Do you think this is disrespectful?

[Maddmike]

Right like he hasn’t heard from his wife in a week and he’s just like

You got me wrong. I mean like if we divorce. Of course if my wife leaves unexpectedly for a week I'd be worried

 

[Ashley Banks]

You said the quiet part out loud, breh.

Women need to feel cherished. Like they actually need to believe they are the best thing to ever happen to us for some reason.

Anyway, it doesn't sound like you fukked up because as you said, you don't care whether she leaves or stays.

Not even that we’re the best thing that ever happened to you just that we’re important to you/a priority. Idk how you can feel secure in a relationship knowing that your partner doesn’t care about losing you.

I don’t even mean like you would be begging crying if she left but like how do you feel motivated to maintain a relationship/keep someone happy if you don’t care if they leave or go?

I can live my life perfectly fine without my husband so I don’t “need” him to survive. But I would be sad if he left, I would eventually get over it but I would definitely care and I do my best to make sure he doesn’t feel the need to leave.

 

[Sex Luthor]

Op you gotta turn down the logic and turn up the emotional IQ in times like this… unless you want her to leave.

That's like ignoring real life and pretending to live a fairytale life. It sounds good but at the end of the day it's not real. You can't live your life on emotion. That's not how life works.

 

[Cereal_Bowl_Assassin]

Not even that we’re the best thing that ever happened to you just that we’re important to you/a priority. Idk how you can feel secure in a relationship knowing that your partner doesn’t care about losing you.

I don’t even mean like you would be begging crying if she left but like how do you feel motivated to maintain a relationship/keep someone happy if you don’t care if they leave or go?

I can live my life perfectly fine without my husband so I don’t “need” him to survive. But I would be sad if he left, I would eventually get over it but I would definitely care and I do my best to make sure he doesn’t feel the need to leave.

I don't want to speak for @Sex Luthor but I think what you're saying here is in line with what he said in his original post

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Not even that we’re the best thing that ever happened to you just that we’re important to you/a priority. Idk how you can feel secure in a relationship knowing that your partner doesn’t care about losing you.

I don’t even mean like you would be begging crying if she left but like how do you feel motivated to maintain a relationship/keep someone happy if you don’t care if they leave or go?

I can live my life perfectly fine without my husband so I don’t “need” him to survive. But I would be sad if he left, I would eventually get over it but I would definitely care and I do my best to make sure he doesn’t feel the need to leave.

For me, it's like this.

She is important to me. Her happiness is important to me. Being in a relationship with her for the rest of my days is not necessarily important to me, however being in a relationship is a central component of her happiness, so I do it because her happiness is important to me.

Like if we didn't live together and I didn't have to spend hours a day listening to her complain, I'd be okay with that as long as she was safe and healthy.

Being in a relationship is not necessary for me to have happiness.

 

[Mindfield333]

That's like ignoring real life and pretending to live a fairytale life. It sounds good but at the end of the day it's not real. You can't live your life on emotion. That's not how life works.

Man… I understand that. My mom actually has the same issue. She’ll say stuff that’s her truth… but her emotional intelligence is so low, it’ll be hurtful. She’ll just double down and be like “ it’s the truth!”. I commend my pops for being around that bc it couldn’t be me. Tact is important. Everything doesn’t need to be said.

 

[NotAnFBIagent]

Actually we have a wonderful marriage.

The way I feel is how I feel about everyone. Even my mother. Being without someone and them not being in my life isn't something that bothers me.


Edit: I take that back. My kids are the only ones.

You share that girl

 

[Sex Luthor]

Not even that we’re the best thing that ever happened to you just that we’re important to you/a priority. Idk how you can feel secure in a relationship knowing that your partner doesn’t care about losing you.

I don’t even mean like you would be begging crying if she left but like how do you feel motivated to maintain a relationship/keep someone happy if you don’t care if they leave or go?

I can live my life perfectly fine without my husband so I don’t “need” him to survive. But I would be sad if he left, I would eventually get over it but I would definitely care and I do my best to make sure he doesn’t feel the need to leave.

This is basically what I'm saying.

If I want to be with someone I would 1000% be upset if they left. Even more upset than if I just needed them. Just bc I don't need her to survive doesn't mean I don't love or don't care about losing her. I want her in my life. If she's only there bc she needs me, what's going to happen after that need is taken care of?

 

[number21]

You're not wrong but your girl doesn't need to know how the sausage is made.

 

[JLova]

Can’t tell women the truth. Some shyt is better left unsaid to keep your own sanity in check.

 

[Sex Luthor]

You got me wrong. I mean like if we divorce. Of course if my wife leaves unexpectedly for a week I'd be worried

I think some of these answers are coming from people that haven't ever been in long term relationships. Once the honeymoon phase is over, we have to look at life and plan a future. If you never experienced that long term logic it's hard to understand

 

[Sex Luthor]

Man… I understand that. My mom actually has the same issue. She’ll say stuff that’s her truth… but her emotional intelligence is so low, it’ll be hurtful. She’ll just double down and be like “ it’s the truth!”. I commend my pops for being around that bc it couldn’t be me. Tact is important. Everything doesn’t need to be said.

I always had issues with my delivery. My parents never sugarcoated anything growing up. Some things are hard to hear but makes sense when you really think about it

 

[WaveWhisperer]

”He also said he isn’t afraid to lose her, how are you not afraid of losing someone you care for? “

I cant speak for homie. Imo its being content and comfortable to being by yourself ,the ability to be happy by yourself and enjoying the time yall together. If my girl leaves me ,will it suck? Sure but im not gonna be like “ please stay !!, i neeja !!!”


In time ima be ight? But i can have that mentality but at the same time do what i have to do as a partner to protect you and give a shyt about you. Everything aint a absolute.








“How can I trust someone to proceed me and love me if they tell me they dont need me and they’re not afraid of losing me and life will go on without me. Like damn, do you even like me. “

that i can understand but again its what you do when yall together

 

[SheWantTheD]

You might not need her now but if y'all have kids you are definitely going to need her.