I don't know if Blk men/women react differently to colorism, but...
I do believe that colorism is a young person's thing..
I say this as a DS'd middle aged man who has experienced mild forms of colorism growing up..
As I got older I came to the conclusion that colorism is simply stupid!
Also, ppl who subscribe to it whether it be an alleged victim or perpetrator don't know jack squat about melanin therefore isn't worth my time dealing with..
As an adult, one doesn't have time to deal with nonsense. So what if someone isn't attracted to your skin complexion!!
You weren't meant for those ppl anways and why would you want someone who doesn't find you attractive in the first place?? Why are those ppl even worth living rent free in your mind??
EFF em!!
There are more than enough ppl who don't have a problem with your complexion including those who may not share your ethnicity..
At the end of the day, a person should love him/herself because no person will love them as much as they love themselves!
You are who you are and look how you look! It is what it is, chin up chest out! *shrugs*