Do women really not like being approached in public

[Eddy Gordo]

I don't like it but there's nothing you can do about it. It's just part of going outside. I wish adult men would restrict their advances to sexual marketplace venues, but I don't think that's going to happen.

It will. Give it a couple decades.

 

[Jerz]

This ain't nothing to be concerned about - because women shoot they shot in public too.. But we need to muster self control - and stop giving these women so much attention

 

[BlaqkSpliffin]

Precisely this is why I hate other men, or at the very least look down on nikkas that give quantifiable thirst. Idc if you holla on a dating app, irl, social media, if you watch porn, or use escorts. But voluntarily giving attention with no means/chance of shooting your shot or getting the girl ie. like, posting ig chicks on the coli LIKE SOME COLI USERS , or following ig models is shameful. Not even a transaction, pure attention charity.



Nothing you said is wrong, and I'm sure YOU realize the following, but MOST WOMEN don't. The fact of the matter is what you describe underlies the point that being nice guarantees you nothing, and all things being equal, unless you're one of the naturally/genuinely kind people in the world AKA less than 10-15% of humans; being nice takes MORE EFFORT than being apathetic, or moreover downright mean/cold. Therefore most people in this conversation, men, will be apathetic, or mean/cold. Most men start out nice (as society teaches), but a lack of success or poor experiences with women turns them to the latter, some are redeemed by good women, but increasingly in our current society men are not being redeemed, which is bad for a plethora of reasons. Granted, women aren't necessarily responsible for/have to care about these bad consequences on a societal level, but on an individual level, women do need to stop complaining about not finding "good men", when they only give men who have looks, game, and or money (aka variables that make women more disposable to them) chances.

Long winded but my 2 cents



This is my main issue as well, make decisions and live with them.



Come on breh, clearly no one gives a fukk, we just want them to STFU and stop telling the lie all men ain't shyt when you've only ran with ain't shyt men BY CHOICE, it's blatant lying/misinformation and it's sabotaging young women, and the future of society by proxy



Valid point in saying it deserves it's own thread



At risk of that train coming my way, or the vibes sent my way.... To a degree people choose how they are perceived. Theoretically if women wanted to run errands and not be bothered/noticed they can do what men do in those same situations and dress casual/low-key, not do make-up, and wear baggy clothes. The fact of the matter is they do care immensely about how they look, but only in hopes that certain people notice. To draw a comparison, as a breh, if I'm going to do business/hang out in a middle class or upper middle class neighborhood that's heavily caucasian, I'll wear chukka boots, fitted pants and a casual stylish button down/or top as opposed to a more comfortable outfit of pair of joggers, a t-shirt, and sneakers. Why would I wear that stuff, because I don't want to stand out and have white eyes on me more than I'll already get for being a breh in enemy territory. Conversely if I was going to the hood, I'd wear the joggers, sneaks, and t to blend/not draw attention.



For me, Idc if women LIKE being approached, to determine whether I do so, I care about if I have high chance of converting that into sex, a date, or a relationship, that's why generally I don't approach, because more oft than not as a 5'8'' in shape, early 20s, broke breh, I'm really just giving free attention, bc they ain't fw me like that

This shyt was just a wall of depressing ass text breh.

 

[Coli Bot]

Don't do it, just leave them alone. Your doing nothing but giving them an ego boost, they couldn't give a fukk about you.

Plus it makes you look pathetic, where's your self respect.

 

[Lord_nikon]

Women like being approached by men they find attractive.

yep

 

[MikeyC]

No one wants to bothered while out running errands. Imagine, as men, being held up at the post office cause some stranger wants to connect beyond saying hello. That shyt would aggravate you.

Now if a single woman is at the club, beach party, social event, etc... then respectfully approach if you want to.

But if she's not interested, she's not interested. Just like men shouldn't be forced to flirt with someone they aren't attracted to, neither should women be forced to flirt back with someone they aren't attracted to.

