BaldingSoHard
Banned
Ha, shyt. Damn man. My mother would've doused my bed in lighter fluid and set that bytch on fire if I said some shyt like that.
But, the 80's was a different time.
Do your kids validate your existence? Parents Only
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Ha, shyt. Damn man. My mother would've doused my bed in lighter fluid and set that bytch on fire if I said some shyt like that.
But, the 80's was a different time.
Hmmm. This thread made me look up the word validate (since there's more than one meaning) and one of the meanings is: confirmation - or to confirm.
So, I would say yes - my kids validate my existence. I'm glad I had them and the biggest compliments I get is how they interact with others. My kids treat others with kindness and respect, which makes me super proud. Especially since I was an a$$hole when I was young and had a lot of anger due to my upbringing.
It made me promise myself to not raise my kids in the type of environment I was raised in. When I enter a room, I like to leave it in the same shape it was in upon entering or better. For example, I went out to eat at a diner, I clean up my own mess (crumbs that fall to the table), organize all the plates neatly, to make it easy for the waiter to come collect it.
I have an 18 year old, a 13 year old, and a 6 year old. If they grow up to be in service of humanity (doesn't have to be something grand, it could be as a teacher, car mechanic, psychologist) then that's further validation of my existence. I just want to leave a positive mark on this planet, and if my kids contribute in that way then I can die a happy man.
With that said, a decent person with no kids has just a valid existence as a decent person with kids.
I think it gives new meaning to my life. Almost like I became a brand new person.
Being a parent made life better and my life was already pretty good. Most things I used to consider burdens or couldn't find the time to do, somehow has magically become easier and faster to do. I'm less ego driven and more focused than I was before. It's really been great.
More than anything though its tiring, cause I really use as many hours in the day as possible unlike before when I could chill longer, start later or finish early.
Being a parent made life better and my life was already pretty good. Most things I used to consider burdens or couldn't find the time to do, somehow has magically become easier and faster to do. I'm less ego driven and more focused than I was before. It's really been great.
More than anything though its tiring, cause I really use as many hours in the day as possible unlike before when I could chill longer, start later or finish early.
I'm an 80s baby as well. I'd be dead before that thought even finished developing in my mind let alone utter those words.
Ha, shyt. Damn man. My mother would've doused my bed in lighter fluid and set that bytch on fire if I said some shyt like that.
But, the 80's was a different time.
Yes.
I was a kid with a kid, who was trying to live the life my grandmother wanted for me. Then my living situation changed due to hurricane Katrina and I was on my own trying to do work and college full time.
Got burned out cause college was her dream for me, not mine. Work became a priority and by time I looked up I was 30 with another kid. Wasn’t starting over, so they became my purpose.
My passion was art and cars, but that shyt was ignored instead of nurtured by family. To them that was a hobby.
I was a kid with a kid, who was trying to live the life my grandmother wanted for me. Then my living situation changed due to hurricane Katrina and I was on my own trying to do work and college full time.
Got burned out cause college was her dream for me, not mine. Work became a priority and by time I looked up I was 30 with another kid. Wasn’t starting over, so they became my purpose.
My passion was art and cars, but that shyt was ignored instead of nurtured by family. To them that was a hobby.
DreadBrown
Feed the children
Damn bro that sound frustrating, sound like he has good examples around him though I’m sure you’ll keep pushing him towards the right path
My boys are both under 10 still I wonder what fukkry the teen years will bring sometimes
Had my 1st son at 29 and now expecting another son in a few months. Last year got life insurance and now looking to add more policies because you never know what the future holds and I would hate for them to struggle of I not around. I didn't have my father around growing up, so with that being known and felt, I will continue to do my best with my current son(age 6) and looking forward to raising both my boys as time goes along.
dealing with the same except he's not a teen anymore. He's the definition of lazy and procrastinator but wonders why his younger brother has surpassed him. Same upbringing, one has had ambitions and goals since he could talk (was always out cutting grass, playing drums and saving money). The other the exact opposite. Now he's 24 and everything we tried to teach and guide in the past (that was ignored) came back and took a chunk out of his behind.
RickyDiBiase
aka Hash Brown Hands
Whats crazy breh is the bolded is how me and my father are
Damn. Is he taking corrective actions now at least? Are you still involved/supporting him?
Interesting
How do you feel about your pops? Are you able to look back and appreciate his efforts, or do you resent him?
yes I would like to think so infact I know so. I had my first kid (daughter) at 22. She handles herself like an adult but still looks up to us. Now I just had a son he gonna be 2 at the end of May.
GoAggieGo.
getting blitzed.
Yes. My kid is my reason. My purpose. I do what I do, work as hard as I do, so she and any future seeds I produce can live a life better than I have lived, and so they can become productive & honorable members of society. It stopped being about me as soon as her mother and I learned she was coming.
