Do You Know Anyone Close to Have Committed Suicide?

[newarkhiphop]

Cousin shot himself in the head last summer @ his work parking lot during lunch, day after he bought a house, two months before he was supposed to get married

 

[StretfordRed]

Yes

Care to go into more details? I know it maybe painful

Yes.

We were in the same class and his sister was in the same class as my sister, so we used to hang.
Their parents got a divorce, and it was really messy. His mama got custody of him, and his father
got custody of his sister so he moved away. Within the next couple of years he committed dat.
He was 17.

shyt, terrible age. My family member was 23. Only now I am finding more and more about the true reason he was upset as my family hid a lot of stuff from me as we were the closet and they were not sure how I would handle it

my homie did..yea its really hard..especially cause you don't get any closure..or start thinking about being there more for them..i honestly don't know how to deal with it

I think that's the hardest part for me. I couldn't even read the suicide note. Tried to blank that time period out of my head as much as possible

An old girlfriend of mine took her life last September. Left her husband and five year old twin daughters behind.
I felt bad for her then anger at her for what she did.

I started with anger, more of the "why my nikka have to do this". Like I was mad he never came to me or his family ever ask me for help. Just felt helpless. I still do

Neighbor 6 houses down killed himself last September

I know 2 people who committed suicide. One did it because he had multiple sclerosis and was in terrible pain. The crazy thing is I've seen people who have "cured" themselves through diet changes. He could have lived a normal life had he chose to educate himself.

The second dude was a Black Muslim who shot up a Safeway warehouse because he was being harassed about his religion at work. He took out a few people and then killed himself.

Jesus at the 2nd bit..

I've thought about it multiple times, but never had the guts to do it. As sad as it is, there is some "bravery" to go through with it and I would never judge anyone that felt it was their only way but would not encourage it either.

I could never could do it. There are multiple reasons mentally why, but I am form the UK and we do not have access to guns, which seems the quickest way to go. Aint never got slice my wrists or OD

Lost the closest person in the world to me due to suicide ...literally...not a homie or a friend or someone I knew...the most important person in my life

I don't know how comfortable I am going into too many details but it always hurts.

Breh . Just make sure you get it off your chest. DO NOT KEEP IT IN. It sent me crazy for years. Got me angry, depressed, anxious, destroyed relationships with my fiancee. It killed me

Yes. An Army buddy of mine suicided. A lot of us that new him took it hard, because he had gotten out and came across very rough times. In retrospect, I think I could have assisted him and took heed to the signs on his facebook wall. Taking people for granted and expecting strong men to be strong all the time is a culture that may have led to this.

I have been in this dark space personally before. Real talk, its a odd balance of freedom, fear and pain. This taught me to not run from those specific three things...but I self diagnosed and have since compartmentalized the strongest leaning to darkness on that particuliar spectrum. This is not suggested for others, I reserve this part of myself for my own analysis and possibly "emergency use" ...in a situation that requires self sacfrifice for specifically my offspring.

Yep. SUicide rates for men are rising. In most countries its top 3 causes of death in men because we do not talk. We're afraid to cry and ask for help. Such a vicious cycle

My dark space is still here. But my therapy session today made me so much lighter. She literally got me to say "he is dead". And I've never said it or heard it and I burst out in tears. I've never been so fragile and raw

I've had 2 close friends commit suicide , and have known or known of maybe close to a dozen more. In both instances I think it was a combination of many things that caused them to do so. In my own personal instance it was the ending of my career that made me contemplate doing so. I had everything ready but I guess my family had an intuition, my sister specifically ( she's a psychologist for the VA) and wouldn't let me out of there sight for the day. I was admitted against my will, ended up spending about a month and half up on the 6th floor of the Debakey VA hospital here in Houston.

I am glad you have someone to help. I am glad you never resorted to suicide as it reverberates all through your family and friends.

