Dime Piece ‘My husband isn’t my type’

[FTBS]

Sistas have higher self esteem than other races of women (google for the studies).

It's counterintuitive, but higher self esteem can make you more resistant towards marriage. You are proud of yourself AND your accomplishments. Why settle down with a bozo?

Problem is that not all men are bozos. Plenty of good ones, but you have to put yourself in position to get one. You also have to recognize what a "good one" is. If you're waiting on 6'2", young Idris Elba clone that checks all boxes.....well, you're going to be waiting. The tippy top-shelf men have options and you have to COMPETE for those men. This is where some chicks get confused.

The average woman >> the average man. The top man >>>>> all others.

Why? Because a top man with looks/money/character etc., he can go for the baddies. He can go for the boardroom sista. He can go for the church sista. It's all a matter of preference.

Women tend to thirst after the same handful of guys, so they limit their own options. Fallback men no longer exist in large quantities. If you spend your youth chasing Jamal Chaddington, Regular Joe Breh will be long gone by the time you wake up.

If you love a 5'9" accountant with a heart of gold and a dad-bod, your chances are much better. If you insist on "better" you have to accept that you may never find The One. Even if you do, he might not be marriage material.

High self esteem will make you more resistant to unhealthy marriages or feeling like you have to get married if thats just not what you really want...not marriage itself.

If anything being focused on some perfect specimen that you can post on IG and make everyone jealous with is a symptom of low self esteem. Chasing dudes that don't want you and/or a relationship with you is a symptom of low self-esteem.

That said, this concept of women only accepting a 6'2 perfect jawline having, rich, famous, athletic, articulate man exists only online. If anything far too many women accept less than their worth. In some instances shyt is flipped and less than is actually put on a pedestal while the ideal is dismissed or even mocked (see: Ciara, Future, Russ).

 

[Wild self]

this woman is not even attractive enough to verbalize this.

 

[Wild self]

Ugly broads love bad mouthing their mates as if they're refined or the total package.

At least bytches of the social media era. Previous generations, ugly women that were married were on THEIR BEST BEHAVIOR.

 

[Rekkapryde]

TLDW: "I was use to letting guys out of my league pump and dump me, so after being married to my current husband, i had a hard time. I felt like I was just settling for less than my standards. Thus, I prayed to God to reset my standards, and he revealed that I am just an adjustable 5, which helped me become grateful that a man is willing to accept my basic ass and high body count."

 

[Rekkapryde]

bytch looks like Ed Lover in the face

 

[Rekkapryde]

Fall back men haven’t gone anywhere. These type of women are just treating those dudes even worse than before. If they come to reality, those guys are always there and that’s reality

They with fat white bytches

 

[IsThatBrothaMouzone?]

High self esteem will make you more resistant to unhealthy marriages or feeling like you have to get married if thats just not what you really want...not marriage itself.

If anything being focused on some perfect specimen that you can post on IG and make everyone jealous with is a symptom of low self esteem. Chasing dudes that don't want you and/or a relationship with you is a symptom of low self-esteem.

That said, this concept of women only accepting a 6'2 perfect jawline having, rich, famous, athletic, articulate man exists only online. If anything far too many women accept less than their worth. In some instances shyt is flipped and less than is actually put on a pedestal while the ideal is dismissed or even mocked (see: Ciara, Future, Russ).

Partially correct.

Women accept a lesser man (education, income, compatibility) when he's attractive and good at making her toes curl.

That's the real issue. They compromise on character when the physical is A+. They don't typically chase the guy that is A+ at everything but then a C in looks/sex.

When I speak of "chasing", I mean that women of all races will have one-night stands and take more risks with attractive men.

Female mindset = it was just sex. Gave it up easy because it's a nothingburger and he doesn't matter.

Male ("good guy") mindset = you let that broke azz nikka hit on the first night but I gotta jump through all these hoops just to get multiple dates WITHOUT sex?

