I understand what she was trying to do here, but she’s the wrong messenger.
Most people end up settling and outside of the Coli where everyone is not 6 feet, 6 certs, 6 figs most people end up settling in some capacity.
She’s an average woman that got her an average man that she can live with being with.
The only issue with that is when a person settles it will eventually show up in little micro-aggressions. A person be it man or woman isn’t going to be as cooperative with someone they settled for as opposed to someone they see as an equal or even more than them.
Long term relationships and marriages are a lot of give and take and sometimes you’re the one giving and while your significant other takes and other times you take while your significant other gives.
You’re never going to get 100 percent of what you want with hardly anything in life especially with something as complex as a long term intimate partnership, so you better learn to find a few things you can live with and a few other things you can’t live without. If monogamy is what you seek and someone is giving you 70-80 percent or better of what you need and want then you better seriously consider making that person your one.
There is no such thing as a perfect situation and in anything long-term you will eventually have to learn to live with some things.
I understand what she was trying to do here, but the message will be missed, because again she’s not the right messenger for this.