Do Prenups actually protect you in a marriage?

[acuramdx]

Be naive brehs. Hold this neg. Welcome to the coli.

Damn. Ruthless.

 

[David_TheMan]

Prenups are followed at the judge's discretion.
Don't get married

 

[Ashley Banks]

If thats the case, then again, you didnt do your due dilligence enough. The person you're marrying, really shouldnt be that different to the person you're divorcing. If they are, it means they played you and you didnt do your homework. Didnt focus on the important things about a persons character. Didnt look at their track record etc.

Lol. Naive, Idealistic you can give me whatever label you want. I know I believe in the right thing, I believe in marriage done the right way. Meaning it be a connection of trust love and respect first and foremost between 2 individuals.

I understand what you mean, breh. But it's still a safe way to go. I used to be completely against it unless one of the individuals was forced to be a stay at home parent. But you never know how someone is going to act when they're hurt or their lifestyle is going to change.

 

[Apollo Creed]

I understand what you mean, breh. But it's still a safe way to go. I used to be completely against it unless one of the individuals was forced to be a stay at home parent. But you never know how someone is going to act when they're hurt or their lifestyle is going to change.

I honestly feel it should be mandatory before you can sign the marriage license.

If both people work then agree on what will be split.

If one person does not work and was to be dependent on the others income then agree on what happens you you split.

 

[Astroslik]

Lol, that comparison doesnt stick. But ok, for the sake of argument, if that is the logic, your 'insurance' to a marriage that lasts should be trust, love and mutual respect. Not some piece of paper. Your spouse is supposed to be the 1 person in your life you should be able to rely on.

I get that its hard to come across these days, because people get married too soon, for all the wrong reasons and to the wrong people. But I stand by my belief, marry the right person for the right reasons, do your due dilligence as much as you can. Doing this might not mitigate the risk of a divorce but it will significantly impact how a possible divorce is handled.

No you're insurance is there to protect your assets in the case something happens. You don't expect nor plan for that to happen.

Obtaining a prenup is purely protecting your assets since marriage is a business contract. You don't plan nor expect for a divorce to occur but you're future proofing it JUST in case.

 

[Astroslik]

@Cynic

 

[King of Creampies]

or can they be tossed out?

Is there now way to create a legally binding agreement that if a divorce happens the agreed contract will go into effecf?

When I got married I didn't sign a prenump BUT if you get out under 5 years then nothing can be asked for....especially if you didn't earn or go into debt with your marriage partner during that time.

I got out very lucky but can't say the same for cats who are married 7-10 years.

 

[Michael9100]

Why get married if you think you're gonna need protection from your spouse?

70% of divorces are initiated by women.....

 

[Apollo Creed]

When I got married I didn't sign a prenump BUT if you get out under 5 years then nothing can be asked for....especially if you didn't earn or go into debt with your marriage partner during that time.

I got out very lucky but can't say the same for cats who are married 7-10 years.

I assume this varies by state?

 

[Gold]

If thats the case, then again, you didnt do your due dilligence enough. The person you're marrying, really shouldnt be that different to the person you're divorcing. If they are, it means they played you and you didnt do your homework. Didnt focus on the important things about a persons character. Didnt look at their track record etc.

How old are you?
You sound like you are very young.

Life isn't a fairy tale. People are not 1-Dimensional.
The same person who is amazing might be a different person altogether if their mother dies of cancer, or if they lose their job and go into depression, or if they serve a tour and lose a limb.


You're basically implying that everyone who has ever had any marital issues or gotten a divorce was simply lazy in choosing their partner.
While i'm sure that is true in some cases, that is not true in all cases.

Once you experience more life and get into more serious relationships, you will realize that human beings are capable of more than you give them credit for, good and bad.

 

[King of Creampies]

I assume this varies by state?

Yeah because in Texas there is community property so everything is split down the middle but I never got divorced in Texas so I can't quote it.

I was lucky. We shared no joint bank account, had no kids, she has about 60k in student loan debt as I had none, she bought her own car and I made sure never to get into anything with her financially within the first year of us being married.

So when I left her my lawyer filed a summary dissolution since it was under 5 years we had been married. It was simple as that....

Would I get married again?

No.

 

[Sandy_Cheeks]

Lol. Naive, Idealistic you can give me whatever label you want. I know I believe in the right thing, I believe in marriage done the right way. Meaning it be a connection of trust love and respect first and foremost between 2 individuals.

No such thing.

 

[Seoul Gleou]

not getting married protects you in a marriage

 

[Apollo Creed]

Yeah because in Texas there is community property so everything is split down the middle but I never got divorced in Texas so I can't quote it.

I was lucky. We shared no joint bank account, had no kids, she has about 60k in student loan debt as I had none, she bought her own car and I made sure never to get into anything with her financially within the first year of us being married.

So when I left her my lawyer filed a summary dissolution since it was under 5 years we had been married. It was simple as that....

Would I get married again?

No.

If i understand correctly, the only time debt is taken on by a partner is if both parties put their name on debt. And also any debt brought into a marriage is responsibility of the person who brought it in (ie. student loans).

 

[King of Creampies]

If i understand correctly, the only time debt is taken on by a partner is if both parties put their name on debt. And also any debt brought into a marriage is responsibility of the person who brought it in (ie. student loans).

I just laughed my ass off reading this and tuna with crackers just went everywhere.

That was the FIRST thing she asked me to do was to help her refi her loans by putting my name on them.....and I DIDNT EVEN THINK about it until you mentioned this. She asked me the DAY after the honeymoon....no fukking joke....the DAY after.