Men value physical more because it's harder to get a woman to fukk around without offering commitment.

Women value connection and trust more because sex is easy for them to get but true connection and trust is tough. Selling sex to a woman is like selling salt water to a sailor.

That's the disconnect. Neither side is wrong. It's how we are programmed. Average men take longer to hit their peak. They can either wait it out or find a good woman early on and settle with a solid "7" instead of waiting until their looks/pocketbook is enough to get them a "10."

Average women can either wait it out for the guy who checks every box (during her prime) or grab a guy who checks the right boxes early on.

There's opportunity cost for each side.

 

[Wild self]

You win the Coli today.

You have urges to have your own Chris Brown or James St Patrick type of breh

Just admit it

 

[Wild self]

These two post might be the realest post I ever posted on the coli because BW keep proving me right


I am leaning towards cacs as her type but it wouldn't surprise me if she like hood adjacent men.....people thought I was being dramatic when I said majority of millennial and Gen Z BW don't like regular and nerdy BM (it's a difference between nerdy BM and regular BM) but TikTok,twitter and facebook proves me right every day Hell Gen Z BW don't even like BM that's not hood but know how to dress they call them "sassy" yall gotta understand BW code language and what they mean when they say they like men that dress "D BOY FRESH"

Thats a whole can of worms that the world is not yet ready for

These Gen Z broads grew up with the Chief Keef shyt and Future nonsense, and yeah, all them brehs with multiple baby mammas have the similar clout/swag/mouthpiece. Social conformity done killed and ended more bloodlines than the Crack Era ever did. Almost as if they want (black) evolution to be filled with mentally useless, but physically attractive, people in it.

 

[Wild self]

I see why actual dimes and bad bytches move crazy in 2026 you got a 2/10 woman like this talking as if she’s prime Nia Long.

At this point, you might as well approach the dimepiece broad as long as she isn't on that birdbrain behavior. It's actually easier and more tolerable than dealing with an average chick with an inflated attitude.

 

[BigMan]

I said this in the Pop The Balloon thread -

I wana see the guys they messed with who placed them on this “higher setting”

Or is it multiple guys with different qualities and they’re looking for voltron?

Cause they all can’t be fukking Boris / Idris / Skepta variants

most of these women are not even fukking with top tier dudes. they are getting dogged out, assaulted, given stds, being abused, getting pregnant by avg. brehs, criminals, unemployed ,homosexual, white, hobo sexual men etc.

 

[King Poetic]

The biggest problem with these ugly women is the ex cons, thirsty dudes who used they ass for a place to sleep and easy p*ssy gassed these broads up with lies “ oh baby u sexy, oh baby u thick, etc etc” and once them dusty nikkas found a better cat house to go to they bounce

But you can’t undo from these ugly chicks minds that they are not below average because they got fukked by muscle bound ex cons who told her lies

If dude saw her saying that shyt, he should bounce, bytch would immediately apologize and say im sorry because she wouldn’t find anyone else

 

[Wild self]

The biggest problem with these ugly women is the ex cons, thirsty dudes who used they ass for a place to sleep and easy p*ssy gassed these broads up with lies “ oh baby u sexy, oh baby u thick, etc etc” and once them dusty nikkas found a better cat house to go to they bounce

But you can’t undo from these ugly chicks minds that they are not below average because they got fukked by muscle bound ex cons who told her lies

If dude saw her saying that shyt, he should bounce, bytch would immediately apologize and say im sorry because she wouldn’t find anyone else

Simps come in all images and income levels. They ruined everything.

 

[MicIsGod]

They with fat white bytches

Pawgs winning?

 

[MicIsGod]

At this point, you might as well approach the dimepiece broad as long as she isn't on that birdbrain behavior. It's actually easier and more tolerable than dealing with an average chick with an inflated attitude.

This is actually really true. The more sensible women are usually better looking. Obviously, the idiots are louder and on the internet though