I know my family members never thought how it would affect everyone. But cot damn I've Never been the same and I don't know if I ever will be

Yeah...but I wasn't sad...I was relieved...ain't least they ain't suffering no more...

Cousin shot himself in the head last summer @ his work parking lot during lunch, day after he bought a house, two months before he was supposed to get married

Sorry of your loss breh.

Sometimes you have no idea until you get that call...

 

[Black Cobain]

I know a lot of people who've attempted or came close to attempting, myself included.

 

[Harry Sax]

I was around a family that had someone commit suicide... he was a police officer, one of the longest black officers on the force...but he was known to be nasty at times...cheated on his wife she was finally leaving him...he beat this dude up in the interrogation room while he was cuffed and it got plastered all over the local news...they brought charges up against him and was finna arrest him...the night before he seen all his children even ones he didn't see in years...the day of he arranged to be picked up from his house by the boys and when they got there he was sitting in the car with a gun to his heart...they tried to talk him down but he did it

Also when I played football I was a guard and my senior year my center was my dude wanza...he wasn't typical black, hung with the white boys, I think he was adopted and shyt, but he was pretty cool...a few years outta school he blew his brains out with a 12 gauge in a church parking lot

 

[Kilgore Trout]

I talked @Prodigal Syndicate out of blowing his brains out. Read my sig to find out why.

 

[Harry Sax]

Cousin shot himself in the head last summer @ his work parking lot during lunch, day after he bought a house, two months before he was supposed to get married

Y'all know why?

 

[TL15]

@HewittAve thanks for the suggestion. It was 5 years ago and I've gone through all of the appropriate grieving and it still hurts. I appreciate the help though.

 

[Dominic Brehetto]

I talked @Prodigal Syndicate out of blowing his brains out. Read my sig to find out why.

You're a pedophile. James Ellis.

 

[TransJenner]

Yeah female cousin 18

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Yes... And thats all i want to say about it

 

[ridedolo]

Never knew anyone who committed that and in this day and age, knowing what I know now, if I felt someone was going to I would distance myself as far as possible from the person for fear of a murder-suicide type of deal.

i never thought about it like this

 

[scarlxrd]

Yeah, was a dude that was friends with an ex-girlfriend.
He was gay and struggled with that shyt.
Ended up shooting himself in the head in front of the dude he liked but apparently didn't feel the same way.

 

[ridedolo]

"Yep. SUicide rates for men are rising. In most countries its top 3 causes of death in men because we do not talk. We're afraid to cry and ask for help. Such a vicious cycle

My dark space is still here. But my therapy session today made me so much lighter. She literally got me to say "he is dead". And I've never said it or heard it and I burst out in tears. I've never been so fragile and raw"

@HewittAve the good news is that its declining for black men

http://www.theroot.com/bucking-a-national-trend-suicide-rates-decline-for-bla-1790855067

A recently released study from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention has found that suicide in the United States has surged to the highest levels in 30 years, with increases in every age group except older adults and black men, reports the New York Times.

 

[Cant Ban The Snow Man]

Never knew anyone who committed that and in this day and age, knowing what I know now, if I felt someone was going to I would distance myself as far as possible from the person for fear of a murder-suicide type of deal.

Really, you only hear about this in love related crimes.

 

[BlackAdam]

my older brother in 2011 he was 29. We were really close as kids as we were only 2 years apart. Around 20 something in his brain fukked up and he went years without getting help. My family finally got him committed and we thought they would help him. 3 months later he shot himself in the woods behind my mom's house. They did diagnose him with schizo-affective disorder though.

I wont go into details (but it was a really fukked up situation where the "professionals" were anything but, for most it is just a job and they don't care about their patients) but the mental health system in America is really set up for the families of the mentally ill and not the person that needs the help. All they want to do is pump them full of drugs and then prescribe even more pills for the side effects. It really is a vicious cycle.

Miss my brother everyday and wish he was still here. Am glad he isn't suffering anymore though.