Lastly, please know that you may be hella attractive and she still might not want to talk to you. Happens all the time. Sometimes her friends will see this and be like "girl why you aint talk to him?" It could be a number of reasons: shy, already gave her number out too many times, you're too attractive, you remind her of someone, her mind is on someone else, etc... Just keep it moving.

That's a new one.

 

[Doomsday]

Lastly, please know that you may be hella attractive and she still might not want to talk to you. Happens all the time. Sometimes her friends will see this and be like "girl why you aint talk to him?" It could be a number of reasons: shy, already gave her number out too many times, you're too attractive, you remind her of someone, her mind is on someone else, etc... Just keep it moving.

Would you please expound on this?

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

This ain't nothing to be concerned about - because women shoot they shot in public too.. But we need to muster self control - and stop giving these women so much attention

I remember a few months back a breh on here said he don't even look at a chic if he doesn't plan to talk to her. I've been taking that approach lately

 

[hatealot]

That's a new one.

Shes right, I've seen females say this shyt my whole life. Many of em are automatically insecure because of the implication of dating a very attractive guy. shyt drives them crazy knowing that any given sunday the guy they dating can drop them and keep it pushing because they know, he knows he a attractive dude, they get bad wraps of being a playa type cat.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

As long as you are respectful and can take rejection it's fine. The worst is when you are out minding your business and get disrespected by a guy.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

No one wants to bothered while out running errands. Imagine, as men, being held up at the post office cause some stranger wants to connect beyond saying hello. That shyt would aggravate you.

Now if a single woman is at the club, beach party, social event, etc... then respectfully approach if you want to.

But if she's not interested, she's not interested. Just like men shouldn't be forced to flirt with someone they aren't attracted to, neither should women be forced to flirt back with someone they aren't attracted to.

Lastly, please know that you may be hella attractive and she still might not want to talk to you. Happens all the time. Sometimes her friends will see this and be like "girl why you aint talk to him?" It could be a number of reasons: shy, already gave her number out too many times, you're too attractive, you remind her of someone, her mind is on someone else, etc... Just keep it moving.

Once this gorgeous man approached me. Too bad homie had a big ass herpe on his lip. #accessdenied lol

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Shes right, I've seen females say this shyt my whole life. Many of em are automatically insecure because of the implication of dating a very attractive guy. shyt drives them crazy knowing that any given sunday the guy they dating can drop them and keep it pushing because they know, he knows he a attractive dude, they get bad wraps of being a playa type cat.

If you've dated enough very attractive men you'd know that they are usually the worst lovers with the most uninteresting personalities. It comes too easy so personal development is usually zero.

 

[Coli Bot]

Don't do it, just leave them alone. Your doing nothing but giving them an ego boost, they couldn't give a fukk about you.

Plus it makes you look pathetic, where's your self respect.

Let me expand on this because I don't mean be a p*ssy. What I'm talking about is an elevated level of not giving a fukk, being about your business and being just the right level of friendly and mysterious that you never seem like your forcibly approaching her but rather she just wants to be a part of your world and see what your about and your happy to accommodate her if that what she wants.

This means never really approaching women in the street but being visible to the circle of women around you and penetrating their circles and penetrating their friends circles and so on.

I could write an essay on this but I ain't got the time to drop those kinda jewels. Real nikkaz will understand what I mean.

 

[karim]

Sure it depends on the guy and women will make exceptions if the candidate meets her requirements but your confusion about why a woman would be bothered is exactly the problem. You hold the opinion that a woman shouldn't be bothered if you "do everything correctly" when none of that really matters if a woman is trying to get to her destination without fielding callers.

Imagine you're on a bus trying to get to work and a nikka is persistently trying to sell you life insurance, in his mind, he's very prepared, is clean cut, knows the policies and has his spiel down to 30 seconds, in your mind, you're simply not interested and it has NOTHING to do with him, he's not entitled to your time and you're not obligated to spend it listening to his pitch.

This.

 

[SadimirPutin]

How you look is always the biggest factor in how the approach is received............the more she finds you attractive on a base level the more you can get away with.....

caveat being dont be a total a$$hole thirstbucket