"Chicken wings and fries we don't go on dates"Speaking on dates in 2015
Do y'all keep a constant conversation on a 1st date?
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CinnaSlim
Queen of Swords
Nope, I'm good. Usually on first dates, if we click we tend to talk nonstop because we keep coming up with questions. There's an excitement/anxious energy getting ready for the date, becoming fully comfortable during the date, but usually on the ride home there's a comfortable silence as you listen to music in the car.Doesnt "comfortable" silences develop over time tho? When you are already use to each other? I dont think on 1st dates, neither party is at the point where an extended silence is "comfortable". Or atleast im not yet. Im usually rattlin my brain for something else to say.The "comfortable" silences comes a little down the line when we're a bit more used to each other
My point because I always have to make it simple and plain on the coli. Don't force conversation. Let it flow. Say what's on your mind.
I'm myself on dates. Maybe because I'm not trying to impress anyone, because I'm been on a bunch of dates or maybe because I meditate.
Don't yall get the chick's number beforehand? Don't yall talk beforehand? You should be used to conversing with a chick by the date.
hoodheronova
All Star
man hell no. I get that number, take 2 min to set up plans, then forget about the chick till it's time to meet her at the spot. The fuk I look like chauffeuring chicks first of all. Secondly she betta pay for her own chickin wings and fries cause I ain't sharing shytNope, I'm good. Usually on first dates, if we click we tend to talk nonstop because we keep coming up with questions. There's an excitement/anxious energy getting ready for the date, becoming fully comfortable during the date, but usually on the ride home there's a comfortable silence as you listen to music in the car.
My point because I always have to make it simple and plain on the coli. Don't force conversation. Let it flow. Say what's on your mind.
I'm myself on dates. Maybe because I'm not trying to impress anyone, because I'm been on a bunch of dates or maybe because I meditate.
Don't yall get the chick's number beforehand? Don't yall talk beforehand? You should be used to conversing with a chick by the date.
Like for instance, do ya'll try to make sure there's virtually no quiet moments? Other than maybe moments of eating food.
Or do you just let the convo happen & fall naturally
Personally, I try my best to keep it going the entire time or saying something funny so the girl laughs. Feels awkward being with someone new and the conversation hits a long down period.
What about y'all?
*oh wait, I forgot Coli nikkas are HOH when it comes to dates.
That's another reason why I would rather do an activity instead of having a dinner/eating date.
LOL
Some people wait until after they get into a monog. relationship to have sex.
Doesnt "comfortable" silences develop over time tho? When you are already use to each other? I dont think on 1st dates, neither party is at the point where an extended silence is "comfortable". Or atleast im not yet. Im usually rattlin my brain for something else to say.
There is a thin line between making conversation and trying too hard. She's right, the number one rule is the make the female feel comfortable enough to wanna have another date (or smash after that one
). If you're talking so much that the chick can't even think, she's prolly not gonna be in to that 
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I rarely ever shut up so its easy to talk to a female, Im highly social... I make up shyt to start a convo, my co-workers always clown me for it... If Im quiet people start to think somethings wrong...
I dont ask a bunch of questions though.. I just chit chat & see how they respond, I watch closely... I want to know her personality before her background because If she annoys me I dont give a fukk.... I get bored easy so a chick gotta keep my interest... & I pay for nothing, she pays for herself...
I dont ask a bunch of questions though.. I just chit chat & see how they respond, I watch closely... I want to know her personality before her background because If she annoys me I dont give a fukk.... I get bored easy so a chick gotta keep my interest... & I pay for nothing, she pays for herself...
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I need my partner to be able to share a comfortable silence. I talk a lot but damn, non stop?STFU.
Dudes be saying stupid shyt trynna fill the silence. It's ok to be quiet, sometimes we can vibe to the music. Just let the convo flow naturally.
What if he stopped talking and just started beating off at the table
the bossman
Superstar
Conversation rules the nation. As a man you better learn how to lead a convo. Havin a nice mouthpiece will open a lot of doors in life for you.
c/s. in the beginning stages it's all about the conversation. dinner & movies is for later down the line
Conversation rules the nation. As a man you better learn how to lead a convo. Havin a nice mouthpiece will open a lot of doors in life for you.
What does this even mean? Most of u African American males and some African men have a false consensus of what man is let alone what a man should do. I know the reasons why but at some point u got to wake up and smell the coffee
That's why women don't develop, cus y'all spew your bullshyt machismo crap and still end up losing cus your partners look to u for direction and when it's not there they move on to the next cus they themselves have none
Bottom line Op if u have to take a girl out to get to know her, then she already told u who she is by that alone. These hoes don't need a meal or convincing to know u
When these bytches are hungry and u ain't there who feeds them? they know how to get what they want but make u feel like they shy, inept so u can do all the work while someone else is doing less and fukking
Value urself, if u don't have it internally, get material things with value as bait and once u start seeing success ur will naturally develop a confidence that can stay with u for periods of time
Do not fall for the hoes u do get because if u need to have things to keep a bytch, when u don't have those things ain't no telling what she gun do.. so build urself up, and u chose, u are the prize, u are the one taking all the risks and if shyt hit the fan no one will feel sorry for u but people will trip over to help the female so do for self first
PhonZhi
Veteran
It means that havin a nice mouthpiece is not only essential to getting women, but also a valuable asset to have in life PERIOD. Having great conversational skills can have a below average looking dude eating. This is called sparking the mind. This is a fact.
PhonZhi
Veteran
Example? What was the content of these "forced convos"?
