for at least 6 months.
Op would know that if he ever bothered to show up to those obgyn appointments lol
And he's shocked that she feels like she is going through this alone
therewillbeboogienights
All Star
like what?
You can't be srs.
Tbh I typed that wrong, I meant a "single" home as in 2 parents living together & the child doesnt need to split time between two homes.
That made soooo much sense in my head
Lol. Oops.
GnauzBookOfRhymes
Superstar
Listen to this breh, breh.
You're not a kid anymore so I'm not going to speak to you like a shorty. First of all congrats. No matter who the mother is or what type of person she is, or whether you are disgusted/ecstatic that she's bearing your child (DNA confirmation)
that's your child and as miserable as a lot of mfers are on this board sound about kids - and no lie there will be some crazy/angry/frustrating times, \there is literally no other feeling that can even remotely approach what it's like to be a parent. Your entire sense of being will change, and you'll develop an even greater sense of drive and perspective.
Right now don't trip too much, the hormone shyt is very real. And it's probably made even worse bc no woman wants to be going thru a pregnancy having to explain for 1,000 times (since EVERYONE will either straight up ask her, or at least wonder/gossip about it) that she and the father aren't together. She knows ppl will judge her for it, and even worse depending on her family. If they're the bougie type it's even worse. Aunts/Grannies and cousins gonna be asking her when they can meet the father...or be like "Oh I didn't know you had a boyfriend..." And her only response is
...."excuse me i have to pee so bad....!"Expect that shyt to last for quite some time...it might get better as you're closer to delivery date but to be honest it's one of those things that will most likely linger in the background of your relationship to her for a loong time (i would compare it to how people never truly forgive/forget if their spouse has an affair). And then knowing that you out there fukkin other hoes etc. That shyt makes it worse. But if you know already that there is no chance/desire for a relationship, as long as you're honest with her, then there's not much you can do except for making sure you are holding up your responsibilities. Don't throw it in her face and while she's pregnant just let her rant/rave. Don't fight with her - it's useless. Go extra distance and be as helpful to her as possible - not just because she's mother of your child, but because you're building up goodwill. Take her out when you can etc. Get her a groupon for some pregnancy massage.
In your situation, your goal should be to be that guy (and everyone knows someone like this) whose baby momma will say he's a hoe, a$$hole, cheater etc...BUT HE'S A GREAT FATHER.
Poor hygeine tho?
datnigDASTARDLY
catching pigeons
Guess y'all wanna learn the hard way from all the "Raw No Regrets" talk on here
Raw and regret is so much better, when the regret part is just the clean up
You are entirely too old for this. I do enjoy reading the choices brehs make based on p*ssy. Keep 'em comin
Gurrrrllll! Seriously!!!! If women really play they cards right, they could fukk whoever they want virtually free of consequence. Maintain a good stable career. Find a cool guy to build with or just chill by yourself. Live a happy life.And they don't even know it. Chicks volunteering for a life of self induced misery. I will never understand that shyt. Get a hobby, join a rec league, start a business, take some classes, shyt join the army. You can met so many men by just leaving the house. Why would you sign up for misery and stress for a man who doesn't want you. What a waste.
Do you know all the shyt we don't have to worry about compared to chicks back in the day?! Birth control and contraception switched the game all up. Economic opportunity gave women so many options!!!
Women gotta stop falling into traps of their own making. And they gotta stop listening to society and or feeling sorry for themselves. They legit letting opportunities pass them by.
If a nikka wanna fukk you but ain't got shyt to offer.
If a nikka even entertain the idea of raw sex.
If a nikka only text you at night.
If he say a lot but actions don't match up.
If he can't/won't commit.
If he ain't there when you need him.
If ya'll can't date or go out together.
If he playing games.
Want you to be a sidechick.
Why risk life and womb for a man who gon leave you anyway? These chicks must not know there are dudes who will do for them and they ain't gotta even mention sex!
I know chicks that are running the fukking streets these days. Ain't no excuse.
#Stopthemoonwalkhustle2019
ezrathegreat
Veteran
It's over breh. You just gotta make the best out of the situation.
Good enough to fukk and bust in but not to wife up and be in a relationship. Sucks to suck. Child support on its way.Ight brehs...i didnt expect it to come to this...but here i go
My ex from a year ago started fukkin wit me again at the top of 2019 n i got her pregnant. She about 12 weeks now.
At the start i let it be known that we will co-parent...and that I am still single. She said ok.
We opened a bank acct and thus far ive deposited $200 every other week for the baby.
I also call or text her twice a week to see if she good and whatnot...I just dont want to act as if I'm her man...because I'm not. Im her baby's father.
