Does Any One .... Want Kids But Not Want To Be Married Or In A Long Term Relationship

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Diyhai said:
i never got the longterm relationship but no marriage
you already done once you have the kid and live together
to me you might as well get married
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Guess it depends on the situation and person you have kids with. Like my boy is not married but has two young kids and lives with them and his girlfriend. They not married and he doesn't believe in marriage. Yet he loves his kids and will be there for them no matter what if he gets separated from his girl and would even help her out just so his kids don't suffer. They both make decent money. My other boy is married to my friend. Don't know what kind of marriage they got and it must've been thru the courts or something since there was no wedding but whatever. They also have two young kids and she has an older daughter from before. But he works and she barely does, maybe a small part time she doing now but for the most part its him. So if they get divorced he gonna have to end up paying for it. Plus he makes not even half of what my other boy makes and his girl controls all the finances. She basically takes control of the money and I remember a thread in here not long ago about that type of thing. I got love for both him and his girl but if shyt goes wrong then its harder on them then my other boy and his girl cuz of the situation they in. My boy that not married has a great job and owns a home. My boy that is married has an ok job and struggling to pay rent and bills on a monthly basis. Everyone situation different and things can change at any moment in life. But marriage isn't always the best option, but it depends on the person.
 
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mannyrs13 said:
Guess it depends on the situation and person you have kids with. Like my boy is not married but has two young kids and lives with them and his girlfriend. They not married and he doesn't believe in marriage. Yet he loves his kids and will be there for them no matter what if he gets separated from his girl and would even help her out just so his kids don't suffer. They both make decent money. My other boy is married to my friend. Don't know what kind of marriage they got and it must've been thru the courts or something since there was no wedding but whatever. They also have two young kids and she has an older daughter from before. But he works and she barely does, maybe a small part time she doing now but for the most part its him. So if they get divorced he gonna have to end up paying for it. Plus he makes not even half of what my other boy makes and his girl controls all the finances. She basically takes control of the money and I remember a thread in here not long ago about that type of thing. I got love for both him and his girl but if shyt goes wrong then its harder on them then my other boy and his girl cuz of the situation they in. My boy that not married has a great job and owns a home. My boy that is married has an ok job and struggling to pay rent and bills on a monthly basis. Everyone situation different and things can change at any moment in life. But marriage isn't always the best option, but it depends on the person.
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the women are in control in both situations
him not being married not gonna say him from child support
then she gonna use the he wouldnt even marry me in court so its an L either way
have a friend doing the same with his girl 6 years 2 kids not married :mjlol: I think him not getting married is like him holding on to his last bit of freedom
nygga you done if she decides leave and hit you with the child support you will feel it
 
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Anyone thinking this was is selfish.

Children shouldn't be born for your benefit, because they have no choice in how they are raised. They need a two parent household, and financial stability.

Marriages can end, but I would never purposely put a child in a single parent situation, just because I wanted a child.
 
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Diyhai said:
honestly most men dont raise kids they just provide
kind of his point
would be there financially and part of their life but being with one woman the rest of his life is not something he is interested in
he would even take his kids for long periods probably a better situation than most kids are in
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even if the mom is the one raising the kid the most the dad offers protection. plus, who wants their kids raised by an overly stressed out woman. the mom just gonna be mad all the time :unsure:


abuse is higher in single parent homes. if running thru women is more important than his kid's safety, then he doesn't sound fit to be a parent. just live the bachelor life


:gucci: so he won't be in the home cuz dads don't raise kids, but he's willing to take them for long periods of time? can't he just be in the home and step it up for long periods of time like he was planning to do anyways? like weekends+summer he's in charge of kids activities

i'm not knocking single parents who find themselves in this situation via divorce or "unplanned pregnancies," but your friend seems so odd to want this.
 
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Right. I would assume a man that wanted to get me pregnant but not marry me wasn’t planning on sticking around.
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I dont think most pregnancies are planned :pachaha:I would say maybe 10%
Im talking about people that love their girl not getting married
some people are just making wise business decisions cause they already trapped
50/50 on the rent, no child support, in house pussc and cheating with other bytches
is better than telling a chick the truth paying full rent no p*ssy and child support
nyggas making business decisions, cut ur losses :russ:
 
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even if the mom is the one raising the kid the most the dad offers protection.

"Children who live with a single parent that has a live-in partner are at the highest risk; they are 20 times more likely to be victims of child sexual abuse."

plus there is other abuse besides sexual that happens. if he can't even put his child's safety over his own selfish wants, then he doesn't sound fit to be a parent.



:gucci: so he won't be in the home cuz dads don't raise kids, but he's willing to take them for long periods of time? can't he just be in the home and step it up for long periods of time like he was planning to do anyways? like weekends+summer he's in charge of kids activities
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if you have a quality woman you dont have to worry about those things
he not gonna get a bum bytch pregnant
the point is he doesnt want a to be with one woman
he wants to be free to be with other women
so he doesnt have a problem with her getting married to someone else or taking care of the kids
just doesnt want to be tied to a relationship
he would even hire a nanny to take care of the kids while they were young
 
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Diyhai said:
if you have a quality woman you dont have to worry about those things
he not gonna get a bum bytch pregnant
the point is he doesnt want a to be with one woman
he wants to be free to be with other women
so he doesnt have a problem with her getting married to someone else or taking care of the kids
just doesnt want to be tied to a relationship
he would even hire a nanny to take care of the kids while they were young
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so what exactly is the difference between your friend and say...Future :shaq2:
 
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Inb4 you all start talking about how single mothers ain't shyt and the fault of the black community for the 2349th time. If you want kids, just adopt or if you have baby fever, just go volunteer at a place for at-risk youth. For Christ sake, stop continuing the cycle of dysfunction and then start crying that it's not your fault. Stop creating more broken black families that will be guaranteed permanent underclass status. Stop it.

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LeetStickMcGee said:
Inb4 you all start talking about how single mothers ain't shyt and the fault of the black community for the 2349th time. If you want kids, just adopt or if you have baby fever, just go volunteer at a place for at-risk youth. For Christ sake, stop continuing the cycle of dysfunction and then start crying that it's not your fault. Stop creating more broken black families that will be guaranteed permanent underclass status. Stop it.

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how is this about single mothers
he wants a kid of his own but not a long term relationship
broke bum ass single mothers are the ones people complain about
and bitter dudes who were probably raised by them do the most complaining
 
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