Shes a hair designer so she has concerns about her not getting federal benefits to pay her rent after birth. I let it be known that i dont want her to move in with me . because #1...my lease wont allow more than 2 tenants...#2...if i do change my lease...she would have to live with me for a full year (for the new lease of course)..and u already know what that situation would turn into...and #3..her mother lives 10 min from her! I suggested she move in wit her mom for the first 6 months of the childs birth and she immediately said no...So i already know the game she playin...n i aint playin that shyt.
I let her know the deal and she says ok
So at 6 weeks prego while im at Wal-Mart paying my rent she hits me with this text:
"I can't believe i got pregnant by a hoe u fukking suck"
I rebuttal appropriately and we continue as such.
At about 8 weeks...when we first visit our obgyn...she says
"I know u been fukking wit other bytches and its really been affecting me"
I'm like "Yo...ive been 100 percent straightforward wit u...never have i lead u on..i care about u and our baby...and ive held up my end of my responsibilities...so whats the problem"
Everything was gucci until I say I can have the baby with me 3 days out the week after 3 months
She then says "nah...imma need at least 6 months...maybe more because after hanging wit u for this long i know u be drinking and smoking weed on the regular"
Brehs...this chick would BRING weed and liquor to my crib n get lit WIT a nikka...where all them memories go?
Im like yo wtf...u really think imma treat my son/daughter the same as any other woman id have with me???" At this moment i realized there may be foul play at hand
I play it cool and she hits me back a few days later saying she just wants us to work together for the best of the baby...im like ight.
Now to this week. 12 weeks preggo. BM hitting me saying she feels miserable. Her friends dont wanna hang wit her no more cuz she preggo...she feels lonely...all dat. I speak wit my baby cuz who is preggo with her second child and she offers to help wit the baby shower...even sends a fb link to a group specifically for new mothers.
I send it to my BM hoping it will console her...she says "y would u send me this shyt"...and says that she's facing this pregnancy on her own...
Wtf brehs...not only have i been on time with all of my $200 deposits into the bank acct. I reach out 2x a week...and try my best to get to evey doctors appt. She then calls me an arrogant a$$hole and says "i dont get it".
I then come to the conclusion that she just bitter bc i let it be known off rip that i dont want a relationship with her. After i say just that to her she says im self absorbed!
I work full-time as an overnight dispatcher...and the day after our argument...she wakes me up with a text saying "I guess u forgot about the baby's first ultrasound"...mind u she hadnt mentioned it for nearly 10 days...and instead of doing so she complains about how her pregnancy is unbearable bc she doesnt get invited by her "friends" to Tyrese and B2K reunion concerts at the prudential center..she calls me an arrogant a$$hole...I then say yo...dont talk to me anymore unless its about a doctors visit...matter fact send me ALL the scheduled appointments...and if not i will get them from your older sister...whom she linked me with.
She then rebuttals with a "fukk you"...and says she will move to ATL (where her sisters live) from Jersey (where we from) after the child is born and put me on child support and visitation. I'm flabbergasted.
Thus far her sister said she will try to get her to come to grips with reality...but wtf brehs...someone with experience give a nikka some insight.
therewillbeboogienights
All Star
Gurrrrllll! Seriously!!!! If women really play they cards right, they could fukk whoever they want virtually free of consequence. Maintain a good stable career. Find a cool guy to build with or just chill by yourself. Live a happy life.
Do you know all the shyt we don't have to worry about compared to chicks back in the day?! Birth control and contraception switched the game all up. Economic opportunity gave women so many options!!!
Women gotta stop falling into traps of their own making. And they gotta stop listening to society and or feeling sorry for themselves. They legit letting opportunities pass them by.
If a nikka wanna fukk you but ain't got shyt to offer.
If a nikka even entertain the idea of raw sex.
If a nikka only text you at night.
If he say a lot but actions don't match up.
If he can't/won't commit.
If he ain't there when you need him.
If ya'll can't date or go out together.
If he playing games.
Want you to be a sidechick.
Why risk life and womb for a man who gon leave you anyway? These chicks must not know there are dudes who will do for them and they ain't gotta even mention sex!
I know chicks that are running the fukking streets these days. Ain't no excuse.
#Stopthemoonwalkhustle2019
THE SADDEST YET COMMON THING IS A WOMAN NOT VALUING HERSELF.
IT Can legit transform our path/ way in life.
From what I remember babies need to be breastfed for at least 6 months.
Op would know that if he ever bothered to show up to those obgyn appointments lol
And he's shocked that she feels like she is going through this alone
It’s actually recommended to nurse babies to at least 1 yr of age.